Well, welcome to Crossroads, we're so
glad to have you on the
Crossroads Anywhere broadcast.
And today we're in a
series called Play and Purpose.
And it's actually more than a series,
it's a whole journey that we're
going on as a church to get
more play, more purpose in our lives.
And we're gonna do this in the
midst of conversations with God and in
the midst of conversations with other people
and in the midst of this
service. And today is
all about play.
It's gonna be awesome.
And to start, we're actually going
to spend some time worshipping
together, singing together.
And so maybe turn down your lights,
turn up your music and try
something new and sing
along with us.
Lord, we praise you because You are
great and mighty, because You are
with us, because You are powerful.
It's amazing that You are
who You are, King.
You care about us.
You hear us. So we praise You.
I praise You. I sing like that
because I see who You are, Jesus.
So I sing to You, I praise that
way, Lord, because of who You are,
Thanks for singing with us.
[applause] Yeah, you sound great. Hey,
before you grab a seat, why
don't you turn and
introduce yourself to somebody.
If you're considering camping out at all,
you're on the edge, I will
just say to you, do it.
It is so worth it.
It's worth figuring out
how to get there.
It's worth the expense of that.
It's worth figuring out the child
care and all those logistics.
Man, you will go to
a new place with God.
You'll go to a new
place in your friendships.
And if we're talking about Couples Camp,
you're going to go to a new
place in your marriage. Whether your marriage
is on fire right now or
it's crumbling, Couples Camp might just
be exactly what you need.
So you can
head to Crossroads.net/camps
to sign up to do that.
And maybe even consider doing this with
a few people who are in your
Journey group right now. Speaking of
Journey, we are in this series
called Play & Purpose.
And it's not just a series, it's
a Journey that we're going together,
going on together as a church.
And we call it that because, man,
there are lots of elements to this
that are gonna put us in
some uncomfortable places, some new spaces.
And at the end of it, we're
going to be in a different place.
We're going to be different.
And so the way that you get the
most out of this journey is by doing
the reflection and activities that are
in the Journey Guide, which
you can get
You can get a digital form of that.
Or if you're already in a Journey
group, you can get that Journey
Guide at your Journey group, your
leader, if they are part of
Crossroads Anywhere has that.
And if you regularly attend a site
or you live near a Crossroads
location, you can go to the Crossroads
site closest to you to pick up
a Journey Guide. Just chat with us
to find out where and how you
might do that. But it's not too late
to get into a group, if you're
not in one already you can
still sign up for a group.
Those are starting to
meet this week.
And this is more like
dinner party, fun experience.
Not at all like sit in a
circle and share your deepest, darkest
moment and go around
the circle and cry.
That's not what this is. It's
going to be fun and active.
And those group meetings
start this week.
And, you know, I'm just so thankful
that I get to be on the
and that I get to be on
the Crossroads team alongside of other
teammates who are generously giving to
make all of this possible,
who are generously sacrificing of their
finances so that we get to
experience church online,
so that we get to have creative
elements as part of this Journey that
are gonna help us go to
a new place with God.
And so that we get to have
things like Camp where, man, you get
outside of your normal everyday grind,
outside of the rut that you're
in and go off the
grid for a weekend.
It's because of generous givers
and Crossroads teammates that that's
all possible. And so if you want
to become a teammate, you want to
become a giver, you
can head to Crossroads.net/give
and sign up to give once or
recurring and help make all of these
things possible so that you and
your friends and your family can
experience God in a new,
fresh way through Crossroads.
And today, in the midst of
this Journey, we're talking all about
Not a soul up
ahead and nothing behind
There's a desert in my blood
and a storm in your eyes
Well I remember the fight
and I forget the pain
I got my hand in your pocket and my
key on your chain Am I the king
heart is a mess Is it
the only defense against the wilderness?
Cross my heart and hope to die Taking
this one step at a time Got
your back if you got mine One foot
in front of the other One foot in
front of the other
have trust Ain't nothing left of
us, this is the exodus (inaudible)
One foot in front of the other ad
time. Got to go back.
Cross my heart and hope to die
Taking this one step at a time
I got your back if you got mine,
One foot in front of the other
One foot in front of the other.
One foot in front of the other.
One foot in front of the other.
- What happened to our conga line?
I thought we had
a conga line going.
Man, I'm out of breath now.
Singing karaoke, dancing in front of
people at the same time.
(panting) I'm getting to
be an old man.
All right, I got to get my
stuff together because they're gonna be
taping me for other sites.
So hold on here. [laughter]
I know we're having fun. Whew!
[cheers and applause] All right, here
we go. Watch this.
I love that song.
I utterly love that song.
One foot in front of the other.
Today -- Today, the big idea is
this: a life that prospers makes room
for play. I'm going
to say that again.
A life that prospers
makes room for play.
Turn to somebody right close to you,
smile and say, "Hey, did you
know a life that prospers
makes room for play?".
Tell somebody beside you
that right now.
Because they don't believe me.
Now, remind me, remind me
to tell you later how you
could possibly get a thousand dollars.
So just remind me because,
you know, I might forget.
But let me pray right now
before we do anything else.
God, I want everybody
within earshot to prosper.
I want everybody in earshot to have
a life that is full, a life
a life where we sense You and
where we get closer to understanding
You and feeling Your
love and power.
I know that play has
something to do with that.
And I know that You have something for
all of us who are here today.
So help me to serve Your people.
I pray these things according to
character and identity of Jesus.
Amen. You know, I know some of us
might have a bit of a religious
background. And people who have religious
backgrounds tend to not be
very fun. I'm sorry to
say it, but it's true.
People who, you know, just man,
they just want everything right.
They want do everything
right and moral.
They want to -- They want
to have things buttoned up.
They think that God is an engineer.
He is an engineer and
He's also an artist.
He is somebody
who gives instruction.
And He also is somebody
who I believe skips rope.
And I wish that I could tell you
right now, I wish I could give you
chapter and verse in the Bible of
a verse that would say, "Thou shalt
not -- Thou shalt play.".
I wish I could find one
that said: thou shalt play.
There it is, guys, thou shalt play.
There it is, so obviously
God wants us to play.
I can't show you that verse today.
I also can't show you a verse in
the Bible that says: Thou shalt eat.
I can't show you one in
the Bible says: thou shalt sleep.
I can't find you one in the
Bible says: thou shalt brush your teeth.
But all these things we
know are good and important.
And we know that God has wired
us to need things and want them.
My goal today is to get you to
play because the mark of everybody who
prospers is a mark of somebody
who makes time to play.
And what I mean by
play? Play is this definition:
Time just slips away from us and
results in us being more energy --
energized. Anything that is fun, we
lose time over, and it energizes
us for the rest of our life.
I've been in this topic
now for, gosh, several years.
All of us naturally want to play.
I'll get into that in a moment.
There's something about that, something
that says something about us
as humans, that all little
humans, little children naturally play,
and then we lose it
as we get older.
It's like our life and culture just
kicks the play right out of us.
And when a person who's been responsible
to help me sort of have a
play awakening over the last decade or
so is his name is Dr.
Stuart Brown. Here's what he says:
I love that.
It appears purposeless.
It appears like there's
no point to it.
But no, it does
something in our neurochemistry.
I don't know why it is, but if
you were an over eater, we would have
a better time of getting you to
change your food intake than if you
were an anorexic.
It's harder to get somebody who
is overindulging to stop something
than it is to take somebody who
is not doing anything of something
and have them start it.
I'm very confident we don't have very
many people who are playing too
much. I'm very confident of that.
And I've got a job ahead of me in
the midst of this Journey to try to
get many of us who are play
anorexics to actually start to consume
play. Why don't we play?
Just five ideas for you real quick.
One is we believe
it's for children.
Children grow up and so therefore, I've
grown up and I don't play,
just like kids don't play. Two,
we don't want to allocate resources
to it because play takes
resources, time resources, money resources.
We also fear that if I play, I'm
going to step out of the purpose
train and I'm going
to lose my slot.
Someone else is going to come in and
do my job or someone else is
going to show people that I'm
really not all that necessary.
We're afraid of losing
control, losing our spots.
Four, there isn't a play movement.
Maybe Dr. Stuart Brown has affected me
so much because like he's one
coherent voice that
talks about play.
Maybe we should just start
a play movement #Iplay.
There's no #Iplay anywhere.
No one's exposing that because everyone's
like, "I don't want to let
anyone know that I'm playing.
They might think
I'm really juvenile.
I don't want to let anyone know
that I'm actually spending a lot of
money on stupid things
that will have that will have nothing
to show for it, other than a
healthier me." The fifth reason is
that we have bad theology.
We have a -- theology is
just the study of God.
Ology, study or word, theo
is where we get God.
We have bad theology. We don't know
how to how to study God.
And all the while in our
culture, friends, we are hurting.
Opioid addiction, opioid
usage is skyrocketing.
People on painkillers,
other coping mechanisms.
Play is our natural way to cope.
And since we're not playing, we're
not naturally coping and we're
leaning more and more
into artificial means.
CNBC said this recently:.
We don't want any of those in here.
Why are we burned out?
Because we're always on
the purpose train.
We're always wanting to make
our life count for something.
We always want to check everything
off the to do list.
We always want everything to have
a point to our life.
We want to just keep pushing
and pushing instead of playing.
And in this culture that we're in,
the Bible gives us verses that
just smack us in the face of
our cultural reality of dissing play.
Here's one from Ecclesiastes
3:9-13, it says this:
God's gift to men is that we get to
earn money and we get to use some
of that money to pay for
play, to pay for pleasure.
This is God's gift to men.
And when we can identify ways
that we are blessing ourselves, ways
that we are experiencing pleasure, ways
that we are playing, we are
shunning the very gift of God.
Who who likes it when you give
a gift and someone shuns it?
Nobody likes that. It's insulting.
God has given us
the ability to play.
When we don't play, we
are shunning his gift.
J.I. Packer who just to look at him,
I don't know if this guy's ever
known a day of play in his life.
I don't know. Just
look at that guy.
My gosh, it looks like
he eats lemons for breakfast.
[laughter] He's actually a very well-known
theologian who died a few
years ago. And here's what he says.
Not good. Too many of us, we're just
stuck in the status quo of our
current world. We're stuck in the
monotony of our current world.
We're stuck in the grind of our
current world that's just grinding us
down to a nub. And what play
is, play is revenge against status quo.
Play is revenge against monotony.
Play is revenge against the life
that's grounding us down because I
thumb my nose at all of
that stuff when I say,
"No, no, I'm not a human
doing, I'm a human being.
And I will be in this earth
and I will be with my God.
And I will experience every joy
that He has given me.
I will experience every opportunity that
comes my way to detach, to
laugh, to play."
There's four aspects of play.
As I share this list, these things
are all ways that we play, they're
all signs that we are playing.
And the more of these things that
you can have engaged in your play,
the more fulfilling your play
is going to be.
One aspect of how
we play is spiritual.
Play is a spiritual rhythm.
Play forces us to trust God.
When I play, I'm not earning money,
I'm not getting ahead in the
workplace. I am trusting that God is
going to keep my job and I'm
going to eat.
So it's very important to understand
when the earth was first
created, God creates the
earth in six days.
Whether those are figurative days or
literal days, you can have your
own debate on those. That's not
really my interest at this point.
And He on the sixth day,
God creates men and women.
And then it says on
the seventh day, God rested.
So when God rests on the seventh
day, what do people who just got
created on the sixth day, what
do they have to do?
Rest, they have to rest.
Which really sounds odd, like day
six human beings are created.
We're supposed to
be fruitful multiply.
So you'd think God would
say, "Okay, I've created you.
Chop, chop, go, go, go.".
As if human beings are
like, "Okay, let's go.
Let's go. I can't leave my first
day, full day of existence, can't
go. And what dod I do my first day?
I play because we're not human
doings, we are human beings.
And it says something about
the spirituality of prayer, the
spirituality of playing that when
we're not playing, we're actually
not trusting God.
When we're not playing, we're
actually puffing ourselves up, thinking
that we're so important to the universe
the world can't do without me
being on purpose every single day.
It's not true. It sends us
something to the sign about the
spirituality of play.
Another one, the very first miracle
that Jesus ever does is creating
wine out of water.
It's at a wedding.
It's towards the end
of the wedding.
And it's crazy. There's a lot of
stuff going on in this miracle,
there is. But we can't get away
from what actually took place is the
first miracle of Jesus, the son of
God does is enable the party to
continue. He enables play to keep going
for -- don't give me any of
this crap of oh, well, that was
Welch's grape juice that He created.
No, he didn't.
The wine steward at the
events says, "Oh, my gosh.
Here we are later on the party
and you brought out the best wine.
Most of the people bring the awful
wine to begin with and then once
their taste buds are are numb --
the good wine to begin with, once
their taste buds are numb, then
they bring the awful wine out.
But you brought the
best wine out layer.".
Yeah, that's my God. That's my God
who starts and keep the party
going. Yeah. You can clap for that.
That's fine. [applause] I want you
to think about your parents,
however old your parents are, however
old you are, if you're, you
know, if you're 14 or
you're 24, or you're 34.
We want to be around our parents
if it's a life giving experience,
that's what we want.
We don't want to be around our
parents if every time they're going to
be around us they're going
to give us purpose.
Every time we're around our parents they're
going to give us a new
list of things that we need
to be doing in our life.
We just don't want to do that.
And if we think that being around
God it's just about getting a new
list to obey, just getting new
responsibility to follow through on,
well, guess what? No wonder many of
us don't want to be around God.
God is not a dentist.
He's not a dentist. Hermey
wants to be a dentist.
I want to be a dentist.
Remember that from Rudolph the
Red Nosed Reindeer and Hermey?
Hermey wants to be a dentist.
No, this is -- this is not
who God is created to be.
He's not a dentist.
He's not a divine dentist in the
sky who's looking to give you pain.
My apologies to all
your dentists out there.
God loves dentists.
He does. I just don't love dentists, at
least I don't like going to a
dentist. My dentist
understands that, too.
Thank you for everything. But God wants
us to be in relation with
Him. And He wants us to feel.
He wants us to
experience His fullness.
And we can't do that
if we're not playing.
This is when the nation of
Israel gets out of slavery.
They're led by Moses and
they get out of slavery.
And God tells Pharaoh, who is
controlling nation of Israel the
reasons is I want them to lead
a festival for me in the wilderness.
And there's like seven of these
things that God institutes actually
were coming into a Jewish
festival season right now.
These festivals still continue and some
of these things are amazing
They're are a lot, a lot of fun.
And God instituted these things because
He wants His people to
experience Him, to have fun with
Him, to actually play with Him.
The second thing that play taps
into isn't just the spirituality of
play, it's the physicality of play.
It's the physicality of play.
Play happens in periods of rest.
Play can be restful, but
play does not equal rest.
What I mean is simply
vegging out is not play.
Simply taking a nap is not play.
Simply sleeping is not play.
Even taking a vacation
is not necessarily play.
Play can happen on those things, but
play is when we get engaged in
our environment. We dance, one foot in
front of the other or we we
play checkers with somebody else or we
would take a walk through a
park or we go with some friends to
a ballgame and we cheer or we ice
skates or we bird watch or
we're doing something out and we're
physically engaging and we lose ourselves
in the physicality of it.
Proverbs 17: 22 says:.
A crushed spirit dries
up the bones.
I don't know if when this passage
was written, if they were giving a
clue as to why some cancers
happen and ulcers take place.
Because when we are stressed and when
we were in purpose all the time
and when we are not detaching,
our bones literally can get brittle.
We literally have physiological
effects from not playing.
It's a massive, massive thing and might
be why are our health rate
and our life expectancy has dipped
in the last couple of years.
It's ridiculous that it would dip in
the last couple of years as our
medicine advances, our
But medicine can't keep up with
our poor choices of not playing.
Medicine can't keep up with our
poor choices of not rest fully
playing, of not engaging
all of our mind.
When we're on purpose, when we're
doing our job, our normal thing,
whatever that is, if it's raising our
kids or balancing the books or
closing sales and, well, whatever, keeping
up our apartment or house
that everyone. When we're on
that stuff, our enzymes our
neurochemicals in our brain are going
the same direction all the
time. W e literally wear
a groove in our thinking.
We get a rut in
our thinking, in our neurochemistry.
That's what happens, which is why the
longer you're on the job, if
you're going to work past 60
hours, you are fooling yourself, maybe
some would arguing past 50 hours,
you get -- you get exponentially
less productive the longer
you are at work.
And it's a neurochemical scientific
reason because you're your
chemicals keep going the same way.
You're trying to get your brain to
just work harder and think of a
new breakthrough. But
it's worn out.
The grooves are there. When you play,
when you detach and you do
whatever you're doing, your neurochemicals
take a rest in those
grooves and they start
finding different neural connections.
And this is why
it's recuperative, too.
This is why it's restorative.
This is why time and time
again my biggest breakthroughs don't come
through when I'm in the office.
My biggest breakthroughs don't come
when I'm in brainstorming
meetings. My biggest breakthroughs come when
I'm on a bike trip.
My biggest breakthroughs come when
I'm hiking with my family.
My biggest breakthroughs come when
I'm doing anything, anything at
all other than my purpose.
It's a beautiful, it's a wonderful
thing, it's how God has created
us. Spiritual: when I am physically
engaged in my environment, I
spiritually feel close to God.
I'll find myself just
laughing and just smiling.
When I'm laughing and smiling I'll just
say to God, "God, thank you.
Thank you that I get to do this.
Thank you that I get
to get physically engaged."
When we play with people,
it's beautiful, it's amazing.
Last weekend there was balls that
were dropped from ceilings and we
had a good old time. Apparently
at Crossroads Eastside, they dropped
bowling balls from the ceiling.
Someone didn't appreciate it up
there. [laughter] But was these balls
that dropped and where I was
sitting in the front row there
was this ball right from me.
And I thought, "Oh, man, I'm just
going to loft this one way over,
get it kind of in back rows."
So I went up and I kicked this
thing, except I didn't get the loft
that I anticipated. I pelted this woman
right in the face, like from
six feet away. She had glasses on,
wham, I just smashed her right in
the face. And I felt so bad.
I was like, "Oh, my
gosh, I'm so sorry."
I was going up
there, I'm hugging her.
I'm sorry. And she was laughing.
She's like, I'm sorry.
I'm glad I didn't get -- I
didn't get anything from an attorney this
last week. It was good. So
the second service, the second service,
same thing. A ball came, okay.
I got that. I'm not going to --
I'm not going to kind of go towards
this section which was
right beside me. .
I'm going to loft it
over on this section.
So same thing, went to loft it
up, same thing, line drive, pelted
this guy right smack in the nose.
I mean, bam, it just put
his head back, the whole thing.
Same thing, I feel like --
I feel like a turd.
I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm sorry.
And there -- and I realized, that
was after the two Saturday services
that I did, I realized that
like in both situations, even though
these people got pelted in the
face unexpectedly, I made two new
friends. [laughter] Like
There was something about us laughing
each one for a minute, just
laughing that literally
bonded us together.
So I went into Sunday's service
saying, "I'm going to pelt somebody
in the face every service." [laughter].
I didn't kick it because it's
too hard, so I was just
throwing it in people's faces.
And the same thing, everyone
laughed every single time.
I'm not saying you have to abuse
somebody or get abused for play, but
it helps. It does. There's something
about when we are relational and
we are engaged with one another.
I was on this -- we're on this
bike trip that I did with some friends
and I. It's a
way that we're relational.
We're physically engaged
this motorcycle trip.
And we do talk about God and we
thank God for it, but it's really not
a God trip. It's
a bike trip, right?
We found this last bike trip
just weird, weird stuff happened.
We got to the end
of the day, we're tired.
And bunch of us were just sitting
on the side of this creek and
someone picked up this rock, just took
this rock and just like threw
it at this bigger
rock in the creek.
And someone's like, "Oh, I
could hit that, too.".
So he went up and hit it.
And then, Oh, I can hit it. And
then before we knew it, a game broke
out. It was, okay, see who can
get it best out of five.
So we did that and so whoever won
that round, then got to choose the
next rock that we were
going to all aim for.
We kept score and time passed up.
We might have done that for two
hours, just sitting there a bunch of
40 and 50 year olds. I guess there
was my son, 20 year old, just
throwing rocks. It was so fun.
We did it like every night.
One night there was no rocks, we were
on the side of a hill where
there was -- where
there was pine trees.
So we had to use pine cones.
That's hard. I mean, in pine cones,
20 yards, because you've got to
account for the drag.
It was -- we laughed every time.
It didn't cost us a
dime, that thing didn't.
We were bonding with each other.
We were physically doing something,
it was just beautiful.
There used to be a saying decades ago,
I don't know if it still goes
round or if you've heard or not.
But there was some religious organization
that paid for it, this the
saying was on billboards. I
think it's a good saying.
The saying is: families who
pray together, stay together.
Families who pray
together, stay together.
I'm pro prayer, just
in case you're wondering.
I am pro prayer. I pray a lot.
I appreciate prayer.
Wonderful. And my family, my kids
would tell you that our prayer
times together we're very rarely anything else
but a time for them to
cry. I was just awful
at family prayer times.
I was awful like let's get everyone
together and, you know, study the
Bible together. And I'm
a relatively good teacher.
But they were always train
wrecks, always train wrecks.
I believe you should be praying
with your family, I think it's
wonderful. But I tell you what I
found out is just as powerful and
maybe a starting place, maybe even
more potent is families that play
together, stay together.
Couples that play
together, stay together.
Friends who play
together, stay together.
Teams that play
together, stay together.
There's something about the relational
glue of being with somebody
and laughing that binds
us close together.
My kids could tell you nothing that
they remember of a formal family
kind of worship thing or Bible
study thing or a formal family
praying. They probably couldn't
recount a single one.
But my gosh, you get us started
talking about the stupid stories that
we have, they go on and
on and on and on.
Wherever we were in a pool, any
pool, anywhere, wherever it was, it
never -- it wasn't our own.
We never had a pool. Where ever it
was, there would be games in the
pool. You know, jump.
Hey, you all jump off those different
three marks and I'll throw a
ball to you and we'll keep score
of who catches the ball the most.
It's called circuit
Or I'd get them in there and I'd
throw them around the pool and I'd
have things like, oh, we're gonna
make this one washing machine.
I would just take them and go, just
jamming them up in the water, you
know, up, down, up, down, up, down.
And so this is gentle cycle.
And then I'd say,
this is deep cleansing.
I'd smash them up. And all
different kinds of stuff that --
They would laugh. [gasping]
That would laugh.
We lived in this little, little house
on Linwood Road in the Mount
Lookout part of area of Linwood
Road is a very busy road.
And on our yard, the backyard
wasn't conducive for a trampoline.
The front yard was a little
bit more conducive for a trampoline.
So we put it on the front yard.
And the trampoline had
a lean to it.
And neighbors love, by the way, when
you put a trampoline in your
front yard. They just --
they just love that.
So we would get -- We would
go out and do trampoline at night.
And they would come to me and
say, "Dad, let's go out to the
trampoline.". And I would do this little
game I didn't really want to
go. Because after an adult does the
trampoline a few times, it's just
not fun anymore, you know? So I'd
be like, "Ookay, after -- as soon
as I've finish my wine." And I would
take my wine and I'd go --
And I put it down and
keep talking to my wife.
And I would take -- I've taken
like half a drop of wine.
There's only this much wine, but I
took it down like that much.
I'd say, "Oh, let me finish."
I'd do it again. And these little
kids would be looking me going --
[laughter] They kept hoping that all the
wine was gone and then it
was gone I'd take them
out on the trampoline thing.
You know, it was great when they were
like two or one and a half.
They were just starting to walk.
And I used to love doing
backdrops where I would hold them.
So I would hold on my chest and
then come up backdrops, so their face
is coming straight down to the mat.
[yells], wham, you come back up,
it's wonderful, is was great stuff.
One time we're on the front there,
I say, "Hey, let's go sled
riding.". The best hill we had was
the front yard because the front
yard was very gentle and then
there was a drop off.
But remember, I said it
was a very busy street.
That's right. So the -- so the
snowplows would come down and they
plowed that big berm of snow and
so acted like a perfect jump
So here's an idea. Get up the top
and like sled down and I'll just
stand on the edge of like
this lane and I'll catch you.
That's exactly they did. They'd come
down and they'd fly through the
air in their saucer
and I'd catch them.
And then till someone swore at me,
they were very mad, who was
driving, driving by because it scared
the heck out of them.
And I stopped doing that. But
today still, whether it's going camping
as a family. I took the family
to Vegas a couple months ago.
You did? I did.
It was pretty awesome.
It was wonderful. It was. It
was -- it was really good.
Anything you can get going
with laughing with other people?
is going to bind you together,
change your neurochemistry, give you
zest for life.
NBC recently said this:.
I'll just say it this simple now: if
I can't -- if I can't laugh with
you, we're not going to be friends.
We're not. If I can't play with
you, we're not going to be friends.
I can be friendly to you and I
love you and I'm thankful for you and
care for you, but we only self
select to spend time with people who
we get a charge out of, who we
can play with, whatever the form of
play is. It may not be any of
the stupid stuff that I just mentioned.
But if your thing is birdwatching,
you're going to wanna play with
someone who birdwatches.
If your thing is skateboarding, it's gonna
be you want to be with
somebody who skateboards with you.
If your thing is finger painting, you're
going to want to be with
somebody who finger
paints with you.
Whatever it is, it
bonds us closer together.
And when we do this, we
start to change as a person.
We start to -- We
start to come alive.
One last quote from
my play heroes, Dr.
Stuart Brown, he says this:
The opposite of play is not work.
The opposite of play is depression.
And I'm not saying that everybody
who has clinical depression hasn't
been playing. I'm not saying that.
I am saying there's a heck of a
lot of us who walk around our heads
down who don't feel right.
There's a very simple solution.
You were created to play.
Your Heavenly Father made
you to play.
And if you can't identify when
you've been playing and when you've
been losing time, it only makes sense
that we'd be losing our minds.
It only makes sense.
There isn't a single parent I know
that's excited when his kid makes
the honor roll and all they do
is study, all they do is study.
In fact I know parents who
are very concerned about their kids
because they can't get their
face out of the books.
Eventually you start to grieve, like
you want to see your kids
laughing. You want to see your
kids running around a soccer field,
even if they're not any good.
You want to see your
kids in the sandbox.
You want to see your kids
at Taekwondo or doing something.
As parents, we understand this.
I'm telling you, this is
your Heavenly Father, He grieves.
He grieves when his children aren't
taking advantage of the gift of
pleasure. The gift of play.
I was surfing the Internet and I
ran across -- actually no, I didn't
Someone gave me a heads up of
this video that somebody made on their
And man, I think it's -- I
think it's insightful enough that we would
all be well served to watch it.
-I wanted to see if people in the
city were too busy to take a moment
for themselves. So I went downtown with
a group of friends and we
built a giant ball pit. And
I asked people this question:
-Excuse me, sir.
Are you busy? -I've got a meeting.
How busy? Are you too busy to
have fun for just like a couple
minutes? Hey, what's up man?
Are you busy right now?
-Um, a little bit.
Are you busy right now? We've got a
ball pit here e get off it here.
We just want to see if people
are too busy to have fun.
-A ball pit? -Yeah. You
want to jump in?
-You're in? -I'll do it.
-Let's have fun. -I'll
do it. -Awesome.
Let's do it. I'm coming.
I'm coming in. Baby.
[music and laughter]
-Yo, what's up? We're downtown.
-When was the last time you just
took a break to have fun?
-Really? Dan, what do you do?
. -Pretty stressful?
-Why do you think some people
are afraid of having fun?
-No problem, no problem. Have
a great day, man.
Thank you so much, man. I
appreciate. -This was good, man.
[cheers and applause} -Isn't that
good? Man, just something comes
alive inside just watching it.
And that last little piece
is just emotional, it's emotional.
There's a spiritual thing that happens
when we play because we're
doing something God has
wired us to do.
We're physically doing something
when we're playing.
It relationally bonds us.
And the result of this is
there is something emotional that takes
place in this.
Our fear subsides.
Our paranoia is subside.
Our stresses go away.
we forget about everything else.
That's why it's important to
have tactile multisensory play,
because the more of our humanity we
get involved in the whatever your
prefer play is,
the more of ourselves is preoccupied so
that it is not possible to
think about the things
we're stressed about.
It's not possible to
think about our problems.
They all just go away.
They vanish. And emotionally, this
is a huge thing.
One of my hobbies, it's a pretty
sick hobby, but I'll just tell you
what it is. One of my hobbies is
doing -- getting intel on people who
crash and burn their life.
So there's a lot of peers of
mine, people who do have similar lives
that I do, do a similar job that
I do, who just just check out, they
go off the deep rails. See, the thing
is, all of us are wired for
play. Your Heavenly Dad
wired you for play.
So you'll either take care of yourself
and you will play or you will
stay on the purpose bandwagon and
eventually you will find some kind
of play that is destructive
and will hurt you.
You will start abusing alcohol.
You will start to have -- you
will start to have an adulterous
affair. You will take up some
other addictive behavior that is a
secret vice and you will
be destroyed by it.
It's where -- all of
us have to play.
You will play one way or the other.
It will be healthy or
it will be destructive.
I'll be secretive. And that's one of the
things I found out when I do
these biopsies, autopsies of people who
have tanked their lives or
tanked their ministries.
A consistent theme is
they didn't have play.
They didn't have a hobby.
If I asked them, what
do you do for fun?
They'd go, "(stammering) Read
from my next sermon.
I really like reading.
I really like reading."
I like reading, too, but if I'm
reading for what I'm going to preach
about, that is work, that is
not play because I'm reading constantly
thinking, "Okay, well I can..."
Do you know? What is it? What
is it that you do for fun?
What is that?
The book of 1 Timothy 6:17
and following it says this:.
"As for the rich in this present age,"
which by the way, who is the
rich in this present age?
That would be anybody who has any
money to do anything outside of
your shelter, your utilities and your
food, because that's really all
you need. If you've got money
for anything else, you're rich because
most of the other rest of
the world can't do that.
...who richly provides us with everything
so we can help the poor.
No, it doesn't say that. God
who richly provides us with everything
so we have fat savings.
No, it doesn't say that. God
who richly provides us with everything
so we can feel good about
how much money we have.
No, it doesn't. God who richly provides
us with everything so we can
get our name on the museum.
No, it doesn't say that.
"God who richly provides us with
everything so we can enjoy it."
So in other words, if you've got any
sense of cash at all, a godly
expenditure of your money is to enjoy
your money, which means to play
with your money.
To buy play, to buy pleasure,
whatever that is, a vacation, a
scooter, a lesson to skydive, a
skateboard to zoom on, some roller
blades. I don't know, I mean
there are hundreds of different places
to play, and I have to work really
hard to think of ways that I
wouldn't play, because I
know I'm on.
I'm not naming the ways I play.
I'm thinking of all the ways that
everybody who is not like me can
play. You don't have to play like
me, but you do have to play.
You do have to play. So here's where
we're gone as we get ready to
get out of here today. We have
our first group meeting this week,
first group. It is not too
late to get in a group.
You want to be in a group.
You're not going be able to play if
you're not going to get in a
group. These are gonna be
very, very fun multisensory things.
You can still go to the app, to
the website and get in a group.
If you are a leader, you've got
to have the Crossroads app for your
leader, guys. If you're a leader of
one groups, you've got to have
the Crossroads app for
your leader guide.
If you don't have a guide,
go ahead and get your guide.
Okay? All right.
Then I think that's about it.
Let's -- (shouting)
A thousand dollars?
Some of you are
like, "A thousand dollars.
You said a thousand dollars.
What is it? Thousand dollars?".
Well, now that you ask, we are
going to have a treasure hunt where
you can get a thousand dollars.
There is a hidden treasure.
There is a hidden treasure
someplace on planet Earth.
And if you live in Ohio, Kentucky
or Indiana, you have a much better
shot at getting
this hidden treasure.
But anybody can get it anywhere.
And you're going to be talking
about that in your first group.
There's a thousand dollars to be had
if you -- not only the first
one. If you get to that treasure,
you'll be able to enter your name
for getting that thousand dollars.
You'll get more of that
in your group for details.
I'm also gonna give you a clue.
I'm going to buy
some followers on Instagram.
So if you want to come to check
me out on Instagram, I'm going to
give a clue in
my stories on Instagram.
All you need is someone in
your group who's Instagram friendly, or
maybe you want to try it yourself.
We're gonna give -- I'm gonna
give a clue this week.
It's gonna be one of
the ways we play.
You know, you need to know this.
Your Heavenly Dad is nuts about you.
He is. He' just nuts about you.
And He likes your smile.
He he likes to hear you laugh.
He even likes to hear 40 year
olds who weigh 300 pounds giggle.
He likes it.
He likes to see you use your
creativity to do things that are totally
unproductive and do nothing
but bring you joy.
You would do Him a great favor
to figure this thing out this Journey.
And that's why part of why this Journey
is here, to help all of us in
that area, because He's
really nuts about you.
And we need to get this one done.
We need t get this one right
for our ourselves, for our own sanity.
Come on. Your life
is not that important.
It's not. We don't have to
be as serious as we are.
We have what we have because our
God wants us to experience the
fullness of life. We've got
to play to do it.
God, I thank You that You're not
a taskmaster, You're not just some
rule maker and rule enforcer.
You're somebody who wants
us to detach.
Thank You for giving us the
truth that you've given us today.
I thank You that you've given us a
book like the Bible that has so
many examples of this, I couldn't
even get all of them today.
I pray for a spirit of levity to
come on every person who's in the
Journey, a spirit of levity.
That we would just get light and
we'll get happy and this would
enable us to be more prosperous.
I pray these things according
to the name of Jesus.
Amen. All right.
We'll see you next week.
Have fun at your groups.
It's not too late.
Get on them. -Well, the
treasure hunt is on.
You're not going to want to miss this.
So be on the lookout for that
first clue. And if you think you
figure out where the treasure is and
it's further than 200 miles
from where you live,
we want to enter you
into still win something special.
And so if you want to chat with
us and let us know where you think
the treasure is and give
us some information about you,
you'll be entered into win a five
hundred dollar gift card for your
whole group to share.
Because this is meant to be a
group thing, some play for your group
to do together. Find that treasure.
And so just chat with us when
you think you know where that treasure
is and you'll be entered into win.
Speaking of group, it's not too
late to get in a group.
Head to Crossroads.net/journey
to get in a Journey group.
This is your last chance, like these
24 hours are probably your last
chance. And if you're in a
group right now, that first group
gathering is this week.
And I hope it's a ton of
fun with lots of play for you.
We'll see you next week for week
three of the Play & Purpose Journey.