SPARK Talks 2019: Week 5

How often are you experiencing happiness? Meghan Pope shares how she finds joy regardless of her circumstances. Lena Schuler talks about having a meaningful life. Is it magic, math, or myth? Brian Tome talks about how you can have a prosperous life.

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I've been painting for years, but
it wasn't until about four

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years ago while I was studying abroad
in Spain that God gave me

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a vision for Hosanna revival.

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I had this idea to rebound
and paint my bilingual Bible because

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it was plain black and I
wanted it to be beautiful and

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personal, a reflection of the way
that the words on the inside

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really made me feel.

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There God sparked in me a vision
to use my artwork for something

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way beyond what I could
have ever imagined, something that

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would draw other women
closer to him.

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The vision was simple: use beautiful
artwork to attract women to

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scripture.

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It seemed crazy at first, and
it really wasn't being done

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anywhere else, but God showed
me where it could go.

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The question was, was
I willing to follow?

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Once I stopped wrestling and
said, yes, that spark finally

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caught and everything took
off from there.

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God makes cells, volcanoes, and literally
puts the stars in the

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sky.

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He makes every single
thing that exists.

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And I'm painting replicas
of his creations.

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God, the original creator, created me
in his image and sharing

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that with Him is such a gift.

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I think no matter what we're
creating, whether it's food in the

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kitchen or spaces for people
to feel welcomed and loved,

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knowing that our creations can really
draw people to Jesus is a

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fuel to the fire.

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And that's absolutely
why I create.

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I'm Katie and God is igniting
life in me through helping women

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discover the true creator.

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Yeah, I love hearing from people
who love what they do.

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It may not be my thing all
the time, but if you're passionate

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about what you're doing, then I
want to hear more about that.

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So, if we haven't met yet, my
name is Justin and one of the

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things I'm passionate
about is music.

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Music helps center me, it helps
ground me in a moment.

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It helps me express some things
that just other things can't or

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don't.

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And so around here we use
music to connect to God.

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We sing songs about
Him and to Him.

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And that's how we're
going to start today.

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So if you're in the room
with us, stand with us.

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If you're at home, turn it up.

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We're going to singing together.

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Jesus, the very whisper of
your name cancels out darkness.

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Jesus, your name destroys every single
thing that has tried to

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work against us to keep us down.

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Your name, Jesus, is enough.

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It's enough.

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So, God, I just pray over
every person in this room, every

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person watching, God, that they would
hear Your name and feel

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darkness flee.

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Got, that they would hear your name
and feel the weight come off

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of their shoulders.

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God, that they would hear Your name
and know that You know them.

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You know what they're going
through and you will lift

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burdens just with the
whisper of your name.

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So God, we praise
You, we thank You.

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We love You.

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In Your precious holy
name we pray. Amen.

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Well, ya'll sound great.

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It was amazing
worshipping with you.

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Seriously, it's an honor to
do this with you all.

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So we want you
to know each other.

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So why did you say hi
to someone next to you?

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Maybe tell them what you did

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yesterday. And then after you do that, have a
seat. I"m glad that you are here with us.

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It's no secret if you'd been around
a length of time that I like

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motorcycles, but you might not know
the origin of how that came

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about.

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It was the craziest, most stupid
idea I thought that I'd ever

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heard up to that point.

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I was in a group meeting with
a bunch of men in the mornings.

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We were meeting for
a couple of years.

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Then one of the guys said, "Hey,
why don't we -- Why don't we

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take our wives, fly out to
Vegas, rent motorcycles and like

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hang out for four days
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And I thought that
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It was outside my mind of
how someone should spend their time,.

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outside my mind of how
someone should spend their money.

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I hadn't written a motorcycle since
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and I was married for three weeks
and I sold it because we were

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low on cash.

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And I hadn't written a motorcycle
since and I hadn't thought of

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riding one since.

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And my body was on
overdrive, medically speaking, my adrenal

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glands were fried.

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They were open all the
time worrying about budget things,

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staffing things, preaching things,
all kind of stuff.

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And so play was nowhere
on my mind at all.

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We decided to go because I put
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will be sort of ministry, so
I could actually make it work

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because I'm trying to build on
these guys and their marriages.

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So I'll be able to do that.".

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And what I experienced
blew me away.

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I got restored, I got refreshed,
and it actually opened up an

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entire new lease on life.

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Two things I've learned that make
life work, purpose and play.

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If you don't have purpose,
your life won't work.

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And if you don't have
play, your life won't work.

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I can think of
these on two axis.

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I've kind of devised this.

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I've been thrown around people and
it seems to make sense.

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We have the x axis, which is
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play.

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These are two things that if
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life is not going to work well.

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What is purpose?

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Purpose is when you have a point
for living that day, when you

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have a to do list, you have
things you've got to get done.

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You've got people you've
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You've got something that's propelling you
to get up in the day.

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It's moving your day forward.

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That's why I like it
on the x axis.

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You're kind of moving.

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It's like chop,
chop, chop, chop.

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What is play?

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Play is utterly unproductive.

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You're not moving.

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You're not chop chop.

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If you are moving and chop chop
on a motorcycle at 80 miles an

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hour, you're moving and chop,
chopping because you're not

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thinking about anything else that's
going to add to your

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paycheck.

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You don't thinking about anything
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your notoriety with people.

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You're not thinking about anything
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that time.

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You are off and you
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When you see that the intersection
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see somebody who has in the
lower right corner, who has all

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purpose, they're going where
they need to go.

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They're work in bookoo
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I don't even know what bookoo hours
is, but bookoo for you might

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not be bookoo for you.

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It's a matter of
your own personal capacity.

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When you see somebody that's all
about where they're going, what

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they're doing, and that's all
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about, their life eventually
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This is where I was.

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My adrenal glands were fried.

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I was breaking down physically,
gaining weight, back getting

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worse and worse.

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I was having to convince myself
to do things like preach, which

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I love and I know is important,
but I was having to convince

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myself and try to fire
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There was all kinds of fraying on
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place because I was about
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stuff was important stuff and
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or play, life
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If you are all play, all
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that is productive.

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If that's all --
That's another extreme thing.

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If you're in the upper left.

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If you're all the way up
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What is the point to your life?

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This is, by the way, why these
things are very clear, when you

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retire and your goal is just to
not have purpose, it's to golf

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or watch Price is Right
or whatever it is.

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When you do that, statistics are
very clear, you die sooner

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because we all need to
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And so we're only playing,
we're only detaching, we're only

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watching TV, we're only reading novels,
we're not going to have

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something, it's going
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If you have no play in your life
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life, you have a pitiful life.

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It is pitiful. Nothing

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is good going on in
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Where I want to get more of us
to, it's where I am right now, I

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have been for a while.

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I want to get more and more
people to, in fact, we're going to

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do a journey in this fall.

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A journey is something we haven't done
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we're going to do on this fall.

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It is a -- it is a full
on creative press to try to bring an

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area of spiritual growth
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We're going to do it this fall.

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So we will shut things down
around Crossroads and we have the

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best services we possibly can that
coincide with groups that we

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all get in and awesome stuff we
can do at home if we want.

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And it's going to be
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quadrants.

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It's going to be around
this entire matrix actually having

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purpose in play.

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It's going to be getting to
a place where you prosper.

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Where you prosper.

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When you have a high degree of
play and when you have purpose,

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your life, there is a
prosperity that comes to you.

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Now, I hate to use that
word almost because unfortunately that

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word prosperity has been
hijacked by the televangelists.

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And that word is only used
by some pastors in relationships who

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you should give, you should give
more so God prospers you.

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And to be clear, I'm
a big fan of giving.

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The closer I get to Jesus, the
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And He's a giver.

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He gave His life.

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So that's a
great, great message.

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But that is such a fine
smidgen of what prosperity is worth.

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Thirty one hundred times in the
Bible the word prosperity is

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used.

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Over thirty one hundred.

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Let me say it, over thirty one
hundred times in the Bible the

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word prosperity is used.

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Here's one of the early ones.

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Deuteronomy 22:9:

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You may prosper.

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You may succeed and all you do.

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Having prosperity, it's being in a
land that is lush, it's being

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in land where there
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It's being in a land where
you don't feel impinge upon and

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squashed on.

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It's like there's
wide open spaces.

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You're just -- you're just --
you're just living large, enjoying

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and cruising through life.

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And this is why God talks about
this word, there's all kind of

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angles to this word.

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Over thirty one hundred times.

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The Book of Jeremiah
44:17, it says:

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Man, it's an awesome thing when
you have plenty of food.

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In fact, when all your needs are met
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wants are met.

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That is amazing.

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One more, Psalm 1:3, it says
this: He -- Who is he?

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He is somebody who is being blessed
by God, who is close by

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God.

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Now, there's a lot
of going on here.

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We imagine or you can see this,
there's a body of water here

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that's going by here.

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Right?

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And you've got this
tree that's growing.

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And whenever a tree is growing and
its roots are going into the

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ground, it's going into ground
that's right beside the water

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table and it's an
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It's luscious, moist ground.

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Some of us really don't like
that word moist, I know.

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Do you not like the word? Who

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doesn't like the word moist?

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Just raise your hand.

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All right.

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I will not say moist anymore.

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So, it's this land where all
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there and the roots are growing.

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And when this happens, this
tree starts blossoming, growing.

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It's a figure for what our life
should be like, we should be

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planted beside God, where we're
feeling His presence and where

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the our hearts going deeper and
we're getting more and more

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grounded in character and
in His truth.

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And while this happens, it
says: Fruit comes out.

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Now, I think it's
interesting that it's fruit.

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It doesn't say vegetables.

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It says fruit.

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I am pro vegans.

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I am pro vegetarianism.

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I'm not one because
animals taste too good.

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They just do.

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But I am pro it because every day,
I have a lot of salads and I

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just I --every time I'm like,
"I think I could become a

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vegetarian. I really could."

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It's wonderful.

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It's wonderful.

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But like I said that I like
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But here is here is the
thing that's interesting about this

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And people are very specific when
you want to really, really be

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healthy and you want to get
vegan, they're more specific saying

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it needs be a
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What are they saying by that?

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Well, it's basically vegetable
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Fruit is God's dessert.

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Fruit is God's way to
play with our taste buds.

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Fruit is God's way to give
us strawberries and blackberries and

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explode.

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If all God was concerned about
was the purpose, the purpose of

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you having fuel and energy to do
the stuff that you need to do,

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then there wouldn't be any
need for fruit because desert.

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If you really want to be healthy
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animals, you need to do broccoli
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And I like all those things.

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But it's interesting, this
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So when we prosper. there

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is an advance in our life.

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We feel like we're advancing.

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We feel like we're
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We can see points
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The metrics are looking good.

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There are things that
we can measure.

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And we're feeling pleasure and
we're playing and our tastebuds

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are dancing just because God is
good and because we are human

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beings, we aren't human doings.

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If all we're doing is that
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So my request for you is
this summer, the rest of the

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summer, take care yourself.

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Don't leave vacation days
on the table.

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Take care of yourself.

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Know what it is you
need to accomplish every week.

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As we get closer to this fall
we're going to amp this up because

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we want the best view it's gonna
be called the Play and Purpose

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Journey and it's going
to be really effective.

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Man, it's good to be with
you, my name's Lena Schuler.

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I'm the Crossroads
Anywhere Community Pastor.

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And just last week, we were
out visiting our community in

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Newport Beach, California.

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One of the people in that
community who's part of the watch

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party that happens there
is my friend Meghan.

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And Meghan's got a
pretty sweet story.

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And she actually might be the
most joyful person that I know.

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So, why don't we check out
what Meghan has to say.

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Hi, I'm Meghan, and I'm out
here in Orange County, California.

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[ cheers and applause ]

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We gather friends from Cincinnati and
friends who are locals to

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meet and do life together.

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I'm from Cincinnati originally and
actually met Jesus while

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I was a college student at
the University of Cincinnati through

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Crossroads.

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When I was a college student, this
is a great way to invite your

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friends to church if
you ever need one.

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I had some friends who said, "Come
over for a girls wine night.

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We're having wine at our
house in our living room.".

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Great way to bait and switch
your friends into a Bible study,

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which is what I walked into
in my friend's living room.

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I met Jesus there.

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I got baptized in a bar.

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It was awesome.

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And now I live in Orange
County, California, and do life with

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some awesome people out here.

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Just this last weekend, I had
an opportunity to talk about what

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life is like being in community when
I had a friend come visit

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California and say, "How did you
make so many friends after

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college? Nobody makes friends
after college that easily.

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And that's super hard to do.

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What is your secret?".

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And I said, "The
Crossroads Anywhere map.

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You obviously just go to church
and you make friends at church.

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Like what does other -- what
does any 23 year old do?

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That's super normal.

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Right?".

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And encouraged her to go seek that
out because I have found the

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most amazing community out here and
get to encourage her on

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towards her faith and getting to
seek that out for herself

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because that is where joy comes
from, is from friends and

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having community like this.

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When I was in college and met
Jesus, it was not easy at first.

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It was super crazy to be in
a world filled with people who were

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always wanting to go out.

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And I used to want to
do that and I still did.

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But I didn't want to at the
same time, because I really wanted

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to live the life that God had for
me and walk away from some of

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those things as hard as it was.

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So when I met Jesus, I was
living with my best friend at the

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time, literally sharing a room.

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And my friends, my roommates, people
I was in class with would

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say things like, "Why
aren't you fun anymore?

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Like what happened to you?

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Why don't you do the
things you used to do?

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"

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And I actually got to say all
the time, "Well, I go to this

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awesome church, you should
come with me.

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I want you to
have your life changed.

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And I want you to experience
the joy that I've experienced in

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that community and knowing
life with God.

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So please come with me, because
that's the best gift you can

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give a friend is to invite them
to know the God who made them

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and who loves them.

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So at the end of college,
right after graduation, I actually got

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to baptize my best friend, who I
was living with at the time.

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And there is no greater joy in
the entire world than getting to

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do that.

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We're on a Go Trip together
and it was the coolest thing.

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And she gets to live in that
same joy and we get to share

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stories of what God is doing in
our life all the time now,

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which is so incredible.

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Now, in the workplace, I just
recently had something happen in

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my professional life, which most people
think has nothing to do

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with your church life or with
God, but really it does.

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I've learned a lot about money.

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I've learned a lot about how
to be a hard worker.

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I've learned a lot about how to let
my -- do the things I say

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I'm going to do and how to be
good on my word and really be a

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great employee because of the
things I've learned in church.

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I was in my desk recently
and had the funniest, coolest thing

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happen.

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I found out I was getting a
tax return and I live in California.

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So, if you don't know that, that
means no one gets a tax return.

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It means that you don't
get a tax return.

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It's not a thing that happens.

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But because I was tithing and just
giving the way that I learned

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to handle my money.

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My co-workers asked me, "Well, how the
heck did you get a tax

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return? You know, what
do you do?".

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And I got to talk to them
about giving and why I give.

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And that's -- that was not
a big deal for me.

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So recently in a staff meeting, I
had a co-worker say to me,

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"You know, I've really been
thinking differently about how I

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want to spend my money and how
I want to be generous because of

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what you said.

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And because of what
that inspired in me."

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So that was a really -- I mean,
that brought me so much joy to

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be able to experience someone else
taking that on for themself

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and hopefully getting to now
be generous as well.

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So in all of these different
stages of life, or whether it's

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someone from the past reaching
out, saying, "Hey, I've noticed

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your joy on social media.

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I'm going through a really hard time
and you just are full of

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joy and you have great friends.

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And that's not really common in
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What's what's the secret?".

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Well, the secret is Jesus.

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The secret is you go to church
and you make good friends and you

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live in community with other people
and you get to do fun

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things together and you get together
in homes like this with

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amazingly hospitable people.

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And you get to do
that because of following Jesus.

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So in any different setting in
life, in any different scenario,

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there is so much joy in
sharing Jesus with friends and in

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inviting them with you to experience
the life that you have

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because of your life with Jesus.

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And it's brought so much joy to
my life, and it will bring so

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much joy to your life as well.

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And if you're on the Crossroads
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somewhere to go on vacation or
take your group, your living

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room full of people on a domestic
go trip, come join us out

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here in California.

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It's amazing.

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And this is the best place in the
world to do church and do life

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with people.

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So... [ cheers and applause ]

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I couldn't even count the number
of times that I've been sitting

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around a table or someone's
living room and the conversation

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has come up, "What am
I doing with my life?

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What's my purpose? Is

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what I'm doing meaningful,
does it matter?"

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I can think specifically of one
dinner I had, it was shortly

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after I graduated college and my
very best friends came over

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for dinner in my apartment.

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We were sitting around the table
in the kitchen and we're just

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talking about how life is going.

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And most of my friends, all of my friends
took 8 to 5, 8 to 6, 9

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to 9.

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I don't know,
corporate jobs, OK?

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And so we're sitting around this table
and I was the only one in

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my friend group that didn't go
work at a big company after

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college.

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And I remember sitting there and
we're just talking about how

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work's going, how life's going.

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And one person after another around
that table at some point had

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a bit of an emotional breakdown.

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And the conversation went a
little something like this.

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"I just don't know what
I'm supposed to be doing."

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"I don't know if I'm
even passionate about this job.".

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I don't know if I have
any purpose at 10:00 a.m.

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on a Tuesday or 4:00 p.m.

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on a Friday."

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And person after person had
the same feelings, the same

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experiences.

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And I was sitting there and for
the maybe the first time, I

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wasn't the one crying
around the table.

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Usually I'm, I can
be fairly emotional.

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And I wasn't for myself in that
moment, but my heart broke for

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my friends who just were feeling
so lost and purposeless and

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like they didn't have meaning.

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And I can honestly say I don't
-- I don't feel like that right

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now.

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I didn't feel like
that then either.

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I felt this sense
of purpose and meaning.

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And it's not because I
work at a church.

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It actually has nothing to do with
the fact that I work at a

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church.

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And so there's this whole
idea of a meaningful life.

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Like, how do we get it?

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Is it even possible?

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Is it a myth?

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Is it magic?

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Is it math?

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It's really simple, actually.

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It's just going deeper into
your relationship with God and

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inviting other people into
it with you.

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It's inviting other people to
experience whatever it is that

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you're experiencing.

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And whether that means that you
believe in God this much, you're

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00:32:40.610 --> 00:32:43.640
not even sure yet
really if He's real.

481
00:32:44.150 --> 00:32:48.260
Or if you and God are tight
and you've been in this powerful,

482
00:32:48.950 --> 00:32:51.680
amazing relationship with God for
the last 20 years.

483
00:32:51.710 --> 00:32:55.340
Wherever you are on that spectrum,
God wants to do something in

484
00:32:55.340 --> 00:32:55.670
you.

485
00:32:55.940 --> 00:32:58.730
He is doing something
in you right now.

486
00:32:59.150 --> 00:33:02.870
And if you choose to invite other
people into it and share it

487
00:33:03.140 --> 00:33:05.630
with the people that you're around
day in and day out, the

488
00:33:05.630 --> 00:33:08.150
people that mean the most to you,
your life is going to have

489
00:33:08.150 --> 00:33:11.180
meaning, it's gonna be purposeful,
it's going to matter.

490
00:33:12.140 --> 00:33:13.580
I really, really,
truly believe that.

491
00:33:13.580 --> 00:33:16.250
And I believe that
because I've experienced it.

492
00:33:16.850 --> 00:33:20.210
And again, not because I
work at a church.

493
00:33:20.420 --> 00:33:23.030
It actually has nothing to
do with my job.

494
00:33:23.660 --> 00:33:28.400
It's all of the time and all
of the opportunities outside of my

495
00:33:28.400 --> 00:33:31.460
Monday through Friday, 8:00
to 6:00 job.

496
00:33:33.350 --> 00:33:37.670
I am the person that loves
sharing the new things that I

497
00:33:37.670 --> 00:33:38.210
experience.

498
00:33:38.300 --> 00:33:38.990
I love it.

499
00:33:39.020 --> 00:33:39.320
I love it.

500
00:33:39.350 --> 00:33:42.380
So if I see a great
movie, you're gonna hear about it.

501
00:33:42.470 --> 00:33:44.900
If you're looking for a date
night and you live in the

502
00:33:44.900 --> 00:33:48.950
Cincinnati area, let me plan in it
for you, because I want you

503
00:33:48.950 --> 00:33:52.250
to experience the best restaurants
and the best things that

504
00:33:52.250 --> 00:33:52.940
I've experienced.

505
00:33:53.240 --> 00:33:55.160
Shout out to Sotto,
Nada, and Boca.

506
00:33:55.550 --> 00:33:58.160
David Falk, I hope I get
a gift card out of this.

507
00:33:58.730 --> 00:34:00.760
Best restaurants you'll ever
go to in Cincinnati.

508
00:34:01.020 --> 00:34:05.060
Anyways, if I get a great deal
on shoes, I'm gonna tell you when

509
00:34:05.060 --> 00:34:07.370
you compliment my shoes, I'm gonna
tell you how much they cost

510
00:34:07.550 --> 00:34:09.650
because you better believe that
they were on sale.

511
00:34:09.890 --> 00:34:12.230
And I want you to get the good
deal and I want you to get to

512
00:34:12.230 --> 00:34:14.180
celebrate the good
thing with me.

513
00:34:14.510 --> 00:34:17.330
That's just part of who I
am and how I'm wired.

514
00:34:17.780 --> 00:34:20.450
And here's the thing with your
relationship with God, I can

515
00:34:20.450 --> 00:34:24.410
remember sitting standing in my
kitchen in college, actually.

516
00:34:24.740 --> 00:34:27.710
And one of my roommates, I wasn't
really sure where she was in

517
00:34:27.710 --> 00:34:28.010
her faith.

518
00:34:28.030 --> 00:34:31.790
I wasn't really sure kind of what
she believed at all about God.

519
00:34:32.210 --> 00:34:34.520
And I just flat out
asked her one time.

520
00:34:35.030 --> 00:34:37.310
She was getting something out of
the freezer and she said to

521
00:34:37.310 --> 00:34:37.580
me,.

522
00:34:38.300 --> 00:34:43.100
Well, yeah, I believe in God.

523
00:34:43.160 --> 00:34:45.950
But it's it's just kind
of between me and God.

524
00:34:46.460 --> 00:34:48.920
It's a thing that I
actually think is really personal.

525
00:34:50.130 --> 00:34:52.960
And then she went back to the
freezer and did the thing that she

526
00:34:52.960 --> 00:34:53.410
was doing.

527
00:34:54.310 --> 00:34:55.200
I remember thinking.

528
00:34:56.660 --> 00:34:58.040
Between you and God.

529
00:34:59.850 --> 00:35:00.540
Is that right?

530
00:35:00.750 --> 00:35:02.070
Is it just between you and God?

531
00:35:03.530 --> 00:35:06.020
And now I believe, no.

532
00:35:06.440 --> 00:35:08.750
Whatever you're experiencing with
God, whatever your

533
00:35:08.750 --> 00:35:13.340
relationship or lack there of with
Him is, it's not just

534
00:35:13.340 --> 00:35:14.000
between you and God.

535
00:35:14.060 --> 00:35:17.630
It's between you, God, and
everybody that you meet, everybody

536
00:35:17.630 --> 00:35:20.240
that you touch, everybody that
you do life with.

537
00:35:20.600 --> 00:35:22.990
It is not a thing
between you and God.

538
00:35:23.000 --> 00:35:26.150
It's a thing between you, God and
all of your friends and your

539
00:35:26.150 --> 00:35:27.260
family and your roommates.

540
00:35:27.560 --> 00:35:32.540
When God's doing something in you
and you're experiencing Him in

541
00:35:32.540 --> 00:35:34.100
new and fresh ways.

542
00:35:34.910 --> 00:35:38.840
So as a kid growing up in
church, you know, there were those few

543
00:35:38.840 --> 00:35:42.650
Bible songs, those few church songs
that we all kind of learned

544
00:35:42.650 --> 00:35:47.060
in Sunday school or Kids' Club, whatever
you were a part of as

545
00:35:47.060 --> 00:35:47.480
a kid.

546
00:35:47.930 --> 00:35:51.920
You know the songs like the
B-I-B-L-E, yes, that's the book for

547
00:35:51.920 --> 00:35:55.690
me. I stand alone on the
word of God, the B-I-B-L-E.

548
00:35:56.240 --> 00:35:56.930
Do you know that one?

549
00:35:57.170 --> 00:35:59.340
If you didn't, you should learn
it because it'll help you spell

550
00:35:59.340 --> 00:35:59.780
the Bible.

551
00:36:00.530 --> 00:36:01.910
But there were others too.

552
00:36:02.210 --> 00:36:04.730
One of them was This
Little Light of Mine.

553
00:36:04.820 --> 00:36:05.780
Do you guys remember that one?

554
00:36:06.460 --> 00:36:11.270
It went: This little light of
mine, I'm gonna let it shine.

555
00:36:11.630 --> 00:36:15.410
This little light of mine,
I'm gonna let it shine.

556
00:36:15.770 --> 00:36:18.920
It goes on and on and it
says, hide it under a bushel.

557
00:36:19.010 --> 00:36:21.170
No, I'm gonna let it shine.

558
00:36:21.500 --> 00:36:23.600
Don't let Satan it
out (poof) it out.

559
00:36:23.900 --> 00:36:25.100
I'm gonna let it shine.

560
00:36:25.130 --> 00:36:28.730
And it goes on to just talk
about how we've got this little

561
00:36:28.730 --> 00:36:30.770
light and we should
let it shine.

562
00:36:31.100 --> 00:36:35.180
Well, that actually comes
directly from the Bible.

563
00:36:35.190 --> 00:36:39.410
We just made a kid's song out of
it that's kind of cheesy, but I

564
00:36:39.410 --> 00:36:41.450
remember it 28 years later.

565
00:36:42.170 --> 00:36:44.240
And this is where it comes from,
it comes from the book of

566
00:36:44.240 --> 00:36:46.490
Matthew, in Chapter 5.

567
00:36:46.520 --> 00:36:49.100
And Jesus, man, Jesus
had a meaningful life.

568
00:36:49.430 --> 00:36:50.510
Jesus had a life that mattered.

569
00:36:50.540 --> 00:36:56.030
I mean, we're here in 2019,
still referencing him, talking about

570
00:36:56.030 --> 00:36:56.330
him.

571
00:36:56.600 --> 00:37:00.440
I'm actually modeling my life after
His, trying to be like Him.

572
00:37:00.710 --> 00:37:02.870
I'd say his life
was pretty meaningful.

573
00:37:03.350 --> 00:37:07.760
And so He gives us some,
like, instruction on how to live.

574
00:37:08.030 --> 00:37:10.910
And he's doing this to a whole
crowd of people on a mountain in

575
00:37:10.910 --> 00:37:11.570
Matthew 5.

576
00:37:11.570 --> 00:37:12.380
And this is what he says:.

577
00:37:39.360 --> 00:37:42.810
Jesus was living such a meaningful
life that crowds of people

578
00:37:42.810 --> 00:37:46.250
were following Him and just
like sitting there listening,

579
00:37:46.260 --> 00:37:47.670
wanting to listen to what
He had to say.

580
00:37:47.910 --> 00:37:50.100
And this is one of the
things that He says to them.

581
00:37:50.850 --> 00:37:54.120
And we hear Jesus referred to as
the light of the world, but

582
00:37:54.570 --> 00:37:56.580
right here you know
what He's saying?

583
00:37:56.580 --> 00:37:59.670
He says, "You are the
light of the world."

584
00:37:59.940 --> 00:38:00.600
You.

585
00:38:01.170 --> 00:38:05.730
That means if Jesus is doing something
in you, then you are the

586
00:38:05.730 --> 00:38:06.510
light of the world.

587
00:38:06.540 --> 00:38:10.950
And what He's doing in you is
going to light up your house, your

588
00:38:10.950 --> 00:38:13.110
family, all of your friends.

589
00:38:13.560 --> 00:38:16.560
And so if God is doing something
in you, you can't hide it under

590
00:38:16.560 --> 00:38:17.110
a bushel.

591
00:38:17.130 --> 00:38:19.080
You can't hide it
under a basket.

592
00:38:19.110 --> 00:38:22.290
It should be on a lamp
stand lighting up your whole home,

593
00:38:22.380 --> 00:38:25.170
lighting up all of your
friendships, lighting up your

594
00:38:25.170 --> 00:38:26.070
workplace.

595
00:38:26.640 --> 00:38:32.340
And I found that when I let
my light shine, when I let what

596
00:38:32.340 --> 00:38:36.090
Jesus is doing in me out for
other people to see and other

597
00:38:36.090 --> 00:38:37.780
people to experience.

598
00:38:38.340 --> 00:38:43.740
Oh, my gosh, the amount of
meaning and purpose that is brought

599
00:38:43.740 --> 00:38:45.450
to my life is unbelievable.

600
00:38:45.540 --> 00:38:49.980
And so I just want to share with
you some of the things that I

601
00:38:49.980 --> 00:38:54.120
do, some of the things that
I've been practicing and trying to

602
00:38:54.120 --> 00:38:56.610
get better at to
let my light shine.

603
00:38:56.610 --> 00:38:58.590
Some of the things I've been
practicing trying to get better at,

604
00:38:58.830 --> 00:39:04.680
to invite people into experience
God with me and

605
00:39:05.220 --> 00:39:06.180
it's been giving me purpose.

606
00:39:06.270 --> 00:39:09.140
And I hope that it might
give you some purpose, too.

607
00:39:09.180 --> 00:39:10.110
So here's the first thing.

608
00:39:11.800 --> 00:39:14.440
I regularly choose to pray.

609
00:39:14.920 --> 00:39:17.560
Now there's all kinds of ways we
can pray, all kinds of things

610
00:39:17.560 --> 00:39:18.370
we can pray about.

611
00:39:18.550 --> 00:39:23.560
But specifically, I pray for my
friends who I want to experience

612
00:39:23.560 --> 00:39:23.820
God.

613
00:39:24.250 --> 00:39:26.440
I pray for them by name.

614
00:39:26.860 --> 00:39:30.040
I pray for them regularly
in a regular rhythm.

615
00:39:30.370 --> 00:39:34.780
And so one of the things that
we started doing as little kids in

616
00:39:34.780 --> 00:39:38.380
my house growing up was
we had a paste list.

617
00:39:39.040 --> 00:39:42.310
This was a list of names that
went on our bathroom mirror that

618
00:39:42.400 --> 00:39:46.330
every time we pulled out our
toothpaste and brush our teeth

619
00:39:46.540 --> 00:39:50.590
twice a day for 60 seconds
apiece, as the dentist says, we'd

620
00:39:50.590 --> 00:39:52.540
stand there brushing our teeth.

621
00:39:52.540 --> 00:39:53.140
Brush our teeth.

622
00:39:53.440 --> 00:39:54.880
And, you know, you're kind of
standing there looking at yourself

623
00:39:54.880 --> 00:39:55.520
in the mirror.

624
00:39:55.590 --> 00:39:57.520
Maybe you're like thinking
about your day.

625
00:39:57.880 --> 00:40:00.850
And instead, what you could do
is you actually could look at

626
00:40:00.850 --> 00:40:04.420
that list of names on your
bathroom mirror and for 60 seconds,

627
00:40:04.450 --> 00:40:07.720
twice a day while you brush your
teeth, you can pray for your

628
00:40:07.720 --> 00:40:11.590
friends and your family by name
who you want to experience

629
00:40:11.620 --> 00:40:12.560
Jesus

630
00:40:12.560 --> 00:40:13.360
I do this right now.

631
00:40:13.600 --> 00:40:16.660
We just moved into a brand new
house and I just wrote the names

632
00:40:16.660 --> 00:40:18.730
on my mirror yesterday.

633
00:40:18.790 --> 00:40:20.860
Here's a picture of the names.

634
00:40:21.280 --> 00:40:24.220
Hopefully you can't actually really read
them because if one of

635
00:40:24.220 --> 00:40:27.850
you is here and watches this
it might -- it's fine.

636
00:40:28.450 --> 00:40:32.860
And so these are the names of
people that I love dearly, that I

637
00:40:32.860 --> 00:40:36.490
want to experience God the way
that I'm experiencing God right

638
00:40:36.490 --> 00:40:36.790
now.

639
00:40:37.520 --> 00:40:38.860
You know, we can work.

640
00:40:38.890 --> 00:40:40.870
And when we work, we work.

641
00:40:41.570 --> 00:40:44.110
And when we pray, God works.

642
00:40:44.530 --> 00:40:49.030
And so there is an opportunity for
us to pray regularly for the

643
00:40:49.030 --> 00:40:53.980
people that we want to experience
God the way that we are

644
00:40:53.980 --> 00:40:55.090
experiencing him.

645
00:40:56.350 --> 00:40:58.870
I Timothy 2:1-5 says:.

646
00:41:17.950 --> 00:41:21.460
One of these people that I
did this with was Meghan.

647
00:41:22.030 --> 00:41:25.630
Meghan, The Spark Talk that you just
saw was someone who I met

648
00:41:25.870 --> 00:41:30.460
as an eager beaver freshman
wearing a lanyard walking around

649
00:41:30.460 --> 00:41:31.180
campus.

650
00:41:31.540 --> 00:41:34.750
And she was so far from God.

651
00:41:34.780 --> 00:41:37.660
And she wouldn't mind me telling
you that because she believes

652
00:41:37.660 --> 00:41:39.560
that to be true
and she tells everybody.

653
00:41:39.850 --> 00:41:43.660
And I put her name on the
mirror in my bedroom in college.

654
00:41:43.660 --> 00:41:47.860
And every time I curled my hair
or straighten my hair or did

655
00:41:47.860 --> 00:41:50.530
anything to my hair, I
would pray for Meghan.

656
00:41:51.280 --> 00:41:56.980
And man, three years after that
first prayer, I actually got to

657
00:41:56.980 --> 00:41:58.830
watch Meghan receive Jesus.

658
00:41:58.900 --> 00:41:59.890
I got to be part of that.

659
00:41:59.920 --> 00:42:00.940
I got to baptize her.

660
00:42:00.970 --> 00:42:03.310
And now Meghan is
sharing her faith.

661
00:42:03.610 --> 00:42:07.480
Meghan is sharing what she's
experiencing with God with all

662
00:42:07.480 --> 00:42:10.330
kinds of other people all
the way across the country.

663
00:42:10.390 --> 00:42:11.650
And it's beautiful.

664
00:42:12.040 --> 00:42:17.380
And. oh, my is that fulfilling and
does that bring meaning to my

665
00:42:17.380 --> 00:42:17.800
life.

666
00:42:18.600 --> 00:42:25.180
Now, here's the second thing that I
do is I actually use my

667
00:42:25.180 --> 00:42:25.810
words.

668
00:42:26.230 --> 00:42:31.150
I talk to the people that I
want to experience God and I share

669
00:42:31.150 --> 00:42:36.030
with them what He's doing in
me, what he's doing around me.

670
00:42:36.040 --> 00:42:39.580
And I want them to know, I
want them to hear my story.

671
00:42:39.600 --> 00:42:43.600
And this doesn't mean that, like,
I have this five minute deal,

672
00:42:43.600 --> 00:42:46.800
this spiel that I tell people from
start to finish tied up with

673
00:42:46.800 --> 00:42:49.360
a bow of how God changed
my life and everything's amazing.

674
00:42:49.600 --> 00:42:50.530
No, not at all.

675
00:42:51.250 --> 00:42:54.370
It means when someone asks me
the question, "Hey, what's new?"

676
00:42:54.790 --> 00:42:59.380
I intentionally think about what's
something I could share that

677
00:43:00.070 --> 00:43:04.270
might pique their interest in
what I'm experiencing at the

678
00:43:04.270 --> 00:43:04.660
church

679
00:43:04.690 --> 00:43:08.680
or might pique their interest in
what I'm experiencing with God.

680
00:43:09.140 --> 00:43:13.720
And so I intentionally have to think
about how am I going to use

681
00:43:13.720 --> 00:43:16.840
my words to share with
other people what God's doing?

682
00:43:18.130 --> 00:43:22.690
One of these times -- I have
a friend who a few years ago,

683
00:43:22.690 --> 00:43:27.820
really unexpectedly lost her
mom of cancer.

684
00:43:29.130 --> 00:43:32.910
And so when I say unexpectedly, I
mean, none of us expect to

685
00:43:32.910 --> 00:43:36.510
lose a parent at
20 something, right?

686
00:43:36.590 --> 00:43:39.300
Before we get married, before we
have kids, before we hit all

687
00:43:39.300 --> 00:43:40.680
these major milestones.

688
00:43:41.250 --> 00:43:47.130
And so we were actually at one
of the local bars together, the

689
00:43:47.130 --> 00:43:48.330
big group of friends.

690
00:43:48.720 --> 00:43:51.630
And it was the day that
her mom had, passed away.

691
00:43:51.630 --> 00:43:56.220
And so she came in just
emotional and really not well.

692
00:43:57.820 --> 00:44:00.850
And I debated, I was
like, should I? Should

693
00:44:00.980 --> 00:44:03.230
I say something, should I
not say something? Like

694
00:44:03.260 --> 00:44:05.030
what's helpful in this moment?

695
00:44:05.990 --> 00:44:10.430
And I felt like, man, I've
really experienced the comfort of

696
00:44:10.430 --> 00:44:10.820
God.

697
00:44:11.180 --> 00:44:14.750
I've experienced the peace
that surpasses all understanding.

698
00:44:14.780 --> 00:44:19.910
I've experienced hope that comes
after death, maybe way, way

699
00:44:19.910 --> 00:44:20.780
after death.

700
00:44:21.500 --> 00:44:23.120
And I wanted that for her.

701
00:44:23.150 --> 00:44:25.400
And I didn't want to
keep that a secret.

702
00:44:25.430 --> 00:44:29.150
I didn't -- I didn't want to
just sit there and have a beer

703
00:44:29.150 --> 00:44:30.860
with her and pretend
like nothing happened.

704
00:44:30.860 --> 00:44:35.750
And so I just asked her, I
said, "Hey, you know, one of the

705
00:44:35.750 --> 00:44:38.660
things that's been really helpful
for me is just prayer.

706
00:44:38.690 --> 00:44:42.500
Like when I talk to God,
I actually feel something different.

707
00:44:42.530 --> 00:44:46.400
And I know that this is really
crappy and this is really hard.

708
00:44:46.850 --> 00:44:51.350
I would love to just pray for you
to be able to feel comfort in

709
00:44:51.350 --> 00:44:53.660
the midst of this if
you're OK with that.".

710
00:44:54.050 --> 00:44:56.660
And of course, she's through
tears like nods her head.

711
00:44:57.270 --> 00:45:00.620
And so I get to pray
for my friend who's experiencing something

712
00:45:00.620 --> 00:45:01.220
terrible.

713
00:45:01.930 --> 00:45:03.560
But I had to use my words.

714
00:45:03.590 --> 00:45:07.610
I had to actually go outside of
my comfort zone and say, "Hey, I

715
00:45:07.610 --> 00:45:11.030
believe in this thing and
I've experienced this with God.

716
00:45:11.360 --> 00:45:13.910
I'd like to share it with you.".

717
00:45:14.310 --> 00:45:17.050
Now, I don't know if her
life is totally different now.

718
00:45:17.060 --> 00:45:20.750
I don't know if she has
this major deep relationship with God

719
00:45:20.750 --> 00:45:20.990
right now.

720
00:45:21.020 --> 00:45:25.970
But what I do know is that in
that moment, I believe I did what

721
00:45:25.970 --> 00:45:27.200
God wanted me to do.

722
00:45:27.980 --> 00:45:28.820
I shared Him.

723
00:45:28.880 --> 00:45:31.850
I shared what I was
experiencing, what I have experienced

724
00:45:32.210 --> 00:45:32.720
through Him.

725
00:45:32.750 --> 00:45:35.360
And so -- and
maybe you've been healed.

726
00:45:35.390 --> 00:45:36.970
Maybe you've experienced
a miracle.

727
00:45:36.980 --> 00:45:38.480
Maybe you're in the
midst of a miracle.

728
00:45:38.810 --> 00:45:43.460
Maybe God's brought you comfort that
doesn't make sense or peace

729
00:45:43.490 --> 00:45:45.170
that surpasses
all understanding.

730
00:45:45.170 --> 00:45:48.080
Or maybe He's pulled these puzzle
pieces together in your life

731
00:45:48.110 --> 00:45:49.400
that shouldn't have
come together.

732
00:45:49.430 --> 00:45:50.630
But they did come together.

733
00:45:51.110 --> 00:45:55.880
And you've got friends who
are experiencing something hard or

734
00:45:55.880 --> 00:45:59.480
something new or who are
longing for what you have.

735
00:46:00.380 --> 00:46:04.780
You can use your words to
share with other people what God's

736
00:46:04.790 --> 00:46:08.060
done in you, what He's doing
in you, what you've seen, felt,

737
00:46:08.630 --> 00:46:09.620
experienced.

738
00:46:10.220 --> 00:46:14.360
And you can share that and
hopefully pique some interest for

739
00:46:14.360 --> 00:46:15.860
your friends to want that.

740
00:46:16.470 --> 00:46:17.330
It then says:

741
00:46:39.980 --> 00:46:42.420
So at the time Jesus was
walking around with people, He was

742
00:46:42.420 --> 00:46:47.310
saying, "Yeah, pray for people and
tell people when I'm doing

743
00:46:47.310 --> 00:46:47.850
something.

744
00:46:48.090 --> 00:46:50.900
Tell them, I want
them to be amazed.

745
00:46:50.900 --> 00:46:56.730
I want God to get the glory
for what he's doing through prayer

746
00:46:56.820 --> 00:46:59.970
and through the
work of sharing."

747
00:47:00.720 --> 00:47:04.800
And lastly, one of the other things
that I do is I choose to

748
00:47:04.980 --> 00:47:05.670
invite.

749
00:47:06.000 --> 00:47:09.750
I choose to go one more
step beyond just sharing and actually

750
00:47:10.080 --> 00:47:13.860
invite people to experience
God with me.

751
00:47:14.160 --> 00:47:15.750
So this is
really simple, actually.

752
00:47:16.560 --> 00:47:17.970
Three words to remember.

753
00:47:18.140 --> 00:47:20.850
If you're trying to figure out
like, how do I invite this

754
00:47:20.850 --> 00:47:21.570
person?

755
00:47:21.990 --> 00:47:27.900
If you can remember:
you, I, and so.

756
00:47:29.580 --> 00:47:30.820
It's a really simple
way to invite.

757
00:47:30.820 --> 00:47:34.430
So you start with a, "Hey. You

758
00:47:34.520 --> 00:47:36.920
right now, you just had
a brand new baby.

759
00:47:36.950 --> 00:47:37.640
How exciting.

760
00:47:37.670 --> 00:47:38.780
Congratulations.

761
00:47:39.140 --> 00:47:44.390
I just had a baby a year ago,
and when I had my baby, I freaked

762
00:47:44.390 --> 00:47:44.570
out.

763
00:47:44.600 --> 00:47:46.940
I was like, "I don't know
how to be a parent.

764
00:47:47.000 --> 00:47:48.620
No one trains you in
how to be a parent.

765
00:47:49.070 --> 00:47:52.820
But at Crossroads, we've got this
great thing called Kids' Club

766
00:47:53.090 --> 00:47:56.090
that I would love for
you to experience with me.

767
00:47:56.180 --> 00:47:58.370
So do you want to
come with me sometime?

768
00:47:59.280 --> 00:48:00.870
Do you live near
a Crossroads site?".

769
00:48:00.930 --> 00:48:04.290
That might be a really easy way
for you to invite your friends.

770
00:48:04.590 --> 00:48:09.390
Or maybe it's something like what
happened with my friend a few

771
00:48:09.390 --> 00:48:09.870
years ago.

772
00:48:09.910 --> 00:48:14.550
And you say, "Man, you are
going through something really tough

773
00:48:14.580 --> 00:48:19.440
that I hope nobody else has
to go through because it's really

774
00:48:19.440 --> 00:48:20.490
hard to lose your mom.

775
00:48:21.150 --> 00:48:23.160
I've not experienced that.

776
00:48:23.220 --> 00:48:28.590
I don't know what that's like, but
I almost lost my mom once.

777
00:48:29.010 --> 00:48:32.190
She had a stroke and we thought
that she wasn't gonna make it.

778
00:48:33.150 --> 00:48:39.560
And in the midst of that feeling I
had to lean on God and I had

779
00:48:39.560 --> 00:48:42.560
people that I could call to pray
for me that I've met through

780
00:48:42.560 --> 00:48:43.190
the church.

781
00:48:44.150 --> 00:48:48.260
So would you maybe want to come
and watch church with me in my

782
00:48:48.260 --> 00:48:53.510
living room with some of my
friends who experience church that

783
00:48:53.510 --> 00:48:56.540
way and who would be great people
to pray for you when you

784
00:48:56.540 --> 00:48:57.980
experience something crappy?".

785
00:48:59.540 --> 00:49:02.220
You, I, So; really simple.

786
00:49:02.240 --> 00:49:04.850
And if you've got friends who
are maybe entering into a brand

787
00:49:04.850 --> 00:49:08.420
new life stage: new baby,
new home, new marriage, or

788
00:49:08.420 --> 00:49:12.980
ones who are going through
crisis: divorce, loss of someone

789
00:49:12.980 --> 00:49:13.640
they love.

790
00:49:15.140 --> 00:49:16.390
Those people. they're

791
00:49:16.400 --> 00:49:21.980
longing to experience comfort and
peace and community, the

792
00:49:21.980 --> 00:49:24.680
things that maybe you've experienced
in the midst of the

793
00:49:24.680 --> 00:49:25.190
church.

794
00:49:25.700 --> 00:49:30.540
Those are great people to invite
in to experience what you're

795
00:49:30.540 --> 00:49:33.840
experiencing, whether it's through showing
up to a church

796
00:49:33.840 --> 00:49:36.390
building or watching something online
or listening to a

797
00:49:36.390 --> 00:49:37.260
podcast.

798
00:49:38.300 --> 00:49:39.680
We've gotta pray
for our friends.

799
00:49:39.740 --> 00:49:41.750
We've got to share with them
what God is doing in us.

800
00:49:41.870 --> 00:49:44.180
And we have to
invite them into something.

801
00:49:44.210 --> 00:49:47.680
Invite them into
community with us.

802
00:49:49.290 --> 00:49:50.730
1 Corinthians 9 says:.

803
00:50:09.090 --> 00:50:15.450
I want you to do everything to
share the good news and to share

804
00:50:15.570 --> 00:50:17.010
in its blessings.

805
00:50:18.270 --> 00:50:22.710
God has uniquely made you with
specific gifts and talents and

806
00:50:22.710 --> 00:50:24.480
passions and desires.

807
00:50:24.870 --> 00:50:30.360
And He's made you to have
a meaningful, purposeful life that

808
00:50:30.360 --> 00:50:31.110
matters.

809
00:50:31.860 --> 00:50:36.660
I got to meet and get to know
a family who, man, they have a

810
00:50:36.660 --> 00:50:39.030
meaningful life right now,
their life is mattering.

811
00:50:39.030 --> 00:50:43.590
They're impacting all kinds of
other families and individuals

812
00:50:43.590 --> 00:50:45.570
who live in the
Los Angeles area.

813
00:50:46.020 --> 00:50:48.240
And they've got a
pretty cool story.

814
00:50:48.540 --> 00:50:52.620
I'd love for you to just meet
them and see what God's doing in

815
00:50:52.620 --> 00:50:54.330
their lives and in their home.

816
00:50:54.510 --> 00:50:55.880
Let's meet the Byerlys.

817
00:50:58.960 --> 00:51:00.340
Hi, I'm Stephanie Byerly.

818
00:51:01.000 --> 00:51:04.780
And I'm Robert Byerly and we
live in Newport Beach, California.

819
00:51:05.470 --> 00:51:08.200
I think we started going to
Crossroads before we moved to

820
00:51:08.200 --> 00:51:09.520
Cincinnati in 2003.

821
00:51:09.700 --> 00:51:12.710
The first journey that we were
part of was the Consume Journey.

822
00:51:13.780 --> 00:51:16.420
And I think for us, that was
the first time that it's ever

823
00:51:16.420 --> 00:51:22.360
really been explained to us that
everything we own is God's.

824
00:51:23.020 --> 00:51:28.000
And that was really impactful for
Robert and I because of the

825
00:51:28.000 --> 00:51:29.170
way it changed our thinking.

826
00:51:29.470 --> 00:51:31.090
And we also just grew a lot.

827
00:51:31.220 --> 00:51:34.150
We grew in community
during that time.

828
00:51:34.540 --> 00:51:36.040
So super impactful for us.

829
00:51:36.190 --> 00:51:38.830
So we moved to California
the first time in 2012.

830
00:51:39.210 --> 00:51:42.760
I had an opportunity with my job
and we came out and had the

831
00:51:42.760 --> 00:51:44.650
choice to live in
a couple different places.

832
00:51:45.130 --> 00:51:46.360
And we landed on Orange County.

833
00:51:46.780 --> 00:51:50.500
So we had met
some families through school.

834
00:51:50.710 --> 00:51:54.050
Stephanie had hosted a Labor Day
back to school kind of hangout

835
00:51:54.100 --> 00:51:54.910
brunch at her house.

836
00:51:55.240 --> 00:51:56.520
Everyone shows up at 11 o'clock.

837
00:51:56.680 --> 00:52:00.550
And people ended up just hanging
out until early afternoon, 4:00

838
00:52:00.550 --> 00:52:01.240
or 5:00.

839
00:52:01.240 --> 00:52:04.030
It was really the first group
of people that we've connected to

840
00:52:04.030 --> 00:52:04.900
with that we really liked.

841
00:52:05.350 --> 00:52:10.570
So Stephanie had suggested,"Hey, why don't
we do a journey deal

842
00:52:10.570 --> 00:52:11.670
together with all of you?".

843
00:52:11.680 --> 00:52:12.580
And they're like,
"What's a journey?".

844
00:52:12.950 --> 00:52:15.460
And when we went on to explain,
it was a small group deal and

845
00:52:15.840 --> 00:52:17.530
we just created a place
where people can hang out.

846
00:52:17.620 --> 00:52:21.640
We say, bring your kids,
come late, which is --

847
00:52:21.640 --> 00:52:21.920
always happens.

848
00:52:21.920 --> 00:52:22.690
Always happens in California.

849
00:52:24.100 --> 00:52:27.010
Our goal was really just
to build friendship and relationships

850
00:52:27.040 --> 00:52:28.030
with other people.

851
00:52:28.180 --> 00:52:30.860
It wasn't to keep some
kind of timely schedule.

852
00:52:31.280 --> 00:52:32.140
And that's how it started.

853
00:52:32.170 --> 00:52:35.500
So if it weren't for the idea
of the Journey group, if it

854
00:52:35.500 --> 00:52:38.620
weren't for the idea of inviting
people into your homes, we

855
00:52:38.620 --> 00:52:41.860
wouldn't have had invited them
over and made that connection

856
00:52:41.860 --> 00:52:42.160
with them.

857
00:52:43.540 --> 00:52:46.000
I'm Meghan, and in part
at the Crossroads Anywhere Community

858
00:52:46.000 --> 00:52:47.620
here in Newport
Beach, California.

859
00:52:48.070 --> 00:52:52.270
So when I finished college, I
accepted a job in Orange County,

860
00:52:52.270 --> 00:52:56.260
California, after graduating from
the University of Cincinnati.

861
00:52:56.410 --> 00:52:59.050
Literally, besides my job, I had no
idea where I was going to

862
00:52:59.050 --> 00:53:03.220
live or really what life was
going to look like at all.

863
00:53:03.700 --> 00:53:05.290
I was super scared to move.

864
00:53:05.800 --> 00:53:09.100
Then at the same time, when
I got to California, I

865
00:53:09.100 --> 00:53:10.990
roadtripped out here with
two friends from Crossroads,

866
00:53:10.990 --> 00:53:11.470
actually.

867
00:53:11.800 --> 00:53:15.310
And when I got to California sent
them on a plane home and

868
00:53:15.490 --> 00:53:18.370
literally had nowhere
to move into.

869
00:53:19.030 --> 00:53:20.800
I found a place
to live, thankfully.

870
00:53:20.830 --> 00:53:24.340
Following that, the goal
was to find community.

871
00:53:24.700 --> 00:53:27.760
So I had put myself
on the Crossroads Anywhere map.

872
00:53:28.120 --> 00:53:30.760
I put my pin on my office,
actually, because I didn't know where

873
00:53:30.760 --> 00:53:32.680
I was going to be living
yet before I moved out here.

874
00:53:33.010 --> 00:53:36.820
And then once I moved out here,
I put my pin on my home

875
00:53:36.820 --> 00:53:37.570
location.

876
00:53:37.900 --> 00:53:42.610
They had seen me on the map and
we actually met in person at a

877
00:53:42.610 --> 00:53:43.810
Young Life dinner.

878
00:53:44.170 --> 00:53:46.840
They said, "Oh, we're Robert
and Steph and we're from

879
00:53:46.840 --> 00:53:47.530
Cincinnati."

880
00:53:48.100 --> 00:53:50.350
I said, "Well,
I'm from Cincinnati.

881
00:53:50.350 --> 00:53:51.700
What are you guys
doing out here?"

882
00:53:52.330 --> 00:53:56.020
We left Cincinnati on the same
day and we couldn't believe that

883
00:53:56.020 --> 00:53:58.330
we didn't know each other in Cincinnati
because we had a lot of

884
00:53:58.330 --> 00:53:59.620
different mutual connections.

885
00:53:59.800 --> 00:54:01.060
They invited me over for coffee.

886
00:54:01.090 --> 00:54:02.140
They invited me over for dinner.

887
00:54:02.170 --> 00:54:05.650
They invited me over for everything
and to do every little piece

888
00:54:05.650 --> 00:54:09.490
of life with them
and with their family.

889
00:54:09.970 --> 00:54:13.060
And we were in a mode of
trying to find people that were from

890
00:54:13.060 --> 00:54:14.950
Cincinnati or part of the
Crossroads community that we're

891
00:54:14.950 --> 00:54:16.810
living in and
around Orange County.

892
00:54:17.170 --> 00:54:21.850
So we just kind of looked, okay,
who was on the map that's here?

893
00:54:21.850 --> 00:54:24.840
I remember going online and
seeing who's this Meghan Pope

894
00:54:24.840 --> 00:54:25.270
person?

895
00:54:25.690 --> 00:54:27.670
So I think you might
have reached out or something.

896
00:54:27.700 --> 00:54:29.380
But we just tried to
get connected with her.

897
00:54:29.770 --> 00:54:32.740
We were invited to go to this
Young Life event on its their

898
00:54:32.740 --> 00:54:33.660
annual fundraiser.

899
00:54:34.120 --> 00:54:36.760
So a good friend of ours, a
guy named Dan Chambers said, "You

900
00:54:36.760 --> 00:54:40.840
know, I was at an event and
there's a lady named Meghan that's

901
00:54:40.840 --> 00:54:43.270
from Cincinnati, and
she's younger.

902
00:54:43.270 --> 00:54:46.870
And she went to went to
a place called Crossroads or whatever.

903
00:54:47.170 --> 00:54:47.890
You start thinking about it.

904
00:54:47.920 --> 00:54:48.280
"Wait a minute.

905
00:54:48.320 --> 00:54:51.330
Is that the same person that was
on the map that Dan knew?"

906
00:54:52.390 --> 00:54:56.110
I think we instantly had
the excitement for Crossroads.

907
00:54:57.430 --> 00:54:58.960
I think that
instantly connected us.

908
00:54:59.170 --> 00:54:59.530
It's funny.

909
00:54:59.610 --> 00:55:03.940
We want to protect her and take
care of her and check in on

910
00:55:03.940 --> 00:55:04.210
her.

911
00:55:04.210 --> 00:55:07.090
And, yes, you know, she's
like family to us really.

912
00:55:07.240 --> 00:55:07.660
Yes.

913
00:55:08.200 --> 00:55:10.690
The first six months that I was
out here and really didn't have

914
00:55:10.690 --> 00:55:13.920
a lot of stability yet,
my car got hit.

915
00:55:14.170 --> 00:55:17.440
Without missing a beat, Steph
just tossed me her keys.

916
00:55:17.440 --> 00:55:21.190
And I drove her car around to
work for two weeks until I could

917
00:55:21.190 --> 00:55:23.980
get my stuff straightened out.

918
00:55:24.430 --> 00:55:27.640
The first year I was out
here in California, I actually couldn't

919
00:55:27.640 --> 00:55:28.780
go home for Thanksgiving.

920
00:55:29.080 --> 00:55:31.270
So naturally I went
to the Byerly's.

921
00:55:31.600 --> 00:55:34.810
I kind of joke with my friends
who were my peers, "Like my

922
00:55:34.810 --> 00:55:36.070
California mom and dad.

923
00:55:36.100 --> 00:55:38.200
I'm going to hang out my California
mom and dad, or I'm house

924
00:55:38.200 --> 00:55:40.210
sitting for my
California family.".

925
00:55:40.210 --> 00:55:43.240
"Or I'm watching the dog or
walking the dog from my California

926
00:55:43.240 --> 00:55:44.470
family while they're
out of town."

927
00:55:44.620 --> 00:55:47.140
I get the example of what it
looks like to be generous with your

928
00:55:47.140 --> 00:55:49.420
money and what it looks like
to have a marriage that centered

929
00:55:49.420 --> 00:55:52.360
on Jesus and what does look like
to be really faithful to your

930
00:55:52.360 --> 00:55:54.520
career and to your family
at the same time.

931
00:55:55.000 --> 00:55:57.220
Getting to be part of someone's
family, in someone's home, in

932
00:55:57.220 --> 00:56:00.350
someone's life, it's so natural for me
to get to pick up on

933
00:56:00.350 --> 00:56:02.840
these things and get to see
these things that they do.

934
00:56:03.140 --> 00:56:04.130
We all need community.

935
00:56:05.030 --> 00:56:08.030
I think the longer we've been
married and the longer we've had

936
00:56:08.030 --> 00:56:11.120
kids, we've just realized that you
have to lean in to other

937
00:56:11.120 --> 00:56:11.630
people.

938
00:56:11.960 --> 00:56:16.820
When we share our wounds and
our weaknesses, it's the best way

939
00:56:16.820 --> 00:56:18.200
that people can connect with us.

940
00:56:18.740 --> 00:56:22.940
And I think a lot of times
when you don't know people very well

941
00:56:22.970 --> 00:56:27.770
and you're in a new situation,
it's really intimidating to just

942
00:56:27.770 --> 00:56:29.390
invite strangers in your home

943
00:56:29.430 --> 00:56:33.200
and not really know what --
how they're going to receive that.

944
00:56:33.520 --> 00:56:37.460
But I think because we were growing
along the way, we just knew

945
00:56:37.460 --> 00:56:40.830
that it was something that
was so meaningful to us.

946
00:56:40.970 --> 00:56:43.100
Everyone should have the chance
to experience what I've had,

947
00:56:43.280 --> 00:56:46.790
I've gotten to experience, which
is moving somewhere new, not

948
00:56:46.790 --> 00:56:49.940
knowing anybody, but because of
my faith immediately having

949
00:56:49.940 --> 00:56:52.140
community and having friends.

950
00:56:52.140 --> 00:56:55.400
What I would say to somebody if
they're a part of the Crossroads

951
00:56:55.400 --> 00:56:58.910
Community and they're watching online
and they're at home or

952
00:56:58.910 --> 00:57:00.740
they're in a coffee shop
and they're by themselves.

953
00:57:01.190 --> 00:57:04.100
I would just say be invitational
and ask somebody to to watch

954
00:57:04.100 --> 00:57:04.430
with you.

955
00:57:04.630 --> 00:57:04.820
Right?

956
00:57:04.910 --> 00:57:07.600
Whether it's in a coffee shop or
whether it's on your, you know,

957
00:57:07.700 --> 00:57:11.300
hanging out on the couch because
people want to be invited to

958
00:57:11.300 --> 00:57:11.570
something.

959
00:57:11.600 --> 00:57:14.090
They want to be -- They want
to feel a part of a community.

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I found community through Crossroads
Anywhere and I'm so

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thankful.

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How encouraging is that? Man,

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I'll tell you, if you ever get
to meet that family or those

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people in person, you're going
to love them even more.

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Well, two of the things that
you heard them mention in their

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story are things that actually
you could do right now.

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You could start thinking
about doing right now.

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The first is they
mentioned a Journey.

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This all church Journey for five
weeks that the whole church

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does together where we get into
groups and we get to experience

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church on a deeper
level with other people.

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And so that's actually coming
up in the fall.

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It's the Play
and Purpose Journey.

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You can head
to Crossroads.net/journey

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to check that out, but be
thinking about whether or not you

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might want to lead a group for
the very first time, host The

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journey in your home.

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It could be a great way for
you to get connected to community

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wherever you are.

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Speaking of getting connected to
community, the other thing they

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mentioned was the Connect Map.

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And so maybe you are about
to move, you've just moved.

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Maybe you've been in southeast Indiana
or South Dakota for a

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long time, but you've not actually
met other people who are

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part of the church there.

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If you head
to Crossroads.net/connect,

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you can put yourself on the
Connect Map, you can search for

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people who are near you, groups
that are happening near you, ad

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you can connect with other
people through that tool.

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It's pretty sweet.

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Well, if you want your life
to matter, another way that you

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could have meaning is you could
invest your money in meaningful

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things and things that matter.

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One of the things that my husband
and I invest our money in is

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the church, because we believe that
the church is the best

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rescue plan for all of humanity.

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We believe that God's gonna do
amazing things in the church and

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through the church.

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We've seen it, we've experienced it,
and we want others to

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experience it, too.

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And so we invest our money here.

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And so if you want to become a
giver, you can do that by heading

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to Crossroads.net/give

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and invest in something that has
purpose and meaning and might

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just make your life matter
in a whole new way.

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Next week we start a brand new
series called How to Hear from

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God.

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And a new series is a great
opportunity for you to open up your

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home and invite other people to
watch church with you, to

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experience church with you.

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So maybe you want to
start that next week.

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We'll see you back for week 1
of How to Hear from God.
Process, journal or discuss the themes of this article - here's a few questions to get the ball rolling...

Welcome to the Chaser—a few questions after the weekend service to start conversations. If this is your first time in a group, or your group has new members, take a few minutes and introduce yourself. Two truths and a lie is always a good place to start.

  1. What’s the best (or worst) advice you’ve received? Share it with your group.

  2. It’s community weekend here at Crossroads—so people in this group may have heard different depending on where you saw service. (Wild, eh?) Who did you hear speak this weekend, and what stuck out to you? Some follow up questions: What about the message did you agree or disagree with, and why? If you had to make one personal change based on what you heard, what would it be?

  3. What does prosperity mean to you? And how have you defined it in your life?

  4. Painful. Pointless. Pitiful. Prosperous. Chart where you are on the Purpose and Play matrix that Brian shared. Then, tell you group where you put yourself and why.

  5. It’s your turn to take the Spark stage. If you had a few minutes to share a story from your life that would benefit others, what would it be? Now, deep breath. Share it with your group.

Challenge

If you’ve got vacation days, use ‘em. This week, get with your people and a calendar. Plan out when you can use your vacation days to the fullest!

West Side Chaser Questions:

1. Our culture says higher fences and smaller porches… Jesus calls us into deeper friendships. Which neighbor is God calling you to pursue?

2. This weekend, Matt gave us three practical tips for loving our neighbors well: share, invite, ask. Which of these is the easiest for you to do? Which is the hardest?

3. Make a plan. Discuss how you are going to practically love your neighbor this week. Follow up as a group to see how it went.

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Jul 28, 2019

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