How to Take Your Thoughts Captive | Mindset Week 1

We all have negative thoughts and emotions, but left unchecked, they will consume us. This week, we learn how to master these feelings, and how God can renew our minds daily.

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    You were made to be brave.
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    You were born to make a difference.
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    God designed you for heart-pumping, joy-filled adventure,
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    and we're here to guide you to that adventurous life.
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    Crossroads Church.
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    - Hi, I'm Chuck Mingo, one of the teaching pastors at Crossroads.
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    Thanks for joining us for a new series called Mindset
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    where we're looking at how to master our thoughts and our emotions.
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    Our emotions are a big part of how we're made as people,
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    but they can also get out of control.
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    And so in this series we're looking at
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    how to not let them control us, but also how not to avoid them.
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    I think we're all feeling some big emotions right now,
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    whether we are concerned about job security
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    or maybe our own health or the health of someone we care about.
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    We have our family at home more,
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    we're remote schooling our kids.
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    In fact, just the other day,
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    I totally lost it on one of my kids because of something
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    I saw them do to their sibling that was not OK.
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    But you know what? My response wasn't OK either.
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    And so in this series we're looking at
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    how to help our minds get to a better place.
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    How do we change our mindset so on the other side
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    we're healthier people.
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    - How do I feel about the pandemic and the quarantine?
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    - A mix of emotions.
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    - I don't want to get laid off work.
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    - Honestly, it changes every day.
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    - Overwhelmed and incredibly monotonous.
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    - If have to build one more pillow fort I could lose my mind.
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    - My favorite thing about the quarantine
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    is that I get to spend a lot of time with my sisters.
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    - Well, I'm doing college at home
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    so I haven't been late to a single 8 a.m. class.
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    - I've been talking with my family on the phone.
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    - I like sleeping in and my parents finally let me get Fortnite.
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    - I get to play in my back yard more.
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    - My dad had this idea to build a fort underneath the stairs
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    and he taught me how to rewire an electrical outlet.
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    - Well, I don't really like going places
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    so I get to stay home in my pajamas.
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    - I've been baking like a lot.
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    - We get to have dance parties
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    and we get to stay up a little later.
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    - If you control your thoughts,
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    you will control your future.
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    If you can control your emotions,
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    you will control your future.
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    Your future is dictated by what happens
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    between these ears right here.
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    The Bible says as a man or woman thinketh, so is he.
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    What we think, what we feel will tell us who we are.
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    And you control your life.
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    You control your life,
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    not the government controlling your life,
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    not coronavirus controlling your life,
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    not the economy controlling your life.
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    You control it.
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    Some people don't think this is possible.
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    Believe it or not, you can actually control your emotions.
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    Emotions are like fire.
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    Fire can be incredibly redemptive.
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    It can fire a steam-fired locomotive and take your life someplace
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    or it can destroy and devastate your life.
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    Proverbs 25:28:
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    A man without self-control
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    is like a city broken into and left without walls.
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    We just got done with a series on Jesus,
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    the myths surrounding Jesus.
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    We saw some of the classic places where He went in Israel
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    during the last series.
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    But if we're not careful,
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    we might forget that Jesus was actually human.
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    He was fully God, fully man at the same time.
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    And as human, He had emotions and He controlled them.
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    One of the things that I hate, I hate Bible trivia.
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    Can't stand it, can't stand it. I don't like Bible trivia.
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    If you ever get on Bible trivia, I'll tell you
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    one of the questions is going to be
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    what's the shortest verse in the Bible?
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    You say, "It's 'Jesus wept.'" Two words. Yeah, He wept.
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    Jesus had the emotions. He wept.
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    He went to a friend's house who was dead, and He wept.
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    The Bible says that Jesus was distressed.
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    It says in the Book of Isaiah, prophesies about Him
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    that he was a man of sorrows.
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    Two different times we see intensive anger with Jesus.
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    He comes into the temple
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    and there are money changers who have these tables.
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    And as people bring their foreign currency in,
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    they trade it for the temple's currency so they can make an offering.
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    No problem there, except they're doing it to make a profit.
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    Jesus sees this house of prayer being turned into a profit center
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    and He overturns the tables.
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    He takes off the sash from around His waist.
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    He starts swinging it around like a like a mad man.
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    But He was in control. He knew what He was doing.
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    I have three kids.
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    Every birth of my children was incredibly emotional for me
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    because I am adopted.
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    When I saw my kids, I saw the first person who shared my DNA.
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    I would get emotional.
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    I get emotional still when my wife does things that I don't like,
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    when I do things that she doesn't like.
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    We can make the choice: Do I get emotional
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    and do I just lash out?
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    Or maybe I do get emotional, but I control my emotions
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    and I try to harness them.
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    I try to let her see my intensity and my concern
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    instead of just brushing it under the rug.
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    I can have my emotions explode our marriage
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    or I can have my emotions be funneled to drive some things.
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    This is what I'm saying friends, here's the thing.
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    When I see person after person who's tanking their life,
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    who thinks that it's not possible
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    that I feel it, therefore I am
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    or as Descartes said, "I think, therefore I am."
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    I think he put the Descarte before de horse,
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    because I think you are first before you think.
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    But we think that if I'm feeling it's, the it's truth
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    No, you're -- I'm feeling it and it's emotion.
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    I now have to figure out how will I allow that emotion to come out
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    and how will I allow to drive my life?
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    You do that, friends, and you control your mind,
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    you start controlling your emotions,
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    you're going to start controlling your life,
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    and you're going to go someplace that other normal people
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    will not go under the direction of God.
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    Well, we're gonna take a little time out here.
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    We're going to get together with Amy Saxby.
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    She's a teacher, a parent of four, a wife, and an author.
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    And she's got a pretty fascinating term, I find.
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    She talks about capturing every feeling.
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    Amy, how are you? Tell us about capturing our feelings.
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    - A lot of times when I process, I have to do it on paper
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    because there's something about writing it down makes it real.
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    And so when I write down how I'm feeling,
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    I think I often can identify what is real behind my feeling
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    and what is a worldly expect --
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    like an expectation the world puts on me?
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    Once I can separate those things, I think I can take the next step.
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    I have to stop acting on my feelings if they're not real.
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    - So what would happen if we've got an emotion
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    that we're choosing not to examine?
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    - I think it can get the best of us
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    and it can become a stronghold.
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    So let me give a very tangible example.
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    Vanity, right? If I have an emotion that I,
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    "Gosh, I'm just never going to look that good
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    or I'm just never going to be able to exercise that way."
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    If I don't examine it and get to the bottom of
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    why do I feel this way really?
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    Then I'm going to go that day and I'm in the workout for two hours
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    and worry about what I'm eating.
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    And those things are going to become the focus of my day
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    and my activities vs. getting to the bottom of that emotion
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    and letting go of it.
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    I think after I go through this process
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    and I really take time to sift through and figure out what's real,
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    I can appreciate the emotions God has given me.
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    I just think it's important to always remember that
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    in emotion there's beauty and there's peace
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    when you identify what's from Him.
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    - Hey, Amy, thanks so much for being with us.
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    You've been real blessing and I appreciate it.
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    - Thanks, Brian.
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    - So the last time I did this, used straight gasoline.
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    I tell you what, I've been lighting fires for decades, decades.
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    Everyone's always going, "Oh, don't light it with gasoline."
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    I never had any problem.
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    Well, then again, I never use four gallons of gasoline before.
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    I won't be doing that again.
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    - Yeah. He's not kidding.
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    This is actually the second time this brush pile was set on fire.
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    Want to see what happened the first time?
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    - This is great.
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    - If you're ever doing this, boys and girls,
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    but you should not do this, boys and girls.
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    If you ever do something like this when you're older
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    and mature in your 50s, want to use diesel fuel.
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    December 1993 I had a house fire.
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    I woke up, took the kids next door,
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    and watched my house being engulfed in flame from room to room.
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    I slept at my in-laws that night
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    and I woke up in the morning utterly devastated,
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    feeling every emotion I could possibly imagine.
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    And it only got worse from there.
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    I had to go back over the charred remains of my house
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    and see what was left.
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    And what was left was my dog, who woke us up,
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    dead from smoke inhalation inside of the remains.
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    I still remember pulling him outside and burying him.
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    I can still taste the salt in the tears
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    as they came down my cheeks and hit my mouth.
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    I can still remember not being able to focus and see
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    as I furiously tried to dig a grave and place him in it.
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    I knew then that my emotions were raging
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    and it wasn't a bad thing for them to be raging,
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    but I still wanted to take them captive
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    and get ready to build a new life.
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    Your emotions are like kids in a car.
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    You can't have them drive,
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    but you don't want them in the trunk either.
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    I'll tell you something, man.
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    Emotions will define your future.
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    We see this with person after person in the Bible.
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    The first king of Israel, his name was Saul,
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    his emotions ruled him. If he felt it, he did it.
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    And it caused him to be disqualified from being a king.
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    The second guy in line, David, was being chased around
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    by this guy who ruled with his emotions
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    and he just waited until it was his time.
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    He got his emotions in control.
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    He didn't even kill him when he could have killed him.
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    And as a result, he becomes a king and a great king.
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    But even as a great king,
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    David allowed his emotions to get the best of him sometimes.
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    It caused him to have an adulterous affair.
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    Friends, I'm telling you what, there is a fire
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    that wants to rage and ravage your life.
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    As a pastor I've interacted with hundreds,
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    thousands of people who have burnt lives, charred to the bone.
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    When we don't control our emotions,
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    we have kids and we shouldn't be having kids.
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    We make bad marriage choices.
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    We get ourselves in massive credit card debt.
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    We have bankruptcy.
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    We have torched friendships. We have divorces.
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    We have the wrong profession that we've chosen.
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    Thing after thing after thing.
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    And one of the things to look at
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    to know whether or not your emotions are ruling you are:
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    do you think that your emotion is the lead indicator
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    for the very words of God?
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    Emotions are not a word of God.
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    I know many people who think, "I'm feeling it, God must be speaking."
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    No, He's not. You're just getting emotional.
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    I know some people who they're not feeling any emotions at all
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    and they think, "Well, God doesn't talk to me."
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    No, you just don't have emotions right now.
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    Our emotions could be, but they are not necessarily,
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    the voice of God.
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    How do you know when your emotions are getting the best of you?
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    As soon as you instinctually do whatever you're feeling,
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    you may not be hearing from God.
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    As soon as you can look back and you see a history
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    of you doing something emotionally and you finding out later
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    that that was not the best thing for your life
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    and other people's lives,
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    you know that your emotions have the best of you.
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    As soon as your joy indicators, how you feel about
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    how well your life is going is based on purely how you feel,
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    you know you're putting way too much stock in your emotions.
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    And as soon as you start disqualifying your emotions,
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    as soon as you start trying to tamp it down,
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    "I don't -- I don't want to cry."
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    As soon as you start doing that, you know
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    you're not valuing the gift of emotions that God has given you.
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    Your emotions aren't God, but your emotions are good
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    and you've got to control it.
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    This thing wants to rage and take over your life.
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    You've got to control the fire instead of allowing the fire
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    and the heat to incinerate your life.
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    God wants your entire life.
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    He doesn't want your emotions to have your entire life.
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    He wants your emotions to be healthy and to be in check.
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    You do that, you learn how to harness this power,
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    you're going to have a full life like you can't imagine.
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    - I hope you're enjoying the episode so far.
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    go to Crossroads.net/give.
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    Now, let's take a look at a story
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    from someone in our church who's having an impact.
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    - Sew Masks for Cincy started from our small group.
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    I called one of our friends that is a nurse at a local hospital.
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    I said, "I can get a couple of people to get together
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    to sew a couple of masks. What do you think?"
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    And she said, "It would be amazing if you could get
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    a couple people to sew some masks."
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    The gravity of what is going on with Sew Masks for Cincy
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    and Sew Masks for Humanity really hit me last night,
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    to be honest, because I never expected to be leading a group like this.
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    Like I thought it would be a dozen moms and sewers sewing these masks.
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    And the fact that it's turned into more of a movement
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    and getting contacts from now from cities all over America
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    and the world has been nothing short of astounding.
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    Look at all these people that came together out of love
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    and out of community because we want to protect
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    someone else's son or daughter or mother.
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    It's been -- it's been absolutely life changing.
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    - The key to controlling your mind and your emotions
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    is what the Bible calls taking every thought captive.
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    I want to teach you how to do that right now.
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    So when we have an emotion that comes out,
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    it's because we're feeling something.
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    It's coming into our brain.
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    It's causing us to have an emotional reaction.
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    What we do is I grab it. I grab it.
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    I take that thought captive.
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    I say "Why am I feeling this way?"
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    I grab it and I pull it away and I look at it
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    and I say, "Why am I feeling this way?
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    Am I feeling the way that I want to feel?
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    What is this stimuli that's causing this reaction?
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    Do I like this reaction or do I want to manage this reaction?"
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    How do you actually do that?
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    How do you take thoughts captive and control your thoughts
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    instead of them controlling you and then controlling your emotions?
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    One thing you do is you monitor what's coming into your mind
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    that's giving you thoughts and emotions to begin with.
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    You monitor your news feed.
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    You monitor your social media feeds.
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    You monitor who it is that's giving you information,
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    because if someone is always firing us up, pun intended,
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    if someone is always firing us up, we have to say, "Hold on.
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    Do I want to constantly be fired up?
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    Do I want to constantly feel indignation towards other people?
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    Do I want to constantly be on edge?"
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    I don't like that, I have to change my stimuli. Change it.
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    The second thing you do is you choose
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    to think about something other than yourself.
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    Some of the most depressed people you'll ever know
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    are those who think about themselves.
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    If you want to be more depressed, think about yourself.
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    I'm not talking about a kind of clinical depression
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    where you need medication.
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    I'm just saying, "I'm down. Woe is me."
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    The more we think about ourselves and about our situation,
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    the more our emotions are going to feed with on it.
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    It's going to be a fire.
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    It's like as we think about ourself,
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    we keep putting more wood on the fire.
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    We put more emotion that keeps bubbling us up.
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    I have a friend of mine, a pastor friend in another country.
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    His son got hit by a car.
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    The doctor said, "We're going to operate,
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    but it looks like your son's going to have permanent brain damage."
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    As they sat in that hospital room,
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    as any parent would, being devastated.
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    As they felt themselves getting lower and lower and lower,
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    they said each other, "Hey, we need to stop
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    thinking about ourselves for a moment.
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    We need to go around in this hospital
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    and see other people who are hurting and pray for them."
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    So that's what they did.
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    What do you know?
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    Was that the reason or was there some other reason,
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    but their child is 100% fine today.
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    And you can see the scar that comes all the way around him.
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    You control what you think about
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    and you can think about something else other than your problems.
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    Some of the problems that we have
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    are problems that may never come true.
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    And if we give our emotions over to them,
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    we're putting fuel on a fire that's never gonna cook any meat.
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    Don't prepay interest on a debt you may likely never have.
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    Jesus doesn't want my emotions getting out of control.
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    And right now, I can choose that
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    my emotions are not going to get out of control.
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    The third thing we do is we pray.
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    We invite God into it.
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    If I'm just staying with my own mental resources,
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    my own spiritual power, I'm going to get more and more stressed
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    because I don't have the power to overcome my problems.
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    There's a power that's outside of me,
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    a power that can come inside of me
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    when God fills me with his Holy Spirit,
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    that gives me something that I couldn't have.
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    So what I do is I pray about that.
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    I say, "God, I'm feeling this way.
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    How do you feel about that, God?
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    God, I am stressed. I am hurting.
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    Would you please comfort me?"
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    There's entire Psalms, in fact,
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    there's a whole book in the Bible called Lamentations,
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    where people are just allowing their emotions to be processed
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    and they're saying how they feel to God.
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    It's OK. You can tell God that you are afraid.
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    You can tell God that you're stressed.
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    You can tell God that things are not going well.
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    Tell Him. Talk to Him about that. Be silent before Him.
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    You might just find that He comforts you.
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    He gives you, as the Bible says, a peace that passes all understanding.
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    I want to make sure you hear me really clearly.
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    Emotions are really good. Emotions are great.
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    They make us feel alive.
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    They they bring spice to our life.
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    It's just that we have to channel them.
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    We have to take control of them.
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    And you can take control of them.
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    So many times there's things in the physical world
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    that represent the spiritual world.
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    Right here I have a fire that represents emotions.
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    And I've been managing this fire.
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    I've been controlling this fire to do something really good.
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    I placed my wood in the right place.
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    I want to get a little going a little bit more.
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    What I'm doing here is I'm taking the energy
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    that I am controlling, that I am bringing around
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    to do something really, really good.
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    Like what would that be good?
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    That would be a venison backstrap, that's what that would be.
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    That would be a backstrap that I have prepared
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    to have an amazing meal.
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    Had I had no fire, were I not controlling this fire,
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    I would not be able to eat.
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    I've got to get all that -- got to get all that goo out of there.
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    That's what my dad used to call it, all the goo.
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    Get that goo out of there. Yeah, right there.
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    See how I just controlled that?
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    Now, because I have been taking this energy
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    and I've been controlling it, I'm going to have great meal.
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    And had I not had this energy, I would have an awful meal.
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    You need the energy of emotions in your life.
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    If you don't have the energy of emotional life,
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    you're not going to have good meals, but you have to control it
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    because you don't want to burn your life.
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    You don't want to crush your life.
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    You can control your life. You can control your mind.
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    You can control your emotions.
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    Your emotions are a blessing from God.
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    Use your emotions, don't let them use you.
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    That's good.
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    I have the emotional happiness right now.
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    I get to have this because I controlled that fire.
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    God is able to overcome our emotions.
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    He cares about our feelings
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    and He can turn them into something to be used for good.
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    We're going to sing a song that helps me remember
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    that God is an overcomer and He can handle all my thoughts
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    and feelings even when they seem overwhelming.
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    And while we see thoughts from real people in our community,
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    this is a moment to turn over our feelings and emotions to our God.
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    When I’m overwhelmed and shadowed with doubt
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    You make a way
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    In my brokenness where peace can’t be found
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    You make a way
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    You lift my head up
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    You heal my soul
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    I’m made new because of You
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    Because of what You’ve done
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    You’re the God who overcomes
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    Painting grace upon my canvas of fears
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    You make a way
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    Draw me closer so you’re all that I hear
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    You make a way, make a way
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    You lift my head up
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    You heal my soul
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    I’m made new because of You
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    Because of what You’ve done
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    You’re the God who overcomes
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    You’re the God who overcomes
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    All my worries, all my doubts [You're the God who overcomes]
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    I shake ‘em off and they’re falling down [You're the God who overcomes]
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    All my fears, all my shame [You're the God who overcomes]
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    I lay 'em down in Jesus’ name [You're the God who overcomes]
  • 00:25:30
    All my worries, all my doubts [You're the God who overcomes]
  • 00:25:36
    I shake ‘em off and they’re falling down [You're the God who overcomes]
  • 00:25:42
    All my fears, all my shame [You're the God who overcomes]
  • 00:25:49
    I lay 'em down in Jesus’ name [You're the God who overcomes]
  • 00:25:55
    All my worries, all my doubts [You're the God who overcomes]
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    I shake ‘em off and they’re falling down [You're the God who overcomes]
  • 00:26:08
    All my fears, all my shame [You're the God who overcomes]
  • 00:26:15
    I lay 'em down in Jesus’ name [You're the God who overcomes]
  • 00:26:28
    You lift my head up
  • 00:26:33
    You heal my soul
  • 00:26:41
    I’m made new because of You
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    Because of what You’ve done You’re the God who overcomes
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    You lift my head up
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    You heal my soul
  • 00:27:07
    I’m made new because of You
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    Because of what You’ve done You’re the God who overcomes
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    You're the God who overcomes
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    You're the God who overcomes
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    - God, I thank you because just like we're singing
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    when we're alone, when we're on our own, we're not alone.
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    God, I ask that I'm even in the midst of our times
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    of gathering like this that You would send Your Spirit,
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    You would send the Comforter to meet us in the midst of these times.
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    That even right now that we would find comfort,
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    comfort in Your presence,
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    comfort in the gathering of the body right now.
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    Guys, it's so good worshiping with you.
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    I love getting to do this.
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    We do this actually not quite like this,
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    but we still gather twice a day
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    in the morning at 8:30 on Facebook
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    you can go to Crossroads Church and at 7 p.m.
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    So if you want to join us and thousands of other folks
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    who are coming together, we'd love to have. Love to have you.
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    - I love that we can still worship together at a time like this.
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    And if you want to follow Crossroads music or hear more of it,
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    it's available on every streaming platform:
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    Apple, Spotify, wherever you get your music.
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    Hey, if you heard something today and want some prayer
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    or want to talk with someone, don't forget,
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    you can do that at Crossroads.net.
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    We also want to invite you to partner with us financially
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    or practice the spiritual discipline of giving.
  • 00:33:38
    You can do that at Crossroads.net/give.
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    Join us next week where we're going to continue
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    in our Mindset series.
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    We're gonna be talking about the importance of community
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    for processing our thoughts and emotions.
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    We're all disconnected right now, but we're going to talk
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    about the power of connecting with other people.
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    And I promise I will not set myself on fire.
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Welcome to the Weekend Follow Up.

  1. For many of us, this pandemic has brought new challenges, new hobbies, and maybe even some new Netflix finds. Share with the group your guilty pleasure show and why. Keep it PG13.

  2. If we control our thoughts and emotions, we will control our future. Might sound simple, but it’s not always easy to do. Where is one place you feel like your thoughts and emotions are taking over? Share that with the group.

  3. Our emotions are usually a gift, giving us insight into how we view the world or something deeper going on in us. We get to choose how we embrace them. Do you stuff down your emotions to not acknowledge them? Or do you lean more on letting them flow?

  4. Media we consume impacts our emotions. There are steps to become aware of who and what impacts our emotions so we can regain control. First, monitor what’s on your feed. And second, change what has your focus that’s negatively impacting your emotions. Where can you take a step in this space this week — whether in your media intake or your thought focus?

  5. Think of a friend or neighbor who you’ve been meaning to reach out to. Give them a call this week and ask how they’re doing. Then, just listen. When they ask how you are, share how you’re learning to process emotions differently. It might feel uncomfortable, but it can unlock a new level of relationship.

  6. One way in managing our emotions is to surrender them to God in prayer. Say something like, “God I feel [insert feeling]. How do you feel about [insert situation]? What are you trying to say through this emotion?” Specifically tell God on how you are feeling and ask him to meet you there. Anything goes. He can take it.

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