You were made to be brave.
You were born to make a difference.
God designed you for heart
pumping, joy-filled adventure
and we're here to guide
you to that adventurous life.
Crossroads Church. Hey,
everyone, and welcome to Crossroads.
My name is Hannah Shepherd,
and we are in the middle
of a series called Mindset
where we're learning about how to allow God
to take our thoughts and emotions captive.
At this point in isolation,
if you're anything like me,
you may have been struggling to
keep your mind in a healthy place.
Don't we all wish that there
was just a secret superpower
that could help us? Well, it turns
out that God says there actually
is. One of our teaching
pastors, Kyle Ranson,
is going to reveal that secret superpower
in a way that can help transform us all.
There's a clue in the next video.
- When dark days full of fear
and doubt attack our mindset,
when our thoughts and
emotions have us by the throat,
when storms rage all
around, we need heroes.
Now is the time to look
in the mirror to find them,
because you were made to have
the mighty mindset of a super hero,
to have the strength to
control your emotions,
the ability to see through the chaos,
to survive pandemics, defeat
evil villains, and save the day.
But to get there,
you must first defeat the
supervillain standing in your way:
the dynamic and deadly duo
known as Pride and Shame.
If we can solve this riddle, we
can unleash the hero in us all.
- Hi, I'm Kyle. I'm one of the
teaching pastors at Crossroads.
Welcome to my workshop, where I've spent
most of the last two months
under the stay at home orders
with my wife and three children.
I mean, they're not here exactly.
They're in the house right over there.
But I spent a lot of time
here in my workshop,
more so now than even before.
This is where I build things like this.
Right now this is in the
process of being transformed
into an outdoor sofa.
Now, when you build
something, you've got to have
the idea of what you want
it to become in your mind.
And I'm not quite ready
to nail down my plans yet.
I've been sketching
and trying to figure out
what I wanted to look like.
But before I start actually
cutting this wood up,
I have to know what I wanted to become.
I want you to think back
to when you first thought
about what you wanted to
become back when you were a kid.
For me, the first thing I wanted to become,
the first career I wanted
was that of a superhero.
I thought that'd be fantastic.
And not just any
superhero, very specifically,
I wanted to be Superman.
I don't know if it was the
red underwear on the outside
or the blue tights or whatever,
I thought it'd be fantastic.
And then I learned that's
not actual possibility.
But what we're learning in this pandemic
is that there are jobs in
which you can be a superhero.
Right? We're learning things like
doctors and nurses are superheroes,
but not just that, grocery store workers,
delivery drivers, mask makers,
meat packers are all superheroes.
And if you're one of those
let me just say on behalf of
me and my family, thank you.
We are so grateful for
the way you're serving us.
Now I think this thing of wanting
to be a superhero is not an
accident. If you're like me as
a kid, you wanted to be one.
I think that's a hard wired
desire put in us by God.
He actually wants us to be superheroes.
You might be like, "Hold on, Kyle.
Time out. Are you saying
we're the superheroes?
Because that's a little bit presumptuous.
I thought in the story that
Jesus was the superhero."
Yeah, totally. Jesus is the superhero.
But here's the thing, part of
his mission according to Him,
was making more superheroes.
He actually said that in John, 14:12:
He says you'll do greater things than Me,
like the super heroic
stuff I've been doing,
you'll do that and even more.
He hasn't created us to be conformed
to the normal patterns of this world.
In other words, if He's
made you to be a mom,
he hasn't made you to be conformed to
the normal patterns of being a mom.
He's made you to be, I
believe, a super heroic mom.
And if he's made you to be a husband,
He hasn't made you to conform the
normal patterns of being a husband.
He's made you to be a super heroic husband.
If He's made you to be a
friend or a leader or a worker
or a teacher or whatever,
I don't think He's made you
to be conformed to normal
patterns of those things.
He's made you to be a super
heroic version of all of those roles.
The key to it though is a transformation,
not a physical transformation,
a mental transformation,
a transformation of the mind.
Romans 12:2 puts it this way:
Now think about superhero
stories with me for a second,
which, by the way, I know they're not true,
but Scripture says that God
has hidden His truths in creation.
Well, movies are a created
thing and if there's something
in them that resonates with
us, often times it's because
they're revealing a deeper truth of God,
like this verse that we just read.
Think with me for a second
about the story of Bruce Banner.
What's the most important
transformation he undergoes?
It's not the transformation of gamma rays
where he becomes the
Hulk and big and massive.
It's not the most critical transformation.
It's the transformation of his mind,
when he goes from anger,
the normal pattern of anger
to love, gentleness, and care.
What's the most important
transformation in the story of Iron Man?
It's not Tony Stark
building better and better
and better and better suits.
It's not. It's the
transformation of his mind
where he goes from
selfishness to selflessness.
It's the critical transformation
that every superhero must undergo,
you and I include it.
But the transformation of your
mind won't happen without a fight,
because just like an every superhero story,
there are enemies standing in
your way and they have names.
Their names are pride and his
sinister sidekick known as shame.
They're a dynamic duo
whose goal is to prevent
They work like this: pride talks
to you about your problems.
And he says, "You don't have any problems.
You're not the problem.
You know who the problem is?
Do you know who needs to change?
Them. They're -- I think they're way off.
I mean, you are amazing.
Everything about you is amazing.
Your skin is flawless.
It glows all the time.
Your farts, they smell
like freshly baked bread.
You are perfect the way you
are you shouldn't change."
And shame says almost the exact opposite.
Shame says, "Oh my gosh,
you have so many problems,
and not just so many problems.
You have problems that
could like never be overcome.
I mean you are -- you're hopeless.
You are utterly hopeless.
You should give up. You
should probably just give up."
And together they are a
powerful and dynamic duo.
Now, you will not experience transformation
if they're not defeated. And
I have to be honest with you,
you can't do it on your own.
You can't. But, with God's
help, they can be overcome.
The transformation of your
mind goes through these two.
Now, to understand how that works,
we've got a first dig
underneath the surface
and talk about underlying conditions.
This is one of those phrases that
none of us knew even
existed just a few months ago,
but now we hear about it nearly every day,
along with phrases like social distancing
and flatten the curve and Tiger King
and now Murder Hornet, whatever that is.
I just -- it's something
to be terrified of, I guess.
I don't know. But we all have
underlying conditions, whether or not
we have something that
makes us prone to COVID-19,
we have these underlying conditions,
weaknesses that threaten our future.
These are the very thing
God wants to transform.
Now, how would you
know which ones you have?
You would need some form of a detector.
Stud finder works, it's good to know.
Thankfully, God's given us expert
underlying condition detectors,
and we've been locked in
the same home with them
for months so they've had
plenty of time to do their job.
My underlying condition detectors are named
Sarah, Ben, Eli, and Gracie,
and they've been pointing
out my underlying conditions.
Chances are you've been
experiencing the same thing.
I don't know what yours have pointed out,
but mine have detected things like temper.
Mine have detected things like pessimism.
Maybe for you it's things like
you just can't put a frigging
dish in the dishwasher.
It's right there. Just
put your dish right here,
right there in the dishwasher.
Maybe it's your inability
to put down a toilet seat.
Or maybe it's something more serious.
Maybe it's something
like your drinking habit
that's gone from a once a
week cocktail to a daily event
that happens earlier
and earlier in the day.
Maybe it's your spending patterns.
Maybe to fight boredom you've
been buying more and more
and more and more and more.
I don't know what it is for you,
but the road to transformation
hinges on your ability
to have those underlying
The way to do it is to
adopt the mindset of Christ.
This is what it says in Philippians 2:
Now you're gonna deal
with both of these in your life:
pride and shame, maybe
even in the same day.
But let's talk about
how to defeat pride first.
The key to it is in the verse we just read:
adopting the mindset of Christ,
which is the mindset of humility.
Humility is a choice,
a very specific choice
to admit something critically important:
that I have underlying
conditions, that I am weak.
The mindset of weakness is how God says
you will defeat pride.
Now, when all this virus coverage started,
I heard this term "underlying conditions."
And I, like everybody,
wanted to know what they were,
because if you have them, it makes
you more susceptible to the virus.
And I heard about things like, you know,
age and diabetes and heart disease,
and I thought, great, I'm fine.
And then it literally took
me probably two weeks
into the virus to realize
that lung diseases
are also an underlying condition,
a weakness that makes
you proud of the COVID virus.
And I suddenly remembered
something very important,
which is I have asthma.
I had honestly completely
forgotten about it because,
praise God, I've been symptom
free for almost two decades.
But suddenly it wasn't
the forefront of my mind
and this memory came flooding back.
I was probably four years
old or so and I remember
waking up in the middle of the
night and I could not breathe.
If you've never felt this before,
it's like steel cable is
wrapped around your chest
preventing your lungs from expanding enough
to fill up with enough air to breathe.
It's the most panic inducing
feeling you can experience,
at least that I've ever experienced.
Do you know, I don't think that asthma is
the underlying condition
that most threatens my future.
And it's not because I don't
believe the virus isn't real
or that it shouldn't be a
concern. It's not it at all.
See, I believe there's a
much more dangerous
underlying condition that has
been clearly pointed out to me
over the last few months: it's anger.
It's the one that threatens
me from ever becoming
the superhero God wants me to become.
Sarah calls it the bark.
It flares up at night mostly.
We're at the end of the day.
I finally will get done
with work, I'll head inside.
We'll eat dinner, we'll do
everything, we'll do bedtime.
Finally get the kids put down
and I'll finally sit down
on the couch and then
one of them will come
back out of their rooms
and want to talk to me.
I snap and I just bark at them,
"Why are you out of your room?
Get back in your room. Hey,
I'm tired of you disobeying."
And they go back inside.
My nine year old Ben,
he probably gets the worst of it from me.
He's got this massive imagination
like he's always making
stories and drawing.
He just gets lost in it, so much
so that when you talk to him,
he can't even hear you, really,
like he's so engaged
he can't even hear you.
Sarah says he's exactly
like me, but here's the thing,
I've never had to deal
with me before in life and
it turns out I'm very frustrating,
very frustrating sometimes.
And so the other day, it
was probably two weeks ago,
Ben was drawing something,
you know, lost in his work.
And I forget what it was, I
wanted him to do something.
And so I gave him the assignment,
"Ben, I need you to X, Y and Z."
And he just ignored me, just
didn't do anything, just kept going.
And I just exploded,
"Ben, I'm sick of this.
Hey, I'm talking to you.
You need to listen to me." And
with tears in his eyes, my nine year
old son looked at me and he
said, "Daddy, I just didn't hear you."
In that moment pride wanted to talk to me
and shame wanted to talk to me.
Pride wanted to say, "It's his fault.
It's not your fault. You're fine.
It is him. He needs to change."
And shame wanted to
say, "You're a terrible dad.
You will always be an awful dad.
You have no shot.
Forget it. You're an awful dad.
You always will be." What
do you do in that moment?
Who do you listen to?
God says something radically different,
if you choose to listen to him.
He says, "Kyle, listen to me.
Yes, you are weak, but your weakness
makes you a perfect candidate for My power
because do you know
what I trade for weakness?
Power." Listen to 2 Corinthians 12:9:
God says the same thing to you,
that His grace is sufficient for you
and His power can be made
perfect in your weakness.
Accepting your weakness defeats pride
and sets you up for transformation.
In the Captain America story it was little,
skinny Steve Rogers' willingness
to accept that he was weak
that made him the perfect
candidate for transformation.
It's the same with you.
This idea that weak people
are the perfect candidates
for transformation is a
dominant through line in scripture.
There's this one scene
where Jesus goes to a party
and a party is filled
full of people who know
beyond a shadow of a
doubt that they are weak
because they're told it all
the time by everybody else:
the tax collectors and the sinners.
And Jesus is at this party hanging out
when a group of religious
leaders burst in the door.
And they come up to Jesus
and they go, "Why are you here?
What makes you think these people
are worth you spending time with?"
And He said something critical to them.
He looked at them and said, "Guys,
I didn't come for healthy people,
for people who think that
they've got it all together.
I came for sick people,
people who know they are weak
and in need of transformation."
And those guys looked at him, "oh,
okay," and they walk out the door.
Now, spoiler alert, every single
person Jesus ever met was weak,
but only those with the
humility to admit it and accept it
ever received His transformation and power.
Are you willing to admit your weaknesses?
Really? Would your spouse agree?
What about your parents
or your kids or your friends?
Listen, I know it can be
difficult to admit your weakness,
but it's critical.
It's critical because,
listen, to weak people
God doesn't just say you are weak.
God says you are worthy.
And just like weakness defeats
pride, worthiness defeats shame.
Shame focuses on what
you have failed to do,
but worthiness focuses on God
and what He has succeeded in doing for you.
And what He's done for you is died for you.
Which means He said
you are worthy of His life.
And listen, it is not humility
to disagree with God.
The most humble thing you
can do is to agree with God
about what you're worth.
Now, in that Philippians
verse that we read earlier,
after Jesus chooses to
take the position of humility,
God transforms Him.
It says this:
God looked at
Jesus, who chose to
make Himself weak,
and He said, "I'm so pleased with you,
I'm going to pour my power into you."
And the Bible says that
same power is available
to transform you and me.
Literally the same;
that's the word it uses.
Check out Ephesians 1:
The truth is, you are not just weak,
you are also worthy.
Worthy of God's presence and power
and blessing and anointing in your life.
- I'm so thankful for the reminder that
I am both weak and worthy.
And I love knowing the
God's power is available to me.
Well, some of us may not be
in a place to believe that just yet.
You can go to Crossroads.net/talk
to receive prayer and encouragement.
Well, when we practice
God meets us in powerful ways.
One of those disciplines is tithing.
If you would like to
practice that right now,
or generosity, you can
go to Crossroads.net/give.
In this next video, we get to see
some real superheroes in action.
I'm so thankful for medical professionals.
And I'm so glad to be part of
a church that is about action.
- Hey, I'm Justin, part
of Crossroads staff here.
Today, we're packing
our first 50 gratitude boxes
as a part of Operation Gratitude.
These boxes are filled
with love and some laughter
and some nutrition and some energy
for medical workers
who are on the frontlines.
And these boxes will go all over.
Wherever we have people in need,
we want to get these boxes out to them.
One of the things I
love about our church is
that we jump into action.
So we asked some friends of
ours who are in the medical field,
what do you need? What can you receive?
Then we added some Crossroads fun to it,
things like dart guns, water,
putty, we put a joke book in there.
We just wanted them to know
that we're behind them 100%,
so we put prayer cards,
some ways that they can
We directed them to Crossroads.net/medical
so they could get their physical,
spiritual, mental needs met
and to reminded them that we as a community
are there to care for them.
To everyone in the medical
community, we see you.
We see your work and it matters to us.
Thank you for the work you're doing.
- Man, what a cool example of heroes
transforming the world around them.
When you replace the
mindset of pride and shame
with what God says, that
you are weak and worthy,
He will begin to transform you
into the superhero you are made to be.
After I flew off the handle at my son,
I didn't give into the voice of pride
that wanted me to believe
it was his fault, not mine.
And I didn't listen to the voice of shame
that wanted me to believe that I'm doomed
and a hopeless, terrible dad forever.
Instead, I chose to agree with God who says
I am weak, but I am also worthy.
And in the moment I stopped
and I asked God to transform me,
to give me the patience that I need
to become the superhero dad
He's created me to be, and he is.
These last two months, I've
seen God grow patience in me
more than ever before,
and I'm far from done.
But He is transforming
me into the superhero dad
I was always made to be and
He'll do the same thing for you.
So when your wife points
out that problem again
or your boss points out a mistake
or your friend gets frustrated
for you continuing to flake out,
rather than go down the
path of pride or shame,
instead, choose to agree with God
that you are weak, but you are worthy.
Because He is able to transform you
into the superhero you're created to be,
into a friend who shows
up in the exact right moment,
a super heroic friend,
into a super heroic
leader who is able to lead
through uncharted economic
territories with confidence,
transform you into a super heroic dad
who loves his kids with
patience and kindness,
who is able to transform you into
a super heroic son and daughter
who make their Father proud.
He's able to do it.
Let me pray for you right now.
God, you are able to transform us,
to take us from wherever
we are into the people
you've created us to be.
I'm asking that you would do that.
Would you take our
weakness and our worthiness
and would You transform us?
Begin that right now.
Amen. Let's worship
God, the God who is able.
- I love coming together like this.
My name is Robbie and I'm one of the folks
that gets lead worship around here.
We're going to spend
some time singing together.
And so you may think,
"Well, this is kind of the time
when I sort of like, go get a refill."
But I would love to invite
you to stay engaged.
These songs help route us in our faith,
remind us of who God is and
who we are because of Him.
And if you're a guitar player,
maybe you've got an old dusty guitar.
Go grab it and play along with us.
That's what those weird
shapes are up in the corner,
they're guitar chords, so we'd
love to have you join us now.
- May the Lord, my rock, be praised.
Who trains my hands for
battle and my fingers for warfare.
He is my faithful love and my fortress.
My stronghold and my deliver.
He is my shield and I take refuge in Him.
Lord, what is man that You care for him?
The son, a man that you think of him?
Man is like breathe,
his days are like passing shadows.
Lord, part Your heavens and come down,
touch the mountains and they will smoke.
- God, I'm grateful
that we can come before You
and we can worship and
we can engage with You
and You draw near.
You say You enthrone Yourself
on the praise of your people.
And so thanks for drawing near to us
when we are scattered
and connecting digitally.
Amen. Guys, thanks for worshiping with us.
It is great to connect in this way.
We would love to pray for you.
If you want to pray with
a real life person through chatting,
you go to Crossroads.net right now
and we've got people
waiting to pray with you.
Thanks for joining us.
And we'll see you all next week.
Have a great one.
Thank you so much for
spending some time with us
today. I hope that you found it helpful.
Remember, you can go to
Crossroads.net/talk to chat with us.
Well, next time we start a
brand new series called Anchored
where we overturn some
popular beliefs about Christianity
and really get to the
bottom of what it means
to be a follower of Jesus.
Come back and join us.
- Life, it will test your resolve, man.
It will batter you with wave after wave,
but strength is forged in trial
and true faith, it anchors you.