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- Hey, welcome to Crossroads.
My name is Andy Reider
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and you're joining us in our
series Leave Lies Behind.
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Now, we've been unpacking
some of the false messages
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that we pick up in culture
and contrasting those
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with the truth through
the lens of the Bible.
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And that song, the Good News,
says it really plainly
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that Jesus loves you.
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Yeah, we believe
that here at Crossroads
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and we're going to be diving
into that more and more today.
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Right now, though, we're going
to start our time in worship
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as we continue singing
songs about God and to Him.
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And whatever you believe
about God or church,
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whatever your comfort
level with all of this,
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hey,
we're just glad that you're here
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and just encourage
you to lean into this time
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and into this music as we
sing these words together.
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- Lord, that's our prayer.
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God,
would You bring Your Kingdom?
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And would you help us to
understand what that looks like
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and what it means, God?
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As we sing to You,
as we make claims
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that we'll surrender to you.
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That I pray that You'd make
Your Kingdom more known to us
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and how we're a
part of that Kingdom,
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bringing light to the world,
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walking in the
way that Jesus did
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because His ways are better.
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They're better for us in ways
we haven't experienced before.
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So, Lord, would You help
us to see Your goodness
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and help us to follow You.
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Even when we're unsure what
it looks like or how to do it,
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well we just start with a prayer
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that You will come in and
let Your Kingdom come.
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God, I love singing to You.
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You're amazing
and You're worthy.
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It's in all this we pray.
Amen. Amen. Come on.
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Hey, why don't you find somebody
you don't know around you
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and give them a high five,
tell them your name.
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We're one big family here.
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And then you can have a seat.
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- You need more
fun in your life.
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Don't worry.
We've got you covered.
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The annual Super
Bowl of Preaching
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is right around the corner.
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Don't let the word
"preaching" fool you.
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This isn't for your
grandparents,
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unless your grandparents
are into pyrotechnics!
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No idea what the what the
Super Bowl of Preaching is?
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No problem. Amazing
tailgating experience. Check.
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Incredible event energy. Check.
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Spectacular halftime show.
Check.
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Hilarious Super Bowl
commercials. Check.
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Questionable officiating. Check.
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This is the most fun you'll
ever have in a church.
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Join us for the Super
Bowl of Preaching.
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Service times and
locations at Crossroads.net.
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For decades,
Super Bowl Sunday has been
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the least attended church
weekend of the entire year.
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Why? Because, let's face it,
people would rather
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tailgate than attend
a church service.
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But what if you
didn't have to choose?
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The Super Bowl of
Preaching is the answer.
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It is a can't miss event
that's become one of
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our most viewed and
most meaningful services
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of the entire year with
tens of thousands of people
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tuning in and showing up.
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It is the perfect mix
of epic trash talk,
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of hilarious and
fake commercials,
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of over the top bad officiating,
and most importantly,
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truth that can actually
help your life get better.
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This year, the fun kicks off
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on Sunday,
February 9th at 8 a.m. eastern
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with a live stream that you
can watch from anywhere.
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And this is a perfect
opportunity to invite
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your friends,
your family to watch with you,
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or you can even host one of
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our Super Bowl of
Preaching watch parties.
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In it, you will find a
unique experience
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that's as fun and meaningful
as it is entertaining.
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So don't miss a chance to laugh,
learn,
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and maybe even
cheer a little bit.
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Thanks for joining us.
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Let's hand it over to our
Senior Pastor Brian Tome.
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- Man,
it's going to be a good day.
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Are you ready for this? [cheers]
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Yeah, I hope you are.
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I got something
to talk about that
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I'm really,
really excited to talk about.
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When I tell you what it is,
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you're probably not
going to be excited.
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But hang in there,
because by the end
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of our time together today,
I think you might
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come into a place of freshness,
a place of wholeness,
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a place of healing,
a place of just joy
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that you might not have
been before you came in today.
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We're talking about grace.
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It's our fourth time
talking about grace.
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And I'm going to
be looking at grace
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and the prerequisite of grace,
which is sin.
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Oh, yeah.
Let's pray about that. Okay.
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God, thank You for our
time and for Your truth.
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And I'm asking, God,
as I dig into this,
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man, this really,
uh, difficult thing
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that we don't want to
want to think much about
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and talk much about,
that You would meet us
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in a great place and You'd
bring us to a great place.
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And I ask You to help me to
be clear, not just compelling,
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but most importantly helpful and
in alignment with Your truth.
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And I'm honored, God,
I'm honored that I get to talk
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about transcendent,
important concepts like this.
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So I hope You're pleased.
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And I pray these things
according to the character
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and identity of Jesus. Amen.
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All right. In the book of Romans
3:22, here's what it says:
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Young. Old. White. Black.
Yellow. Male. Female.
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All. All who believe.
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There is no distinction:
for all have sinned
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and fall short of
the glory of God.
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No distinction because
all of us who sin.
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What does that mean?
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Sin means there's
this person of God
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and His glory and His goodness,
His love,
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His perfection, His standards,
and we all fall short.
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No distinction.
No distinction on who He is,
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no distinction on who we are.
We fall short.
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And then it continues.
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Grace, a gift,
justified, we fall short.
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We are justified, it's a gift.
Man, it's so good.
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You know, there's
words that we like to say
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and are pretty common to say.
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Words like mistake,
problem, issue,
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a shortcoming I may have,
and I have--
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I have all of those and more.
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Let me tell you something about
some of the mistakes I've made.
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When I was in high school,
man, I don't know
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how I literally lived
through high school,
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and I don't know how I
got through high school
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without literally
killing somebody.
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I was a hard, hardcore drinker,
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and this was in the day
when you could drive drunk
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and you weren't supposed to,
but like,
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it wasn't a big thing back
then and a lot of us did it.
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Graduated in 1983,
and I remember many, many times
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pulling into my parents garage
with their Chevy Citation,
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hands on the wheel and going,
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"Wait a minute,
how did I get here?
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I don't remember anything
from the party until here."
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Terrifying and stupid
and indefensible.
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It was a massive, massive
mistake, to say the least.
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And then going into
and through college
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and in my 20s,
I made a lot of mistakes
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as it related to
just personal drive
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and personal discipline.
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I didn't have a lot of drive.
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I didn't have a
lot of discipline.
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I skated my way
through everything
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and took shortcuts in everything
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and didn't want to do
anything that was difficult.
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And of course,
studying would be difficult,
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so I didn't want to do that.
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And somehow, crazily, crazily,
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not only did I to
get an education,
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I got jobs and I get
paid really, really well.
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Thank you very much
for your generosity.
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I would have never,
never thought that
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I would have had
any level of drive.
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And no one knew me
thought I would have
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in college and my early 20s.
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It was mistakes, I had issues.
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I still make mistakes.
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A couple months ago I made
a whole series of mistakes.
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I'm a hunter, I love hunting,
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and so I have these deer cameras
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and they take pictures
of deer that I want to kill.
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Here's some of them right here.
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These guys, man, these guys,
I had their number.
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I wanted them badly. Badly.
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And going after these guys,
I made a mistake --
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I've never made as many
mistakes hunting as I have,
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a lot of mistakes,
and probably because
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some of you are praying
that I don't get a deer.
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I know what you're doing.
I know, I know.
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Some of you are really
bothered I'm talking about this.
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I probably should
stop talking about it
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because you're all praying,
or many of you
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are praying that
I don't get a deer.
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Well, God said yes to
your prayer because I --
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Actually He said
yes to your prayer
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of me not getting a big buck.
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I got two doe's anyway
because the meat is amazing.
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Fantastic. Isn't it gamey?
No, it's freaking awesome.
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No, no hormones in it.
Just grass fed. It's phenomenal.
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Anyway, all kinds of mistakes.
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But, you know, it's one thing
to talk about our mistakes.
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It's another thing to talk about
this three letter word sin.
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Sin is the truth that
God has a standard
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and I don't meet it.
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God wants me to be here
because that's where He is,
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and I fall short of that glory.
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Sin is there's a bull's eye,
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and I miss the mark
on that bull's eye.
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We miss the mark
on that bull's eye.
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And here's the thing, no one
wants to talk about our sin.
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We want to talk
about our mistakes.
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We want to talk about our
challenges, our problems.
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All that's fine. But my sin?
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And let me tell you why we don't
want to talk about our sin.
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It's because we don't
understand grace.
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The more you understand
the amazing grace of God,
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the more you embrace
the powerful, mystical,
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awe inspiring truth
of the grace of God
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that He loves and
gives mercy as a gift.
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The more you understand,
comprehend, and embrace that,
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the more comfortable you will be
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talking about your sin
and dealing with your sin
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because your sin no
longer is a source of shame
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and something that scares you,
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because it's cloaked, it's
covered by the grace of God.
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That's good news.
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At any moment, if you
want to clap, you can do that.
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And maybe this is an entirely
new concept for a lot of us.
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You can't clap at all because,
"Wait, I don't understand."
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I know you don't understand this
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because this is really,
really strange.
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There's nothing in our
current cultural context
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that helps us to
understand grace and sin.
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And there's two lies,
if you will,
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two lies that are on opposite
ends of the spectrum,
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but they're both far, far,
far, far away from grace.
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The first lie goes
something like this,
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and you may believe this,
even if you've never said it.
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"I'm an understandably
flawed person
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who just needs a few
helpful spiritual principles.
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That's all I need.
We're all flawed.
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We all make mistakes.
I'm under --
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And all I need is a few
helpful spiritual principles.
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I get them from Jesus,
or I get them from Buddha,
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or get them from whoever it is."
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That's actually
a line that comes from
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the Christian
psychologist Larry Crabb,
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who spoke here at
Crossroads some time ago.
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He died a few years ago.
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But this is kind of
where normal America is.
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We're that way like, "Hey, sin.
Woo, hey,
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whoa whoa whoa whoa,
let's-- So don't. Stop.
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Repentance? Whoa, whoa.
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I'm not that bad. I'm fine.
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I'm flawed like everybody else,
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I just need a little
oomph of spirituality."
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Then the other extreme,
it's also a lie,
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goes something like this,
"I'm horrible,
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but I'm trying to work it out."
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This comes more likely
from somebody who identifies
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as a Christian,
somebody who goes to church.
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We're like, "Yeah,
sin, I get it. I am that.
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I'm horrible.
I've done some horrible stuff.
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I am a wretch. I am a worm.
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I embrace that identity
and I'm trying to work it out,
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trying to figure it out, trying
to do all the right stuff,
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trying to invite people
to Super Bowl service,
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trying to volunteer
as a Kids' Club.
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Trying to tithe,
make a push for 10X commitments,
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separate my recycling,
all that stuff.
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I'm trying to do all
the -- all those things."
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And all those things are fine.
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All those things are good to do,
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but those things are not grace.
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Those things won't
get us over our sin.
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Constantly reminding
myself that I'm horrible
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and I don't match up, may
be true that we don't match up,
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but it's not true because
God has grace for you.
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He has love for you.
He has mercy for you.
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He has acceptance for you,
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even when we don't understand
how that could possibly be.
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This is the core of Jesus
message, in the book of Mark,
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the very first thing Jesus says,
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the very first thing He teaches
when he goes public is this:
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We've shared this before,
and I'm going to give it again,
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because sometimes we forget.
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And this ties right into
what we're looking at here.
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All right. Let's say -- let's
say we have a time frame.
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I want to make this a little
bit a little bit larger here.
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And of course it just went
away on me. There it is.
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Let's say we've
got a time frame.
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Goes kind of like this.
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Jesus says the time is at hand.
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There's two words for time in
the ancient world or in Greek.
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The first word for
time is chronos,
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which is where we
get chronological from.
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It's chronological time.
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So on our timeline,
chronological lines,
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time is that repeatable pattern.
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Seconds become
minutes become hours
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become days become
weeks become months
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become years become
decades become millennia.
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Right?
That boom, boom, boom, boom.
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But that's not the word
that Jesus used here.
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When He says the time is at hand
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He's talking about another word.
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That word is the word kairos.
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And that word is the sense of,
bam, oh my gosh. Boom.
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Something at a moment in time,
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at a point right here,
something happened.
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So Jesus says the time has come,
meaning, bam!
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At this moment here the Son
of God has come to the world,
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God Himself has taken on flesh,
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and the grace of God
has become physical. Bam!
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There are moments for you
where something will happen
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and you'll see something about
God you weren't expecting to.
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You'll feel something about
God you haven't felt before.
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You'll understand something
you haven't understood before.
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Tonight,
if it hasn't been already,
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tonight may be a
kairos moment for you.
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It's like, boom,
something just happened.
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What happens when we
have one of those moments?
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Well, let's follow the pattern,
the pattern of Jesus here.
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He says. Uh, He says
repent and believe the gospel.
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So what we do
is that kairos hits,
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we kind of circle
up a little bit.
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Go, "Whoa, whoa,
let's go around the circle.
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Let me -- let me
think about this."
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What has taken place here?
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There's two parts of repentance,
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he says repent and
believe the gospel.
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Gospel is good news.
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Repent. Repent means
to change your mind.
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Repentance,
the word there in Greek,
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which this is written in,
is metanoia.
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Meta, change; noia,
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which is where we get the
idea of noggin or your mind.
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Change of mind.
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So when I'm going this
way and I change my mind,
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I go, and I change my mind.
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And when I change my mind,
I change my thought pattern
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and I change my direction.
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So when we repent,
that means we do things,
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like we reflect, we notice
something, uh, we think,
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what just took place?
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There's mental things that are
happening, maybe there's regret.
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There's these things
that happen in our mind.
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And then when we refocus,
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I could probably put
that up there too, refocus.
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When we refocus,
we go a different direction.
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Where you look is
where you're going to go.
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If you look inward all
the time at all your pain,
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00:33:20
guess where you're going to go?
-
00:33:21
Inward in all your
pain all the time.
-
00:33:23
If you look back at
your past all the time,
-
00:33:26
guess where you're
going to live, in the past.
-
00:33:28
You're going to go in the past.
-
00:33:30
Wherever you look,
wherever your mind's eye goes,
-
00:33:33
that's where you go.
-
00:33:34
So if you're going towards
an area of rebellion,
-
00:33:37
not just a mistake, but an
area of rebellion towards God,
-
00:33:40
you're going to go towards that
-
00:33:41
and you're going to
go away from God.
-
00:33:43
And then you're
going to have all other
-
00:33:45
kinds of things that happen
when you go away from God:
-
00:33:48
loneliness, depression,
sense of rejection,
-
00:33:52
a sense of isolation,
a sense of powerlessness.
-
00:33:55
These are all things you get
when you're separated from God.
-
00:33:57
No wonder we feel
this as often as we do.
-
00:33:59
But when I change,
when I change my mind,
-
00:34:02
repentance, repentance.
-
00:34:04
This isn't an idea of
somebody on a street corner
-
00:34:07
who's holding a cardboard sign,
who's yelling
-
00:34:10
and screaming
judgmentalism at us.
-
00:34:13
Repentance is a beautiful word.
-
00:34:14
It's like, "Man,
I'm going the wrong way.
-
00:34:17
Boom! I'm changing my gaze.
I'm changing my mind.
-
00:34:21
And instead I'm going this way.
-
00:34:25
This is where I am moving.
I'm changing.
-
00:34:31
I'm going from death to life."
-
00:34:35
Yeah. There you go.
Someone's getting happy now.
-
00:34:37
Right. So I'm coming up.
I'm coming up
-
00:34:41
and I'm coming
around the circle.
-
00:34:42
And I come around the circle,
my trajectory gets changed
-
00:34:46
and I come out
on the other side.
-
00:34:48
This is what the gospel is.
This is what grace is.
-
00:34:51
God enables us to do things
-
00:34:54
and see things that
we hadn't seen before.
-
00:34:56
Charles Duhigg in his book The
Power of Habit, he says this:
-
00:35:11
You're all here today at
whatever campus you're in,
-
00:35:15
whatever site you're in,
whatever home,
-
00:35:18
bar or coffee shop you're in,
you're in there.
-
00:35:20
And if you're watching
it with anybody else,
-
00:35:22
you're leveraging
this right now.
-
00:35:24
You are leveraging
the power of a group.
-
00:35:27
You're experiencing
something in a group context.
-
00:35:30
And in a little bit
I'm going to give you
-
00:35:32
something to do
in a group context.
-
00:35:33
I'm not going to tell
you what it is right now.
-
00:35:35
If I told you right now
you'd be really freaked out.
-
00:35:37
But over the next ten minutes,
I'm going to soften you up
-
00:35:40
and you're going to
find out what it is. Okay?
-
00:35:41
But this is tracing
to this truth that
-
00:35:45
we have to do things
of potency in community.
-
00:35:50
Psalm 32:1 says this:
-
00:36:13
When I kept silent,
when I kept it to myself,
-
00:36:16
when I kept thinking internally,
when I kept going inside.
-
00:36:19
But when I brought
it out to somebody,
-
00:36:21
when I confessed to somebody,
-
00:36:23
when I brought it
out into the light,
-
00:36:25
there could be health and
there could be wholeness.
-
00:36:33
See, we have these
these things in our world,
-
00:36:38
in our life that I think
are very harmful.
-
00:36:41
We have these phrases
that we've just taken
-
00:36:44
as normal phrases
in our culture.
-
00:36:48
Phrases like you be you,
live your truth.
-
00:36:55
Don't let anyone tell you
-
00:36:56
who you should be
or what you should do.
-
00:36:58
All these phrases
they're reminding us,
-
00:37:02
"No, you're your own person.
-
00:37:04
Just stay inside of yourself
-
00:37:06
and don't listen to
a communal sense.
-
00:37:09
Don't do that at all."
-
00:37:11
And all of these
things are outside
-
00:37:13
the power of community,
the power of grace.
-
00:37:19
And when we do talk
with somebody, we tend to
-
00:37:22
just keep rehashing
the old things
-
00:37:23
and bringing up
all the old problems.
-
00:37:26
I have a mistake,
I do something,
-
00:37:27
something happens to me
that shouldn't happen to me.
-
00:37:30
Like, I don't know, a gerbil
peed on me or a gerbil --
-
00:37:33
A gerbil licked me
and now I lick people.
-
00:37:35
Let's just make one up.
-
00:37:36
A gerbil licked me once,
now I lick people.
-
00:37:38
And now we got, I got
this problem. This problem.
-
00:37:41
It's not a sin. It's a problem.
It's a mistake.
-
00:37:43
It's a pain point.
-
00:37:44
And so what I do?
I talk about it,
-
00:37:46
I go to counseling about it,
-
00:37:47
they patch me up and I go,
"Okay, good good.
-
00:37:49
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah,
yeah, yeah, I think I'm good."
-
00:37:51
And then something
happens and I'm triggered
-
00:37:53
and I go back in, I go back in
-
00:37:54
and I start going
this downward spiral.
-
00:37:56
So I go and I share it.
It's part of my story.
-
00:37:58
It's who I am.
-
00:38:01
It's your -- It's who you are?
-
00:38:03
It happened in your past,
but is that really who you are?
-
00:38:05
That pain is now your identity?
-
00:38:07
That pain is your thing?
-
00:38:09
So we go back into
another self-help group.
-
00:38:11
We go read some
more self-help literature.
-
00:38:13
We keep thinking about it.
We go to another counselor.
-
00:38:15
We keep thinking about
it over and over and over
-
00:38:17
and over and looking at it.
-
00:38:18
And I'm okay to go back.
-
00:38:20
I'm okay to look at
things from different sides.
-
00:38:23
But let me ask you this, do
you ever expect to be over it?
-
00:38:27
Do you ever expect
it not to define you?
-
00:38:30
Here's the good
news of Jesus Christ.
-
00:38:31
The good news of Jesus
Christ is He meets us
-
00:38:34
where we are in that pain,
and He takes us out of it.
-
00:38:37
He meets us where we are,
where we are, and we repent.
-
00:38:41
We change our minds, saying,
-
00:38:43
"I'm not going to
fixate on that anymore.
-
00:38:44
That's not going to define me."
-
00:38:46
I change my mind
and I go another way.
-
00:38:49
This is the grace of God,
and a lot of us
-
00:38:53
don't know how to
live without that thing.
-
00:38:55
I got to keep saying that's
my identity and that's who I am.
-
00:38:57
No. No, it isn't.
-
00:38:58
Well, what do you mean,
you be you?
-
00:39:00
What do you mean
you live your truth?
-
00:39:02
See,
these are anti-grace slogans.
-
00:39:04
Those slogans say
you can't change.
-
00:39:07
You'll never get over it.
Don't try.
-
00:39:09
And those slogans
are always said
-
00:39:10
by people who don't
understand grace.
-
00:39:13
The power of God,
the power of love,
-
00:39:17
the power of mercy,
the power to do things
-
00:39:20
that you and I aren't normally
wired to do on our own,
-
00:39:25
but when the grace
of God comes to us,
-
00:39:29
we have capacities
that are expanded
-
00:39:32
and we do bold moves,
like maybe tell somebody else
-
00:39:37
and confess.
-
00:39:38
Not tell somebody, like,
"Let me tell you my pain,"
-
00:39:42
but confess and say, "This
is something that I've done
-
00:39:48
and it's sin and I
need to move on."
-
00:39:53
That kind of kind of confession.
-
00:39:55
That, my friends, is very rare
-
00:39:58
which is why healing is
very rare in our culture.
-
00:40:01
I'm not talking about physical
healing, broken bones.
-
00:40:03
I'm -- Yeah, that too.
-
00:40:05
I'm talking about, like,
emotional healing,
-
00:40:07
relational healing,
physical healing.
-
00:40:10
We just don't see
that kind of thing, like,
-
00:40:12
"I am responsible for my
part and I'm going to say it,
-
00:40:16
it was sin and I'm sorry.
Would you forgive me?"
-
00:40:21
Man, that thing I
just did right there,
-
00:40:24
that's something you may
have never said to anybody.
-
00:40:27
Have you ever said: I have
sinned by blank and I'm sorry.
-
00:40:34
Would you forgive me? Period.
-
00:40:37
Not like, "But let me
tell you my backstory."
-
00:40:39
No.
Who cares about your backstory?
-
00:40:41
"No,
but let me tell you why I did."
-
00:40:42
Why? Who cares?
Are you saying you sinned
-
00:40:45
or are you trying to justify
why you are the way you are?
-
00:40:48
This isn't about why
you are the way you are.
-
00:40:50
It's about you
getting to a new place,
-
00:40:52
a place has
empowered us by grace.
-
00:40:55
In the book of James 5:15,
it says this:
-
00:41:18
That you may be healed.
-
00:41:20
Healed of bitterness.
Healed of anxiety.
-
00:41:23
Healed of depression.
-
00:41:25
Whenever I meet
somebody who deals with
-
00:41:27
any of those things, fear,
anxiety, depression,
-
00:41:29
the first question
is always saying,
-
00:41:31
"Is there any sin you
haven't repented of?"
-
00:41:33
I'm going in the deep end today,
by the way.
-
00:41:34
Are you okay with this?
Are you okay with this?
-
00:41:36
I don't care if you are or not,
-
00:41:38
I'm going to tell you
anyway because I tell you
-
00:41:40
I have a heart for
you and I feel for you.
-
00:41:42
And this is spiritual
truth that just,
-
00:41:45
I don't know where
else you get this,
-
00:41:46
unless it's a some sort of
healthy, Bible believing church.
-
00:41:49
This is just the way you are,
-
00:41:52
and this is the way God has
ordered your world to operate.
-
00:41:55
It's the way of grace.
-
00:41:56
And if you don't know this,
-
00:41:58
you're not going to
encounter His grace
-
00:42:00
and His freedom and His
healing in a powerful way.
-
00:42:05
Let me tell you about one
of my sins just this past week.
-
00:42:08
I had to confess
something to my wife.
-
00:42:12
It's not that heavy.
Relax. Just relax.
-
00:42:14
Just release your --
Relax your butt cheeks.
-
00:42:17
It's not -- I know. Relax.
-
00:42:20
This is a relatively tame one.
Okay?
-
00:42:23
I was coming home
from work this last week,
-
00:42:27
and, um, long day.
It was dark outside.
-
00:42:31
And I needed to get
some gas in my truck.
-
00:42:35
So I pull up to the gas pumps,
and there's a truck
-
00:42:39
like at the pumps right ahead
on the one side of the island.
-
00:42:42
And it's a truck.
-
00:42:44
It's got like some
junk in the back of it.
-
00:42:45
It's got some --
I can't tell if he's taking
-
00:42:47
to the dump or what he's got.
-
00:42:48
He's got some stuff in the back.
-
00:42:50
He's got the the back
tailgate that's down.
-
00:42:53
He's got some straps in there.
-
00:42:54
And so I'm going to pull up
behind him in the next pump.
-
00:42:57
And so I'm pulling up
and I don't want to hit him
-
00:43:00
or that tailgate so I stop.
You know, all good. Get out.
-
00:43:03
I start going back,
put my credit card in, pumping.
-
00:43:06
And I see this guy.
-
00:43:07
This guy looks,
we're at the same island.
-
00:43:10
This guy looks at me,
he goes [gestures],
-
00:43:13
and he walks, he walks,
he walks the back of his truck
-
00:43:15
and he goes like this.
And then he comes back.
-
00:43:18
He looks at me and he goes,
looking at me like that.
-
00:43:21
And he goes back.
He goes back to his pump.
-
00:43:24
He's pumping and he's muttering,
looking at me,
-
00:43:27
and like, wrong time,
wrong guy, dude.
-
00:43:33
Especially when I
look at you immediately
-
00:43:34
and I know I can take you.
-
00:43:36
Like, that's always -- that's
always when you're bold,
-
00:43:39
when you look at somebody,
"I could take you." Right?
-
00:43:42
So I'm just in a bad mood,
right?
-
00:43:44
So I, I walk up, "What!?
What do you want?
-
00:43:55
Plenty of room."
-
00:44:00
He backs down. Okay.
Good. Fine. So I go back.
-
00:44:04
Go back and I'm watching him.
-
00:44:05
He's like swearing under
his -- He's giving hand signals.
-
00:44:08
He's like trying to be sly
-
00:44:10
about how he's
giving me the finger
-
00:44:11
by brushing his hair
and stuff like that.
-
00:44:13
And I'm like, I'm going,
I'm going, all right.
-
00:44:17
I was going to go inside
and get something,
-
00:44:19
and I can't do that now.
-
00:44:21
I can't leave my
vehicle here because
-
00:44:22
this vehicle will get
damaged if I leave it.
-
00:44:24
So I just stay there.
-
00:44:26
I stay there and
while I'm staying there
-
00:44:28
and he's getting done,
he's done.
-
00:44:30
I see his truck go away.
-
00:44:31
Fortunately,
-
00:44:32
he goes the opposite
way that I'm going to go.
-
00:44:34
And then it then
it starts sinking in.
-
00:44:36
I have a kairos moment,
like, boom, I realize,
-
00:44:40
"Okay, what is wrong with me?
What is going on here?
-
00:44:44
Uh, I reacted like I wanted
to get violent really quickly.
-
00:44:48
How tired am I right now?
-
00:44:51
What is going on
in my life right now?
-
00:44:54
I know Jesus says,
turn the other cheek,
-
00:44:56
and I certainly did not
turn the other cheek.
-
00:44:59
What? That was really stupid.
-
00:45:01
I was -- I'm obviously
not being like Jesus here.
-
00:45:06
This is -- I gotta unpack this.
This is not good at all"
-
00:45:10
So I get done with my truck,
I get in and I drive home.
-
00:45:15
And I'm thinking about
it as soon as I go home.
-
00:45:17
So I go in, I see Lib.
-
00:45:18
I said, "I gotta tell
you what happened."
-
00:45:19
Not like I just want
to fill you on my day.
-
00:45:21
Tell you something
funny and laugh about it.
-
00:45:23
And like,
make you feel like your husband
-
00:45:25
won't get pushed around.
-
00:45:26
No, not that wasn't
that kind of thing.
-
00:45:29
It was like, "This thing
happened. It's horrible.
-
00:45:32
I don't -- I don't know
what's going on with me.
-
00:45:34
I just it's -- I, I was wrong.
This is sin.
-
00:45:38
I gotta,
I gotta get to a new place."
-
00:45:40
Right? We had some good
words and that was confession.
-
00:45:44
And I was looking forward to it.
-
00:45:46
I was looking
forward to it because
-
00:45:47
I knew she wasn't
going to judge me.
-
00:45:49
And I also knew God, though
he was disappointed in me,
-
00:45:52
He wasn't judging me
because He's a God of grace.
-
00:45:54
And I knew by bringing
it out and talking about it
-
00:45:58
I would get a sense of healing,
-
00:46:00
I would get a sense
of of closure from it.
-
00:46:03
1 John 1:9 says this:
-
00:46:26
When I say, we say,
"I don't have any sins.
-
00:46:28
I just have some
understandably flawed,
-
00:46:31
I just have some mistakes."
-
00:46:32
When we say that
we make Him a liar
-
00:46:33
because His truth has
always said, Jesus said,
-
00:46:36
"I, out of grace
and love for you,
-
00:46:38
I've gone to the Cross.
-
00:46:39
I've turned the
other cheek eternally.
-
00:46:41
I've gone to gone to the Cross
-
00:46:43
and taken the justice for you,
so you don't need to.
-
00:46:46
So if you think that you didn't
need Me to go to the Cross
-
00:46:50
because you're all good,
it's all good,
-
00:46:51
then you've made me a liar.
-
00:46:52
I guess I didn't need
to do that, huh?"
-
00:46:57
And Jesus says,
"I did that because I love you
-
00:47:01
and because I have a
purpose and plan for you
-
00:47:05
and because My grace
is sufficient for you.
-
00:47:07
I want to cover
you with My grace."
-
00:47:11
And one of the ways this
comes out is with other people
-
00:47:15
and confessing to other people,
-
00:47:17
letting other people
into your world.
-
00:47:22
Dietrich Bonhoeffer
was a German pastor.
-
00:47:25
He died in prison
as he was part of
-
00:47:29
a plot to kill Adolf Hitler.
-
00:47:32
And he was in
Germany at the time,
-
00:47:34
one of the very few
pastors that had a backbone
-
00:47:38
and was trying to
stand up for truth.
-
00:47:39
And he was doing that because he
was motivated by grace actually.
-
00:47:44
He had a term that he
coined called cheap grace,
-
00:47:47
when we take it for
granted and we abuse it.
-
00:47:50
And it is in one of his
reflections, he says this:
-
00:48:02
See, the pride of the flesh
makes me want to say,
-
00:48:04
"Hey, I'm understandably flawed.
It's just a mistake.
-
00:48:06
It's just that anybody
would have done it.
-
00:48:08
You would have done it too,
if you were in my position
-
00:48:10
and you understood my story."
-
00:48:11
This is what this is all pride,
-
00:48:13
which is another sin
you could repent of, pride.
-
00:48:16
And he continues and says this:
-
00:48:34
Gift of grace.
-
00:48:37
Jesus's most famous
story He ever told,
-
00:48:40
we've told her a
number of times here.
-
00:48:41
I'm not going to go
all the way into it,
-
00:48:43
but I'm going to
look at an angle of it
-
00:48:44
that we haven't gone into.
-
00:48:46
It is in the book of Luke.
-
00:48:48
It's the longest story
that He ever told.
-
00:48:51
It's known as the Prodigal
or the Prodigal Son.
-
00:48:55
And again, I'm not going to go
-
00:48:56
into deep weeds
on all the story,
-
00:48:57
but let me just give
you this background.
-
00:48:59
I'm going to dig into
an element of the story
-
00:49:02
that I really haven't
unplugged too much.
-
00:49:04
Two brothers. One brother
says to his father, says,
-
00:49:08
the younger brother says,
"You know, dad,
-
00:49:10
I just don't want
to be around you.
-
00:49:12
I would rather
have my own stuff.
-
00:49:14
I don't want to work for you.
-
00:49:15
How about if you just
pretend that you died
-
00:49:17
and you give me my
inheritance right now?
-
00:49:19
Because I just want
to go do my own thing."
-
00:49:21
That's kind of what
all of us naturally do.
-
00:49:24
"God, I really don't want to --
-
00:49:25
I really don't
want to follow You.
-
00:49:27
I really don't want
to be in Your family.
-
00:49:28
Just give me the blessings
that I might get someday
-
00:49:31
so I can go do my own thing.
-
00:49:32
Because I really don't want
to do what You want me to do.
-
00:49:35
I want to go out and do it."
-
00:49:36
And so this father,
representing God,
-
00:49:39
does what God
does for all of us.
-
00:49:40
"You don't want to be with me.
Okay, fine.
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00:49:42
Go, go, go, go! Go away.
Get your own life."
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00:49:45
And so the kid goes
out and he spends
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00:49:47
all his money on wine,
women and song.
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00:49:50
And he finds
himself feeding pigs,
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00:49:53
which is a horrific
thing in a Jewish culture
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00:49:55
to feed something
that's unkosher.
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00:49:57
That's how low that he's gone.
-
00:49:59
That's how much he's sunk down.
-
00:50:00
That's how much
healing that he needs.
-
00:50:02
He needs financial healing.
-
00:50:03
He needs relational healing.
-
00:50:04
He needs spiritual healing.
-
00:50:06
He needs physical healing
because he's hungry.
-
00:50:08
And here's where the story,
here's the story picks up.
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00:50:11
But when he came to himself.
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00:50:13
Came to himself.
What does that mean?
-
00:50:15
Came to his senses.
This is a kairos moment.
-
00:50:18
He was like, "Whoa,
whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa.
-
00:50:20
What is going on?"
He has a kairos moment here.
-
00:50:44
He's practicing a confession.
-
00:50:48
Father, I've sinned
against heaven and you.
-
00:50:50
Sinned against the
constitution of heaven,
-
00:50:53
all the truth that's
represented in heaven
-
00:50:56
and sinned against you.
-
00:50:57
There's no like, "But God
-- But, but, but. But, father."
-
00:51:00
He's not rehearsing
this in his mind, going,
-
00:51:01
"But, father,
you know that I was frustrated.
-
00:51:04
And my older brother.
Father, you know
-
00:51:06
it's kind of hard to do all
the things you want me to.
-
00:51:08
Father, you know."
That's what we do.
-
00:51:10
Like, we're like we're okay
to take some responsibility
-
00:51:12
but I'm going to give
you all the backstory.
-
00:51:15
Because my sin of
pride is keeping me
-
00:51:17
from actually
giving the real real.
-
00:51:19
But this guy,
he's come to a place of like,
-
00:51:21
"No, no, no, I'm practicing.
This is all on me.
-
00:51:24
Uh, this was just wrong."
Verse 20:
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00:51:36
This is our graceful
heavenly Father.
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00:51:39
He gives grace even
when we don't deserve it.
-
00:51:42
Son doesn't deserve it.
Son said I wish you were dead.
-
00:51:45
Son said I want to leave you.
-
00:51:46
But there's still love,
acceptance, and grace available.
-
00:51:50
And the son said to him,
he just basically says
-
00:51:52
what he has rehearsed:
-
00:52:18
He says -- his
actions say it all.
-
00:52:20
He doesn't even have
to say I forgive you.
-
00:52:23
You know he's
forgiven when he says,
-
00:52:24
"Hey, put a ring on his finger.
-
00:52:26
That's my identity.
That's the family wealth.
-
00:52:28
Put shoes on his feet so
he can get up off the ground.
-
00:52:31
Wrap a cloak around him.
That's his identity.
-
00:52:34
Wrap him in my identity.
We're going to celebrate."
-
00:52:38
Because I'm not -- this,
this, this, this man
-
00:52:41
who Jesus is
representing as God,
-
00:52:43
he doesn't fixate on the past.
-
00:52:45
We fixate in the past.
-
00:52:47
We keep analyzing
it and analyzing it.
-
00:52:50
We keep doing it.
But no, He doesn't. He doesn't.
-
00:52:52
He's saying, "I don't need
to talk about it anymore.
-
00:52:54
You came forward. You confessed.
-
00:52:56
Let's go, let's go. Chop, chop."
-
00:52:57
Do you realize you can
have that with God right now?
-
00:53:01
Do you realize
whatever you're done,
-
00:53:03
no matter what you've done,
there is a grace,
-
00:53:07
graceful God, who wants you
-
00:53:09
to practice the
grace of confession.
-
00:53:17
Here at Crossroads
we're really holding out
-
00:53:20
and praying and working for
the dream of an awakening,
-
00:53:22
that the Spirit of God
would sweep across our land
-
00:53:25
and do amazing things
in individuals lives
-
00:53:27
and in our culture.
-
00:53:29
Revivals and awakenings
are somewhat similar,
-
00:53:32
identical to many people,
-
00:53:33
but I think there's
some differences there.
-
00:53:35
A number of a
couple of years ago,
-
00:53:37
there was a revival down in
Asbury College in Kentucky.
-
00:53:41
College kids and other
people from all over the country
-
00:53:43
were coming and worshiping
24/7 for on and on and on.
-
00:53:46
It was really, it was really
powerful and profound.
-
00:53:50
At that college,
Asbury College, it's a link
-
00:53:53
to the Methodist and
the Wesleyan tradition.
-
00:53:56
It's named after Francis Asbury,
who rode on horse
-
00:54:01
6000 miles a year on horse
to go to pioneer villages
-
00:54:05
and share the grace
of who Jesus was.
-
00:54:08
Somewhere like 26-30,000
miles he's logged on a horse.
-
00:54:13
If you've never been
on a horse ride for a mile,
-
00:54:15
you have no idea,
it is horrible. Horrible. Right?
-
00:54:22
Well, he comes from the
tradition of John Wesley.
-
00:54:25
He was discipled,
he was built into by John Wesley
-
00:54:29
that founded basically Methodism
because of his methods.
-
00:54:33
And his brother Charles Wesley
-
00:54:34
was the musician
and the hymn writer,
-
00:54:37
and John Wesley was
the author and preacher.
-
00:54:40
Wesley would have 21 questions
-
00:54:43
that he would ask
people to consider
-
00:54:45
as we considered our
sin and our need for grace.
-
00:54:49
I'm going to share
these with you.
-
00:54:51
I'll just go through
them quickly,
-
00:54:53
because oftentimes
we think of sin
-
00:54:55
we only think of
like the big ones,
-
00:54:57
like adultery, embezzlement.
-
00:55:00
Those are sin for sure.
That's big stuff for sure.
-
00:55:02
And there's grace that's
sufficient to cover that.
-
00:55:05
But what about the other ones
-
00:55:06
that are just normal
small sins of rebellion?
-
00:55:10
I say small, I say small because
-
00:55:11
it's never going
to make the news
-
00:55:13
and normal people would say,
"Oh, that's no big deal."
-
00:55:15
What is the big deal? Big deal.
-
00:55:17
Anytime we step outside
of the standard of God
-
00:55:20
that's there for our freedom,
it's a big deal,
-
00:55:22
it's a moment of rebellion.
Here they are.
-
00:55:24
I'll go through them so quickly,
21 of them.
-
00:55:27
Am I consciously or
unconsciously creating
-
00:55:29
the impression that I am
better than I really am?
-
00:55:33
In other words,
am I a hypocrite?
-
00:55:34
In other words, do I have
a social media account?
-
00:55:37
Number two. [laughter]
-
00:55:39
Am I honest in all
my acts and words,
-
00:55:42
or do I exaggerate?
-
00:55:44
Do I confidentially
pass on to another
-
00:55:47
what was told to
me in confidence?
-
00:55:50
Can I be trusted?
-
00:55:52
Am I a slave to dress,
friends, work, or habits?
-
00:55:58
Am I self-conscious, self-
pitying, or self-justifying?
-
00:56:03
Did the Bible live in me today?
-
00:56:07
Do I give it time to
speak to me every day?
-
00:56:11
Am I enjoying prayer?
-
00:56:14
When did I last speak to
someone else about my faith?
-
00:56:18
Do I pray about
the money I spend?
-
00:56:22
Do I get to bed on
time and get up on time?
-
00:56:26
Our bodies are created by God,
-
00:56:27
He wants us to take care of it.
Am I taking care of it?
-
00:56:30
Do I disobey God in anything?
-
00:56:34
Do I insist upon doing something
-
00:56:36
about which my
conscience is uneasy?
-
00:56:40
Am I defeated in
any part of my life?
-
00:56:44
Am I jealous, impure, critical,
-
00:56:46
irritable, touchy,
or distrustful?
-
00:56:49
How do I spend my spare time?
-
00:56:53
Am I proud?
-
00:56:55
Do I thank God that I
am not as other people,
-
00:57:00
especially as the Pharisees
who despise the publicans?
-
00:57:03
Or especially the
people who are in politics
-
00:57:06
on the other side of the aisle?
-
00:57:08
Is there anyone whom I fear,
dislike, disown,
-
00:57:12
criticize, hold resentment
toward, or disregard?
-
00:57:16
If so, what am I doing about it?
-
00:57:18
Do I grumble or
complain constantly?
-
00:57:28
We'll take about
a minute to see if
-
00:57:32
the Spirit of God might do
something in you right now.
-
00:57:36
Let me see if you
have a kairos moment,
-
00:57:37
if you haven't already had one.
-
00:57:39
Just see if these,
of these 21 things,
-
00:57:42
is your heart drawn
to it or repulsed by it?
-
00:57:46
Is your mind drawn to it?
-
00:57:47
Let's just see if God
may be speaking to us.
-
00:58:27
Okay.
Here's what we're going to do.
-
00:58:29
We're going to give
you the opportunity
-
00:58:30
to come under the grace of God.
-
00:58:33
We're going to give
you the opportunity
-
00:58:37
to have some healing.
-
00:58:40
And you get to do this.
-
00:58:42
You opted into this thing today
-
00:58:44
because I think you
wanted to get pushed,
-
00:58:46
and you want to
get to another place.
-
00:58:49
And I'm going to give you
the opportunity to do that.
-
00:58:52
You're going to get to confess.
-
00:58:55
You're going to confess to
somebody right beside you.
-
00:58:59
It might be best if you
see someone beside you
-
00:59:02
who you don't know, might
be easier to confess to them.
-
00:59:05
This can be really,
really quick.
-
00:59:07
And if you don't want to,
just hold your --
-
00:59:10
Cross your arms and look
down and people get the clue.
-
00:59:13
Now it's okay, maybe there's
something else going on. Fine.
-
00:59:16
Well, a lot of us,
this is rare for this.
-
00:59:17
You haven't done this before,
but this could be
-
00:59:19
the thing that unlocks
some healing in you,
-
00:59:22
some freedom in you.
-
00:59:23
This is a moment
to experience grace.
-
00:59:26
So here's what
you're going to do.
-
00:59:28
You're going to
turn to that person
-
00:59:30
and you're going to say,
"My sin is that I..."
-
00:59:36
You're not going to
give the backstory.
-
00:59:39
You're not going to explain it.
-
00:59:40
This isn't counseling.
-
00:59:42
"My sin is that I blank."
-
00:59:47
And then the person
who is receiving
-
00:59:49
they're going to say
something really easy,
-
00:59:51
even if they don't believe this,
-
00:59:52
they're going to say this,
-
00:59:53
and this is going to be truth,
-
00:59:55
it's going to be real,
real simple.
-
00:59:57
It's going to be, "By the grace
of Jesus, you are forgiven."
-
01:00:03
By the grace of Jesus.
-
01:00:04
And then we're going to switch.
-
01:00:07
And then we're going
to do something else.
-
01:00:09
So I'm going to give you,
here we go. Um, yeah. Yeah.
-
01:00:14
It's time, it's time,
it's time to step up
-
01:00:15
and do something you
haven't done before.
-
01:00:17
Sometimes that's
what spiritual growth is.
-
01:00:19
This the means of grace,
so there's the script.
-
01:00:22
Find somebody.
It shouldn't take long.
-
01:00:25
Person one. Ready? Go.
-
01:00:42
Okay, good. Good.
-
01:00:43
It's all you needed, person one.
That's it. That's it.
-
01:00:47
I gave you more than
enough time. Good.
-
01:00:51
Okay.
The person who was the receiver,
-
01:00:54
now you're going
to be the confessor.
-
01:00:58
So go ahead, person two,
-
01:01:00
confess to the person
who just confessed to you.
-
01:01:19
By the grace of Jesus,
you're forgiven.
-
01:01:23
You're forgiven, every
one of you. You're forgiven.
-
01:01:26
[applause] Good.
-
01:01:29
I have developed a bit
of a friendship with a guy
-
01:01:33
by the name of Dallas Jenkins.
-
01:01:36
He has created this series,
the best series
-
01:01:39
that's ever been done on
Jesus called The Chosen.
-
01:01:42
And I was reminded
of this scene that he did
-
01:01:48
where there's a woman by
the name of Mary Magdalene,
-
01:01:52
also known as Mary of Magdala.
-
01:01:54
And it said of her, she's one of
-
01:01:56
the early followers of Jesus,
who is kind of
-
01:01:58
with the 12 disciples
just hanging in that court.
-
01:02:01
And it said of her
in the book of Luke
-
01:02:03
that she had seven demons.
-
01:02:06
Now I happen to believe
in literal, actual demons.
-
01:02:10
So I believe it was just, yeah,
-
01:02:11
she had literally seven demons.
-
01:02:13
You could still get
something out of it,
-
01:02:14
even if you don't believe
that she had demons,
-
01:02:18
that maybe that was
representative of seven things
-
01:02:20
that were dragging her down.
-
01:02:22
Whichever way you
choose to go right now,
-
01:02:25
I think you're going
to connect with this clip
-
01:02:27
as she is in this crazed state
-
01:02:32
and she encounters the grace
of Jesus for the first time.
-
01:02:50
- Leave me alone!
-
01:02:56
- Mary.
-
01:03:05
Mary of Magdala.
-
01:03:19
- Who are you?
-
01:03:21
How do you know my name?
-
01:03:23
- Thus says the
Lord who created you
-
01:03:28
and he who formed you,
-
01:03:32
"Fear not,
-
01:03:37
for I have redeemed you.
-
01:03:41
I have called you by name.
-
01:03:45
You are mine."
-
01:03:59
[sobbing]
-
01:04:23
- Do you need anything?
-
01:04:25
- Where is He?
- In His tent.
-
01:04:29
- Should I wait?
-
01:04:31
- No, no. I'll take you to Him.
-
01:04:52
- It's not you.
-
01:04:55
There's quite a lot
going on right now.
-
01:05:08
So it's good to have you back.
-
01:05:16
- I don't know what to say.
-
01:05:18
- I don't require much.
-
01:05:25
- I'm just so ashamed.
-
01:05:28
You redeemed me and
I just threw it all away.
-
01:05:33
- Well,
that's not much of a redemption
-
01:05:34
if it can be lost in a day,
is it?
-
01:05:36
- Yeah.
-
01:05:40
I owe you everything,
-
01:05:44
but I just don't think
I can do it.
-
01:05:48
- Do what?
-
01:05:51
- Live up to it,
-
01:05:55
repay You.
-
01:05:56
How could I leave?
-
01:05:57
How could I go back
to the place I was?
-
01:06:00
And I didn't even --
-
01:06:02
I didn't even come
back on my own.
-
01:06:06
They had to come get me.
-
01:06:12
I just can't live up to it.
-
01:06:16
- Well that's true.
- [sobs]
-
01:06:19
- But you don't have to,
-
01:06:23
I just want your heart.
-
01:06:26
The Father just
wants your heart.
-
01:06:30
Give Us that,
which you already have,
-
01:06:34
and the rest will come in time.
-
01:06:39
Did you really think that
-
01:06:40
you'd never
struggle or sin again?
-
01:06:43
I know how painful that
moment was for you.
-
01:06:45
- I shouldn't.
-
01:06:47
- Some day, but not here.
-
01:06:57
- I'm just so sorry.
-
01:07:02
- Look up.
-
01:07:04
- [sobs]
I can't.
-
01:07:08
- You can.
Look at Me.
-
01:07:18
I forgive you.
- [sobs]
-
01:07:24
- It's over.
-
01:07:45
[music]
-
01:11:16
- There will come a
day that we won't have to
-
01:11:17
think about a confession
message anymore,
-
01:11:21
because there'll be no
need to confess someday.
-
01:11:23
In the moment it's just a
regular discipline of grace
-
01:11:26
that we get to operate by,
-
01:11:29
and we need to be reminded of it
-
01:11:31
and see the beauty
of Him and the love,
-
01:11:34
the joy He offers, the
endless chances that He gives
-
01:11:38
because of His mercy.
-
01:11:41
So I'll close with this charge.
-
01:11:42
Why don't we all stand up?
Let's all stand up.
-
01:11:46
I'm just going to
speak the Bible to you
-
01:11:47
because this is true for you.
-
01:11:49
It comes from Psalm 103:10,
and here's what God says to you.
-
01:12:21
Yes. [applause]
That's the grace of God.
-
01:12:26
Walk in it this week.
Live it, breathe it.
-
01:12:29
We'll see you next weekend.
-
01:12:33
- Brian just invited
us in to confession
-
01:12:35
and prayer with the
people around us.
-
01:12:36
That includes you.
That includes me.
-
01:12:38
We don't want you
to miss out on this
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01:12:39
and you've got two options.
-
01:12:41
First,
find someone that you trust,
-
01:12:43
maybe it's a close friend,
or a mentor, or even your spouse
-
01:12:45
and have a moment
of confession with them.
-
01:12:48
It might feel weird.
-
01:12:49
It might feel
a little uncomfortable.
-
01:12:50
It probably will.
And that is okay.
-
01:12:52
Just lean into it.
-
01:12:54
Growth almost always starts
where our comfort zone ends.
-
01:12:57
Option number two,
if you're thinking,
-
01:12:59
"I don't have anyone
to do that with,"
-
01:13:01
we've got you covered.
-
01:13:02
We actually have
an incredible team
-
01:13:03
that is ready to jump in.
-
01:13:04
Just head to Crossroads.net,
click the chat button.
-
01:13:07
We have real people
that are awesome,
-
01:13:09
the team that I get to
work with all day, every day.
-
01:13:11
They'd love to pray
with you and help you
-
01:13:13
take your next step
in your walk with God.
-
01:13:15
Now, before we wrap up,
I just love to pray for you.
-
01:13:18
Father, thank You that
You give us confession
-
01:13:20
as a tool to greater levels
of hope and freedom and joy,
-
01:13:25
and that it helps us just
put things to the wayside,
-
01:13:28
like shame and guilt and fear.
-
01:13:31
God, help us to lean in
and experience healing
-
01:13:34
and new life on the
other side of this.
-
01:13:36
In Your Name, Amen.
-
01:13:38
Guys, thank you so
much for staying with us
-
01:13:40
and joining us today.
-
01:13:41
Don't forget, next week is
the Super Bowl of Preaching
-
01:13:44
and is going to be amazing.
-
01:13:45
Fake commercials,
trash talk, bad officiating,
-
01:13:48
real truth, all of it.
You name it.
-
01:13:50
Grab your friends,
get your snacks, join us.
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01:13:52
You don't want to miss it.
We'll see you guys then.