Join Community | Grow Week 5

When you think of church do you imagine a building with a steeple or your kitchen table? The Church isn’t a building. It’s people. The heart of community throughout the Bible is filled with storytelling, food, and wine around someone’s table. Sadly, 75% of Americans today are lonely. This week we teach you how to turn the tables on this statistic (pun intended) and start thriving with others.

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    - What was the most important tool in Jesus's ministry?
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    In the history of the church?
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    Was it giant cathedrals?
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    Was it stained glass windows?
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    Was it fog machines, sound systems?
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    What about lasers?
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    No, it's this: food and drink.
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    Eating and drinking was a key to Jesus life and work.
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    In fact, Jesus used food and drink
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    and meals around tables to change the world.
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    And you can, too.
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    Today we're going to unpack the beautiful picture
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    of community that's put to page in the Bible
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    and how a simple thing that you're already doing
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    every day could be repurposed to change
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    the social and emotional landscape
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    of your life and of our world.
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    But before we get there, I want to tell you
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    something that I actually learned
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    while watching Ted Lasso a few months back.
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    You know, scientists used to believe that
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    trees competed with each other for sunlight
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    and resources in, like, a Darwinian battle.
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    But what we're learning now is
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    that's actually not the case.
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    Trees actually work together to grow
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    and grow best when they're together.
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    - Deep in Sequoia National Park,
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    towering around 380 feet tall
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    stand the giants of the forest,
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    the tallest trees on Earth, the giant sequoias.
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    Many of these trees are over 2000 years old,
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    and these colossal sequoias withstand strong winds,
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    earthquakes, fires, storms, flooding, and time.
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    The giant sequoias are equipped with a root system
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    that's relatively shallow,
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    going down only 6 to 12 feet deep.
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    Remarkable, given their size, weight and stature.
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    How is it these mammoth trees rarely fall over?
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    These trees have been designed with roots
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    that reach out and around and intertwine
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    with the roots of the neighboring sequoias.
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    They are linked together by an underground network
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    that proves to be unwaveringly strong.
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    They are held up by their community.
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    There in nature God gives us a picture
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    of a rooted community,
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    an ability to sustain in difficult times,
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    to withstand, to grow and to thrive
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    beautifully and uniquely linked together by community.
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    - Well, you and I aren't that different.
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    We grow better together when we're with other people.
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    Right?
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    And today I'm going to show you
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    not just what Jesus had to say about community,
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    but how you can grow your own.
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    I'd propose to you that the most useful tool
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    that Jesus had at his disposal was something that
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    is sitting in the middle of your kitchen right now.
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    No, it's not your Vitamix or even your coffee machine,
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    but your table.
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    Let me just stop here.
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    We've been on this Journey now,
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    on this journey looking to grow,
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    looking at these different practices,
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    trusting that something in them will grow us,
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    will stretch us, will bring us to a new place.
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    There's a reason why we're ending
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    on this idea of communities,
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    because all those other great things
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    happen best when we don't do them alone.
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    When we do them in the context of community.
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    We can be like those redwoods, where we grow tall,
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    where we grow strong, where we build something
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    and grow something that lasts for generations.
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    That's how you and I can follow Jesus's example
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    for using our tables not just as
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    a platform to consume calories from,
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    but as a catalyst for community, for growth,
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    for life change that can change the world.
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    Matthew and Luke's Gospels both catch
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    a really unique phrase on this topic
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    that was lost on me until recently.
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    The phrase goes like this: The Son of Man.
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    The Son of Man came.
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    It's used twice in short succession,
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    that would have been like a highlighter.
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    It would have jumped off the page
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    to the people hearing it at the time.
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    They would have intuitively recognized
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    that these two uses of this phrase
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    mean that they go together, like two sides of a coin.
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    So, let me give them to you.
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    Matthew 18:11 says:
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    This is just beautiful.
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    This is Jesus's mission. It's His purpose.
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    It's His what, it's what He came to do, right?
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    To seek and save the lost.
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    But it's followed up with Matthew 11:19 that says this:
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    It actually goes on to say,
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    "The Son of Man came eating and drinking.
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    And they say, 'Here's a glutton and a drunkard,
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    a friend of tax collectors and sinners.'"
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    This was like people knocking on Jesus
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    for hanging with the people who didn't measure up.
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    But this the Son of Man came eating and drinking
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    is Jesus's how.
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    It shows us that Jesus best tool for ministry
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    was the table, and He understood
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    that a meal isn't just a meal,
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    it's setting the table to grow with God and other people.
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    Around a table people are invited into a family.
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    They're nourished not just to survive, but to thrive.
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    For example, just in the Book of Luke,
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    there are ten stories that happen at meals,
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    where enemies are forgiven,
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    where the outcast are invited in,
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    where the hungry are fed.
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    Man, you've got reconciliation,
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    you've got social justice, you've got rest,
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    service, humility, storytelling, great wine,
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    comfort food and more all happening around a table.
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    But the table isn't most people's picture of church,
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    right?
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    If I were to ask you to send me a picture of a church,
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    you'd probably send me something with a stage
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    or a steeple.
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    And those are totally fine.
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    Those are buildings, though, not the church.
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    The church is people. It's you and me.
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    Scripture is really clear about this.
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    So, how did we get from a poor, homeless,
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    itinerant rabbi and some fishermen
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    to massive auditoriums and fog machines?
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    Well, let me give you just a little bit of a history.
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    And so I'll be honest,
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    I'm going to nerd out on you for like 2 minutes.
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    So when Christianity first started, it was illegal.
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    Like, it was --it was seen as like the punk rock
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    alt culture to mainline Judaism or Roman paganism.
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    It was under the radar
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    and those who practiced it were persecuted.
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    It was made up mostly of like small clusters of families
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    living in close knit communities where they,
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    like, lived, worked, worshiped,
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    and ate in really close proximity to each other.
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    I actually had a chance to visit one of these homes
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    in a place called Capernaum where, like,
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    they're pretty sure they found Peter,
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    like, Saint Peter's legit home.
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    It's like 100 feet from the temple on one side,
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    100 feet from the Sea of Galilee on the other.
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    Like, Jesus probably stayed in it.
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    It was so cool. Anyway.
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    But this was a time in the life of the Church,
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    of Christian community,
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    where they couldn't gather publicly.
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    And so their architectural choice at the time was,
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    you guessed it, a home gathered around,
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    you know it by now, a table, right?
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    So, their architectural choice, the building was a home,
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    gathered around a table, emphasizing community.
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    Fast forward a few hundred years
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    and you've got this guy, Emperor Constantine,
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    who ruled the Roman Empire.
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    He converted to Christianity.
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    Some would say this was legit.
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    Others would say it was like opportunistic,
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    he saw the writing was on the wall.
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    But overnight almost, an illegal sect
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    suddenly became the official religion of an empire.
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    And as a result of that,
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    there was a bunch of empty temples
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    to, like, Zeus and whatever
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    that were all of a sudden vacant
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    and got turned into churches, right?
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    These temples and later cathedrals, man, they were big.
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    They were -- they emphasized the majesty of God
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    through art and architecture.
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    The acoustics were terrible.
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    That didn't matter because the sermons
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    were all in Latin, which, like, nobody understood.
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    But they had stained glass.
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    They had ceilings that stretched to the heavens.
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    They had stuff, like, covered in gold.
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    Their architecture was a temple gathered around an altar
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    and it emphasized ritual.
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    Phase three in our history goes a little bit like this.
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    So after 1000 or so years, including the Dark Ages,
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    a little thing called the Reformation hit.
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    Martin Luther was a guy who saw a bunch of abuses
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    by the Catholic Church, and he nailed 98 theses
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    or complaints against the church,
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    like, to the wall of the church.
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    It was like a -- it was a bold move.
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    So, as a reaction, like, there was a split that happened
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    where Luther basically said, "Hey, if people understood,
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    really knew, like, we're taught what the Bible says
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    they would understand and we wouldn't be subject
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    to these different abuses
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    and they wouldn't be taken advantage of."
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    So, their architecture took on
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    the characteristics of a lecture hall,
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    like, tiered seating around a central stage or podium
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    where the acoustics were good,
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    people could hear and sightlines were good.
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    And look in any church building
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    in the last couple of hundred years,
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    including Crossroads ones,
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    and this is still kind of the prevailing idea.
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    A lecture hall style building
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    centered around a stage emphasizing teaching.
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    Now, I love big auditoriums with lights
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    and sound systems so everyone can hear every word.
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    I was a musician for most of my life,
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    but I just don't think that on their own they're enough.
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    What if each of our iterations since that time of Jesus
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    leaves something good on the table
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    that needs to be recaptured?
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    I've been in ministry working at churches
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    since I was 17 years old.
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    And maybe the purest example of church
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    that I've ever experienced didn't happen on a stage.
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    It happened in a home around a table.
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    That's what I want for you.
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    This Journey is all for naught if we can't figure out
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    how to do these proven practices
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    in the context of community.
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    So this is my wife, Rachel. She's amazing.
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    She leads a lot of the work
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    that happens in our Crossroads Anywhere space.
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    And she's, frankly, like the leader
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    that I want to be when I grow up.
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    But we also got to walk through this thing called,
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    man, figuring out community
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    and how it happens around our table together.
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    And I wanted you to hear from her directly about that.
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    - Yeah. So, we were newlyweds, I think,
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    and we were doing this study at Crossroads
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    where you're supposed to actually practice
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    the thing you were reading. Crazy.
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    - Crazy.
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    - So, we got to the part about the early church
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    and how they met around tables.
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    And somebody specifically joked,
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    "So, when are we going to start meeting together daily?"
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    And we're all like, "Ha ha, yeah, right,
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    nobody has time for that."
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    And then we're like, "Okay, how about weekly?"
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    So, we start this weekly dinner.
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    We're super excited about it. You love to cook.
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    We thought we would bring all our friend groups together
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    and everybody would just click.
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    - We would align, like, everybody's crazy schedules
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    would align around our schedule at our house.
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    It'd be really convenient and beautiful.
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    - Yes. And so, we sent the emails, texted everybody,
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    cooked a big dinner and waited and waited,
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    like, they're just late.
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    And like, literally no one showed up.
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    Nobody came to our first one.
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    - It was so sad.
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    - It was, you know, you can give up at that moment,
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    but we were just like,
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    okay, maybe we've just got to do it differently.
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    And so we started experimenting.
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    And I think we started letting go of the idea that,
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    okay, everything's going to align perfectly
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    with our favorite people.
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    And we're just like, maybe we just do the thing
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    and see what it needs to be, like, who needs this
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    versus, like, what do we need?
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    And we just started. We just kept doing it.
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    We just kept opening our home and to see who showed up.
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    So, the first people to really commit
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    were our friends Matt and Katie.
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    And they just start coming every single week.
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    Like, literally, I think they came every week
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    - for like four years. - Yes.
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    - They never missed.
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    They had multiple children during this time.
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    And it was amazing.
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    And just having those two other people as the anchors
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    of the group up front made it great.
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    And then slowly more people just start to come.
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    So, the next person was our friend, Anissa.
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    She was our neighbor. She lived upstairs.
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    She seriously saved the group because she taught us
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    really early on that it wasn't an entertainment thing,
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    it was a hospitality thing.
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    And the biggest way she did that was just by helping
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    Like, she's from Libya, so she's from a culture
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    where like eating at big tables, big meals,
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    lots of people is normal.
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    And so she was just always the first one to,
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    like, get up and help us clean the dishes
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    so that actually when people left,
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    our house was cleaner than before they came here.
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    - Hear us on that.
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    When we finished a dinner for a boatload of people,
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    our house was cleaner than we started.
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    I know it sounds miraculous, sounds too good to be true,
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    but just find yourself a person like Anissa is amazing.
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    - Yes.
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    And she would just drop off 10 lb bags of rice
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    at our door because we were always just trying
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    to figure out cheap ways to feed a lot of people.
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    And she would literally wash all the dishes
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    and hand people brooms.
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    And then people just started following her lead,
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    like, they would just start doing that, too.
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    - And there was, like, what started as a meal
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    for our friends grew into a meal for not our friends
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    and sort of, like, a surrogate family.
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    Like, that was one of the trends.
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    It was like people who either didn't have community
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    nearby or didn't have community at all,
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    they were drawn to this thing.
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    And it became a really special thing where God
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    was just a natural part of the conversation.
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    It wasn't a program, like, but it --
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    really amazing stuff happened.
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    Talk about, like, some of the good stuff that came
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    in that season and we didn't expect.
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    - Yeah, like there was no content. It was just dinner.
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    But over time, just, I think just the nature of people
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    showing up for each other over time,
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    and at least most of the group knowing God.
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    When somebody needed something, we would just help.
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    Like, something would come up around the table
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    and we'd say, "Well, hey, well, we'll pray for that,
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    or can we actually help you with that this week?
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    Like, can we come around you?"
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    And, you know, we baptized somebody in our bathtub.
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    We had some friends that were struggling financially,
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    like, really bad.
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    It was amazing that they always knew
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    they just had a place to eat, you know,
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    they just had a place that they knew
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    they were going to get good food at least once a week.
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    We would send them home with leftovers.
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    It was just easy and natural and it wasn't weird.
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    If somebody had any need,
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    they didn't have to fill out a form
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    and wait for the church to get back to them
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    because they were just already with the church.
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    You know, if they had a God question,
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    they didn't have to ask a stranger or wait for a pastor.
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    They would just ask somebody there.
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    People started growing in their faith, and having friends.
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    And, you know, it's funny, this was years ago now,
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    this exact group.
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    But we've been struck lately as we've been adopting,
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    like, the main people who are showing up for us,
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    helping us adopt are all our friends from that time.
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    Like, they're the first ones to start donating,
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    to start talking to us about it, start helping
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    because it really did just become a family.
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    It was a random group of people who did not know each other,
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    but just started eating together every week
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    and became some of our best friends.
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    - Yeah. - There were definitely
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    some nights that we didn't want to do it.
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    Like, community is not always fun.
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    Like, to think of something every week,
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    that feels exhausting just to think about sometimes.
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    - It was daunting.
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    - Even in the moment, it is sometimes,
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    like, there are plenty of nights where we thought,
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    "Oh, maybe we should just cancel."
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    But I actually think the weekly-ness
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    is what makes it good because
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    that's where our relationships could grow.
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    Like, even if we were super tired
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    before people came over, after they left, we weren't.
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    We felt better, like, we felt more connected.
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    We felt more energized.
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    We had -- because we had people.
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    And like, we all just need people to grow.
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    We need people to, you know, cheer us up.
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    That's -- I feel like that's always what happened,
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    Like, even on the nights that weren't the best.
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    - Right.
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    - There's still something that happens in community
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    that fills you up.
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    - And ours isn't the only example of this
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    that we've seen.
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    Like, people out of our open house dinner,
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    they started their own.
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    There were brunches.
  • 00:16:03
    There were other really cool examples of
  • 00:16:06
    open, accessible community.
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    And actually I just heard of one this week
  • 00:16:11
    that I want to highlight right now
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    and want to introduce you to a friend of mine,
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    Damanuel and his Friday night dinners.
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    - All right. Hey, this is Damanuel.
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    Damanuel's the man, and he's, like,
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    well, let me just tell you a story
  • 00:16:25
    to help you get to know this guy.
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    So, you remember the pandemic when the rest of us
  • 00:16:29
    were, like, face first into a bag of Cheetos?
  • 00:16:32
    We were just, like, sad eating?
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    Like, yes, you remember that? Okay.
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    Well, Damanuel was not that guy.
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    He instead was -- What were you doing?
  • 00:16:39
    Calling who?
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    - Calling all of my contacts on my phone.
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    - Every single person. - Every single person's phone.
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    How many how many contacts do you have in your phone?
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    - It was like, it was over 1000. - Oh, my gosh.
  • 00:16:50
    That's giving most of us social anxiety just hearing it.
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    He called over 1000 people,
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    some of whom you hadn't talked to in...?
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    - In years.
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    - Like, your buddy Phil from, like, second grade.
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    - Yeah. - Yes. Okay.
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    - Just to see how they're doing. - Right.
  • 00:17:02
    - I heard that story.
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    I was like, we have to hire this guy.
  • 00:17:04
    Like, I don't even know him, but he's amazing.
  • 00:17:06
    - So, Damanuel is just, he's just a connector.
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    Like, that's just who he is. He loves people.
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    He loves seeing them get connected.
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    So, Damanuel, I wanted to have you here to talk to us
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    about what it looks like for people to get connected
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    here at Crossroads.
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    - Yeah, we have 100 groups around here
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    in the local space and in your own cities.
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    And we want to help you get connected in those places.
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    So, we have some people that are in Indiana,
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    we have some people that's in Texas.
  • 00:17:32
    We want you to get connected with people.
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    And so, if you are looking forward to a group
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    or people around you, shoot me an email
  • 00:17:39
    and I can help you out with filling that out
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    and getting people around you.
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    And so, I love connecting people
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    and I love getting people to know each other
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    and to grow in the next place together.
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    - We have like 28 regional leaders, right?
  • 00:17:51
    They're everywhere. It's amazing.
  • 00:17:52
    - D, man, tell us about Friday night dinners.
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    Tell us about how that got started,
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    what it looks like for you guys.
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    - Yeah, so one of my closest friends, Megan,
  • 00:18:01
    had this dream after she moved back here to Cincinnati
  • 00:18:04
    to open her house and just have people over for a meal.
  • 00:18:07
    And so, because she knows that through COVID
  • 00:18:09
    I loved to cook.
  • 00:18:10
    And she's like, "Hey, can you come cook for us?"
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    And I'm like, "Yeah."
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    So every Friday night we have a different theme.
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    So, in the clip, there is a video of me
  • 00:18:19
    cooking for a tropical dinner.
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    So, I had to cook something up some kabobs and some stuff.
  • 00:18:25
    And so, it was really fun just to actually
  • 00:18:28
    get to be a part of that because as I'm cooking,
  • 00:18:31
    I get to have a conversation with people
  • 00:18:32
    just over as I'm cooking and people love to help.
  • 00:18:35
    And so through that, I get to have a conversation
  • 00:18:37
    of, like, how are you doing
  • 00:18:39
    and how can I be praying for you along the way?
  • 00:18:42
    And so, I get to do a check in just while
  • 00:18:44
    I'm the cook at Friday night dinner.
  • 00:18:45
    So, it's been really good to actually get connected
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    and to understand how can we make this somewhere,
  • 00:18:52
    not just in Ohio, but everywhere else?
  • 00:18:54
    - Yeah. So, I guess the question is, like,
  • 00:18:56
    so what are we supposed to do with this info?
  • 00:18:58
    Well, like, my answer is hopefully we make it
  • 00:19:00
    more than just information, right?
  • 00:19:02
    Like, hopefully we do it, that we --
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    that we use the thing that we already have, your table,
  • 00:19:08
    and the thing you already have to do
  • 00:19:09
    multiple times a day, eat,
  • 00:19:11
    to connect and create community. Right?
  • 00:19:14
    So, here are three ways you can try it for yourself.
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    First, just grab a beer or dinner with a friend
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    and intentionally take the conversation deeper,
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    like, bridge that gap between drinking buddies
  • 00:19:25
    and genuine community.
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    Second, consider starting an open house dinner
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    in your neighborhood, in your dorm, in your whatever,
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    maybe with your Journey group.
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    We're trying to get these going all over the country
  • 00:19:35
    and think that they're an amazing opportunity
  • 00:19:37
    for a disconnected generation.
  • 00:19:39
    Like, so many people are lonely.
  • 00:19:41
    This is a chance for us to connect.
  • 00:19:43
    Thirdly, hey, I would love for you guys to join us
  • 00:19:47
    in our upcoming community cohort.
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    Like, that's 21 days to jumpstart community in your life
  • 00:19:53
    so that you can grow in the area of community
  • 00:19:56
    with teaching, with resources, with daily challenges,
  • 00:19:59
    and with people to grow alongside you.
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    It's designed to dive deeper into, not just the what,
  • 00:20:05
    but the how of building
  • 00:20:07
    and experiencing community for yourself.
  • 00:20:09
    Now, just some call outs, like, I know some of you
  • 00:20:11
    are like me, you're introverted and you're like,
  • 00:20:13
    "This sounds rough."
  • 00:20:15
    Or you're like, "My schedule's insane
  • 00:20:17
    or I don't know how to cook or I hate brunch."
  • 00:20:20
    I don't know.
  • 00:20:21
    We're going to talk about all of that
  • 00:20:23
    in the community cohort.
  • 00:20:24
    So, just click the link below or follow the link
  • 00:20:27
    and we'd love to have you join us
  • 00:20:29
    for our upcoming community cohort.
  • 00:20:31
    It's going to be worth your time.
  • 00:20:32
    Now, God doesn't want you to be alone.
  • 00:20:35
    He wants you to connect and grow.
  • 00:20:37
    And He gave you great tools, like the table,
  • 00:20:40
    that can help you do that.
  • 00:20:41
    So, let's put that table to use in our life
  • 00:20:44
    and recapture some of the beauty of the early church.
  • 00:20:48
    Because after all, the church isn't a building,
  • 00:20:50
    it's people, it's you and me.
  • 00:20:52
    It's not something we attend on Sunday morning.
  • 00:20:54
    It's who we are.
  • 00:21:08
    - This is the last week of the Journey.
  • 00:21:10
    And hey, congratulations, you made it.
  • 00:21:12
    You just completed something. That's a big deal.
  • 00:21:14
    We don't often complete a lot of things,
  • 00:21:16
    so you should feel great.
  • 00:21:17
    This is week five of the Journey.
  • 00:21:19
    And you know what? This isn't the end.
  • 00:21:21
    Because just like Andy said, you can get in a cohort,
  • 00:21:24
    you can do it.
  • 00:21:25
    You can take that next step into community.
  • 00:21:27
    - They're so great.
  • 00:21:28
    They're easy to fit in your life of taking the next spot,
  • 00:21:30
    which that's what we want for you.
  • 00:21:32
    This journey wasn't like, "Hey, grow for six weeks
  • 00:21:34
    and then, you know, and then you're good."
  • 00:21:36
    It's like, get you moving, get you going.
  • 00:21:38
    So, keep going, keep growing.
  • 00:21:40
    When you grow, it can lead to you wanting to give.
  • 00:21:42
    How about that? - That's exactly right.
  • 00:21:44
    You set me up for that. Thank you very much.
  • 00:21:45
    You know what Kyle threw to me,
  • 00:21:47
    because that's what our script said.
  • 00:21:48
    But for real, this is serious.
  • 00:21:50
    Giving leads to growth because it's the one thing
  • 00:21:54
    that takes us outside of ourselves.
  • 00:21:56
    And we don't have time to get into why we should give
  • 00:21:58
    and all of the spiritual life change.
  • 00:22:00
    So, we've set up a page that you can learn
  • 00:22:02
    all about that and you can give right there
  • 00:22:05
    at Crossroads.net/give.
  • 00:22:08
    - We've got more for you right here next week.
  • 00:22:12
    - Did you know that Jesus wants you to be happy?
  • 00:22:14
    He really, really does.
  • 00:22:16
    And today I want to help you step into a practice,
  • 00:22:19
    the practice of celebration that can help you
  • 00:22:22
    experience more of the happiness
  • 00:22:24
    that Jesus has and wants for you.

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