Being A Christmas Misfit

Everyone knows what it’s like to be an outsider. Like a reindeer left out of reindeer games! It hurts. But if you let Him, God can redeem those moments. Come discover the redemptive power of Christmas.

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    - Well, hey Merry Christmas.
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    I'm Andy and you are joining us
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    for our Christmas at the movie series,
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    where we're looking at some classic Christmas movies
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    and discovering the profound spiritual truths
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    hidden just below the surface.
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    Now, the start of the Christmas season,
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    to me, is always marked, always, by when
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    the radio station starts playing Christmas music,
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    right? I love it.
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    And actually we're going to start
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    by singing some Christmas songs today.
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    But these aren't just Christmas songs.
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    These are actually songs about and to God.
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    Now He came as a baby at Christmas,
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    but He wasn't just a baby.
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    He was a King who came to save the world.
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    And that's who we get to sing to
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    with these songs right now.
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    - You know, before we clap,
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    let's think about that song and ask ourselves
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    if we really want to sing that.
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    Christ is the Lord. That's what it says.
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    Christ is not my good luck charm.
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    Christ is not the reason for the season.
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    Christ is not, uh, the sweetness
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    that makes my life taste good.
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    Christ is not my copilot.
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    He is my lord. Lord.
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    That means when He says something,
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    those of us who call Him our Savior and Lord,
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    we do it. We do it.
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    And He is the Lord because He's worthy
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    and He's never wrong.
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    He's always on time and He's never wrong.
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    And because of that, we adore Him.
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    We adore Him because we have this history
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    of when we do what He says, it goes better
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    than if I did it the way that I says.
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    And I know that's bad grammar.
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    He's the Lord. He's the Lord,
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    and He's worthy of being adored.
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    Why don't we do that last little section there. Okay?
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    - You guys ready? Take a deep breath. Here we go.
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    - I love, BT, thanks for coming up and saying that.
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    I love it because I think as Americans
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    we don't understand Kingdom. We don't.
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    We don't understand what a crown means.
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    It means authority.
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    In a kingdom, you don't vote.
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    It's just a loving King who says,
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    "I created you and I know what's best for you.
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    Would you let me be your King?"
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    And so our natural response and it's --
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    Let me say this, it's an unnatural response.
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    It's an un-American response.
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    It fights against my independence and the rebel in me
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    to say, "I simply come before a king
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    and I take my crown and I lay it down
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    and then I just lift my hands and I worship."
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    So, God, we come before you
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    with our best efforts of laying down our crowns.
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    - Christmas doesn't have to be like this.
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    2000 years ago, a baby king changed the world forever.
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    Discover the real story of Christmas
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    and what it means for your life today.
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    - Christmas is about God breaking through
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    to take you and I spiritually to a place
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    that we can't naturally go.
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    - Start a new tradition this Christmas
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    with Crossroads Church.
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    - Now Christmas time comes with
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    an expectation of hope, peace and joy.
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    But that isn't always what we experience, right?
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    It just being Christmas isn't enough to give us joy.
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    This Christmas, we're going to uncover
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    the real Christmas story and the peace
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    that can only come from Jesus.
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    We're literally watching the Christmas story
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    unfold in the form of a pop up book.
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    Except, well, the real version is actually
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    eight feet by eight feet, it's going to be huge.
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    And there's going to be
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    an interactive digital experience
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    that brings this pop up book to life
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    in the palm of your hands wherever you live.
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    And you don't want to miss Christmas service.
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    It's going to be available anytime
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    starting Friday, December 22nd.
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    Now, I know the holidays can be
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    a really hard time of year, and some of us
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    would just prefer to turn the page
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    and get to January as quick as possible.
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    And I want you to know that we care
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    and we have your back no matter what
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    you're going through this holiday season.
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    You can schedule a talk appointment
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    with a member of our care team,
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    or you can join one of our healing groups that meet online.
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    Just know you don't have to go through the holidays alone.
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    Learn more at Crossroads.net/anywhere.
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    Now, at Crossroads we don't want anything from you,
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    we want things for you.
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    We want you to experience God.
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    We want you to grow.
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    And as part of that, there's zero obligation to give.
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    We're just glad that you're watching.
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    But I want you to know,
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    there's a team of generous givers at Crossroads
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    that have been having a huge impact
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    and make what you're seeing right now
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    and so much more possible.
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    Just in the last year,
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    our church has grown by thousands of people.
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    And those aren't just numbers.
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    Those are people just like you with a story.
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    Those are people who are experiencing more of God.
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    And if you're a giver, man, thank you
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    because you've made that possible.
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    If you want to make a year end gift
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    or learn more about giving at Crossroads,
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    head to crossroads.net/give.
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    Lindsay and Digger are a part of Crossroads,
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    and their story shows the true joy
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    that can come from generosity and a life with Jesus.
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    - Hi, I'm Lindsey. This is my husband, Digger.
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    - And we've been going to Crossroads
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    for about 8 or 9 years.
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    So I first came to faith through, uh,
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    raised in Catholic schools, Catholic Church.
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    That part of my life taught me about who Jesus was.
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    Kind of migrating from there to here,
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    it's been more learning about a relationship with God.
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    - I grew up in a traditional church, and,
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    you know, growing up giving was always
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    a part of our lives, but it was more about
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    what's your standing with the church?
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    - We always viewed money.
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    You know, I have a financial services background for work.
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    And it was always more of a data figure, you know, a stat.
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    Giving, though, I think to us was never,
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    uh, never something that we prioritized,
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    mainly again, because I just don't think
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    there was that relationship with God yet
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    and really hadn't been educated on it.
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    - Growing up in a traditional church
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    where the giving aspect was,
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    there was a stewardship required every year
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    and once you gave, your name was on a list.
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    So that list was public and that's what it was.
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    So it felt really forced, giving felt really forced.
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    But as, you know, about seven years ago
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    when we sort of changed that mindset
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    and we really learned what giving generously could mean.
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    Now it's way more about my relationship with God,
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    our relationship with God,
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    and what He asks of us to give.
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    - It's putting God first and then seeing
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    what He does when you give and He multiplies that.
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    And in turn, I think our faith has grown ten x, right?
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    I mean, it's just been a game changer.
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    - He asks us to give, we do that, He refills us.
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    It grows our faith.
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    It really what it does at the end of the day,
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    it gives you so much joy and peace in it.
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    - Money doesn't hold you captive.
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    It's just a freeing feeling.
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    Crossroads has built in a level of trust with our giving.
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    They take a dollar and ten x it somewhere else.
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    And the fact that they show us
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    what they're doing with the money,
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    does that help a trust level? Absolutely.
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    But I don't think it would would prevent us from giving,
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    knowing that we're writing those checks back to God.
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    As soon as we get paid, we give.
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    And I will text Lindsay the amount
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    and we just kind of celebrate if we're together
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    because God loves a joyous giver, right?
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    And so we get hyped about it.
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    - Do you have a text that you've sent
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    that is around this?
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    - Yeah. - Can you read it?
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    - So this is a text I just two days ago sent Lindsay.
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    It was after somewhat of a rough morning
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    with the kids, but I said, "Hey,
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    sorry for this morning, during busy season for work.
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    It's just a lot of stress that creeps up and wears on me,
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    not to mention a whiny three year old and twins.
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    But they are healthy and we are incredibly blessed,
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    especially as we send X amount to Crossroads today.
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    Pretty incredible. Thank God for all this.
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    Just a period of work in our lives right now."
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    - That's pretty great.
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    I mean, because that was a really tough morning
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    and so we weren't on the best of terms.
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    So it's funny, he'll text those things all the time
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    because if you're having a bad day,
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    it just switches your, your --
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    Yeah to gratitude really quick.
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    - Christmas at the movies
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    is perfect with some coffee.
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    Don't need that ring-a-ling,
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    ding-a-dong, ding-a-ding, talking.
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    So if we see the glow
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    of cellular telephone
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    will take 'em and we'll break 'em,
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    and we won't say we were mistaken.
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    You've been warned.
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    Merry Christmas.
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    - So today, today we are going to go vintage.
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    Yes, today we're going vintage old school.
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    We're going all the way back to the granddaddy
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    of them all, way before Wi-Fi, way before cat5 lines,
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    way before Dish Network, way before, cable bundling,
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    way before Netflix and Hulu and all that stuff.
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    Way back when you used to have a TV
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    and it would be 19 inches and you had a shot
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    for five things to watch on ABC, NBC, CBS,
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    PBS, which is always the boring stuff.
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    And then your local channel
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    that always ran reruns from the 50s,
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    that's all you had.
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    And so when you wanted to get your Christmas on,
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    what it looked like was here was your options.
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    You had It's a Wonderful Life,
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    which was in black and white.
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    They didn't even show that in the 70s and 80s
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    on TV because it's black and white.
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    Miracle on 34th Street.
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    There was a colorized version of that.
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    Frosty the Snowman, White Christmas,
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    and finally Rudolph the Red Nosed Reindeer.
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    Now let me tell you about Rudolph the Red-Nosed reindeer.
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    I know some of you really wanted me to do Die Hard today.
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    I know you did. You're all about Die Hard.
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    You're all about Die hard.
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    Just so you know, Alli Patterson,
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    did not put me down and keep me from doing Die Hard.
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    I actually wanted to do this one.
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    The other reason I wanted to do Die Hard
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    is that she didn't want me to.
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    So that kind of made me, made me want to.
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    But this TV show has something dear to my heart
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    and has had actually a very, very profound impact on me.
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    Here's the history of it.
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    Rudolph the Red Nosed Reindeer
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    was created in 1938 as a character in a poem.
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    And that character became a song and then a TV special.
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    And along the way, the person
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    who really popularized this was Robert May,
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    who used to work for the old department store
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    Montgomery Ward, and they commissioned him
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    as a writer to write something
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    that would bring people into the store,
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    and they would give people something free.
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    And it was this story in 39 snippets
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    that they consolidated into one.
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    As you came into Montgomery Ward to
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    shop, they would give you a little thing
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    of Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer.
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    Now, Robert May is not a Christian.
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    He was a Jew. And he didn't know it,
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    but he was actually writing a Christian movie.
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    He didn't know this.
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    Uh, but let me tell you something,
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    whenever something moves you artistically,
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    the truth of God is in that thing.
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    We're created in the image of God
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    and so when we see something
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    that somebody has created, whether they're a believer,
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    whether they're a Buddhist,
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    whether they're an atheist, whatever they are,
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    when someone taps into the beauty of God
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    and the transcendent of story of God,
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    not even knowing that they are, it moves us.
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    And that's what may happen today
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    as I tell you the story of Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer.
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    Let's pray before I go any further.
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    God, I pray that we'd get real quick beyond movies
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    and we would get to our hearts.
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    I pray that we would get real quick beyond media
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    and we would see You, we would see ourselves,
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    and we would see this transcendent story of misfits
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    and love and redemption and being used.
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    And I'm asking You to help me be clear.
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    These are very amazing concepts,
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    I just don't want to mess them up.
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    I want to give them the justice that they are due.
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    So help me to help your people.
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    And I pray these things according to
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    the character identity of Jesus. Amen.
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    So, like many of us, May had his pain points,
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    significant pain points.
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    He was Jewish, so he had a level of anti-Semitism
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    he likely lived through.
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    And he also had a wife that was dealing with a cancer diagnosis.
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    So he pens, without him knowing it,
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    he pens a story of biblical proportions,
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    because the gospel of Jesus is about
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    what God does for us as we're in pain,
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    even if we don't know that we're in pain.
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    It's a story about being a misfit.
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    A story about not fitting in.
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    Once Robert May created this story
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    and it started going off really, really well
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    in Montgomery Ward, an engineer at GE
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    invented the incandescent red LED light bulb.
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    And this was the beginning of the TV show
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    called Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer.
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    GE put $4.3 million into production.
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    Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer came out,
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    and according to Rotten Tomatoes,
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    this is the longest running, most successful TV
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    or Christmas special of all time.
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    And there's a reason for it.
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    And it's not the art of it, though I think it's pretty cool,
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    especially for 1964 or whatever it was.
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    It's not the art of it, it's that it has
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    a transcendent message in it that taps into
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    something deep inside of all of us.
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    There is a deep wound that all of us have,
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    there's a longing that all of us have.
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    - I'm cute. I'm cuuute! - Magnificent.
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    - I'm cute! I'm cute! She said I'm cuuuuute!
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    - Not bad. Not bad at all.
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    - Hey. You're okay? - She said I'm cute. Ha ha ha.
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    - For crying out loud. - Fireball. What's the matter?
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    - G-g-get away! G-g-get away from me!
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    - Now, now, now, now. What's this nonsense here, bucks?
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    After all? Gaa!
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    [talking and laughter]
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    - Hey, look at the beak.
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    - Hey, Fire Snout!
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    - Rainbow Puss! - Red Schnoz!
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    - Stop calling me names!
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    - Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer! [laughter]
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    - Donner, you should be ashamed of yourself.
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    What a pity.
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    He had a nice takeoff too.
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    - [whistle] All right, all right, my yearlings.
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    Back to practice.
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    Oh, no, not you.
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    You better go home with your folks.
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    From now on, gang, we won't let Rudolph
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    join in any reindeer games, right?
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    - Right. - Right. - Right. - Right.
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    - That is outright rejection.
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    We will not allow Rudolph to play with us any longer.
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    He's not like one of us. He is improper.
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    He is inappropriate. He is unusual. He is unique.
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    He is whatever it is, he's not allowed.
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    And we shun him and we reject him.
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    And Donner, your father, you put
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    the little cap over Rudolph's nose.
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    You should be ashamed of yourself.
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    Ashamed that you would try to bring a child
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    like this to the games and a shame that
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    you would try to get one over on Santa.
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    Throughout this whole show,
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    everybody is dealing with rejection.
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    Everyone is dealing with not being included.
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    Everyone is dealing with being a misfit,
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    believing that they don't fit in,
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    every character virtually
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    from the very, very beginning to the end.
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    We'll see Hermey in little bit.
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    Hermey's a misfit.
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    Uh, we're going to see that other people
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    in the whole program are going to be misfits.
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    The Abominable Snowman.
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    I can't show you the clip from that.
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    I'm limited on how many clips I can show.
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    Abominable snowman. He's a misfit.
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    Cornelius, Yukon Jack, he's a misfit.
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    He's by himself doing something
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    and no one wants to be around him.
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    Person after person after person is a misfit
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    and doesn't fit in.
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    I wonder, I wonder who in here feels like a misfit.
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    I wonder in who in here feels like you don't fit in.
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    People stay away from churches all the time because
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    they feel like they're not going to be accepted.
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    They're going to be a misfit. I don't fit there.
  • 00:31:57
    They're not going to have me there.
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    Let me tell you something.
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    Any church where you feel like you can't be
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    isn't a church because the church
  • 00:32:04
    is an island full of misfit toys,
  • 00:32:07
    where all of us come in with all of our problems
  • 00:32:10
    and all of our issues, and we feel like we don't fit.
  • 00:32:13
    You would be shocked how many people in here
  • 00:32:16
    feel like we don't fit, and that people
  • 00:32:18
    are stiff arming and shunning us.
  • 00:32:20
    That's why the Bible talks about this again and again.
  • 00:32:24
    It's a critical thing for the people of God to see this.
  • 00:32:27
    The book of 1 Peter chapter 2:9, it says this:
  • 00:32:55
    Let's talk, let's stop right there for a minute.
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    You are a chosen race. You know what that means?
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    That means that God has one race of people.
  • 00:33:04
    That means when we get with God, God looks at us
  • 00:33:07
    and we are one unified race because
  • 00:33:09
    nobody is a misfit, nobody is outside,
  • 00:33:11
    nobody is different when we come to know God.
  • 00:33:13
    We are one.
  • 00:33:15
    I'm really sensitive to this right now because
  • 00:33:18
    I took a trip down to the Mexican-
  • 00:33:21
    US border this last week, just to see
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    what was going on with my very own eyes.
  • 00:33:27
    I've heard it's the largest humanitarian crisis
  • 00:33:29
    of our time, and I said, "I just want to go
  • 00:33:32
    and see and talk to people."
  • 00:33:33
    So I went down and spent about 36 hours.
  • 00:33:37
    So of course I'm an expert on it.
  • 00:33:40
    Talking with people, and it was, uh,
  • 00:33:43
    it was incredibly discouraging
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    and incredibly heart wrenching.
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    Spoke with border agents, border commissioners,
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    people in legal, law enforcement,
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    people who ran nonprofits for it.
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    And they all said the same thing.
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    They said, "America doesn't know what's happening here."
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    If you hear anything on Fox News, it's wrong.
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    They don't know what they're talking about.
  • 00:34:03
    If you hear anything on CNN, it's wrong.
  • 00:34:04
    They don't know what they're talking about.
  • 00:34:06
    Everyone comes down here for a sound byte
  • 00:34:08
    and they stand right where you are right here,
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    and get that fence wall thing over there.
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    And no one talks to us.
  • 00:34:12
    No one asks us what's going on.
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    No one does deep dive. We all have our narrative.
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    It's it's a horrible, complicated thing."
  • 00:34:20
    But I talked to people who I just walked up to,
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    they were standing in lines
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    and stuff and through a translator, and said,
  • 00:34:25
    "What's your story? What's going on?"
  • 00:34:27
    One guy, the minority of people, by the way,
  • 00:34:29
    who come over the border legally or illegally,
  • 00:34:31
    the minority are Mexicans.
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    The majority of them are beyond Mexico
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    and they've been they've been pilgrimaging
  • 00:34:38
    for weeks and weeks and weeks walking,
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    doing whatever they can to get to the US border.
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    One guy was from Venezuela I talked to.
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    And he had very white skin, and I asked him
  • 00:34:50
    why he came up, what his thing was.
  • 00:34:52
    He said, "Well, I'm not white, but I look white.
  • 00:34:55
    And so that meant that I just kept getting kidnaped.
  • 00:34:59
    They kept kidnaping me and holding me for ransom
  • 00:35:02
    because they assumed I had money.
  • 00:35:03
    And I finally got sick of getting kidnaped.
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    So I said, 'I may as well walk to America,
  • 00:35:07
    see if I can get treated any better.'"
  • 00:35:10
    Talked to another guy,
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    his family started off with four of them.
  • 00:35:13
    They started walking up and they lost their daughter.
  • 00:35:15
    The cartel took them.
  • 00:35:16
    The long story I can't get into,
  • 00:35:18
    but they ended up with the two of them.
  • 00:35:21
    They went through the Panama jungle for four days.
  • 00:35:24
    No tent, no sleeping bags,
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    sleep with snakes, all that stuff.
  • 00:35:27
    He said, "When we got up here, our horror story ended.
  • 00:35:29
    And then once we got the border,
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    a brand new horror story started."
  • 00:35:32
    And he was so shocked we were talking to him
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    because as he was from a Latin American country,
  • 00:35:37
    the reason why he was coming up was because
  • 00:35:39
    he was darker skinned than other Latinos,
  • 00:35:42
    and people assumed that he wasn't their race.
  • 00:35:45
    And so he was getting cracked on all the time.
  • 00:35:47
    So what do you know?
  • 00:35:48
    Every country apparently has a race problem,
  • 00:35:51
    and every person thinks
  • 00:35:52
    they're superior in one way, shape or form.
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    So he came up and it was horrible.
  • 00:35:55
    And as I looked at these folks and get their stories,
  • 00:35:58
    my heart was breaking because they didn't fit.
  • 00:36:01
    They didn't fit in Venezuela.
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    They didn't fit in Guatemala. They didn't fit.
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    Doesn't look like they'll fit in America right now.
  • 00:36:07
    They're not sure how to get there.
  • 00:36:08
    And many of us feel like we don't fit.
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    But there is, when you come into relationship
  • 00:36:12
    with God, you get into one race.
  • 00:36:14
    Let's keep going here. The next verse on this:
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    Sometimes some things aren't going to get mercy.
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    This last year, I got my first buck that was mountable,
  • 00:36:36
    and I decided to not give that buck mercy.
  • 00:36:39
    And in honor of Rudolf,
  • 00:36:40
    one of my favorite Christmas movies,
  • 00:36:42
    I decided to do something a little special
  • 00:36:44
    with the mount, and there he is right there.
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    I know some of you are really upset,
  • 00:36:48
    "Hey, we have kids in here."
  • 00:36:49
    No, you shouldn't have them.
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    That's why we have Kids' Clubs.
  • 00:36:52
    So if you don't -- if you don't want your kids
  • 00:36:54
    to see dead animals, then take them to Kids' Club.
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    Rudolph. Rudolph. He is a deep, profound story.
  • 00:37:04
    That passage says that once you had not received mercy,
  • 00:37:08
    now you have received mercy.
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    For all of us who are misfits,
  • 00:37:12
    for all of us feel like we've been rejected,
  • 00:37:14
    for all of us who feel like there's not a place for us,
  • 00:37:17
    understand there is a place for you,
  • 00:37:19
    it's in the family of God.
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    Understand there is a place for you.
  • 00:37:23
    It's in a relationship with Jesus.
  • 00:37:25
    Understand He's the one, no matter what your pains,
  • 00:37:28
    what your problems, He gives mercy.
  • 00:37:30
    Sometimes mercy, though, is a long, painful walk.
  • 00:37:37
    - See, all the toys Santa brings are made by these elves.
  • 00:37:42
    These elves have that certain knack for toy making.
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    All except for this -- this one misfit.
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    - Hermey! Aren't you finished painting that yet?
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    There's a pile up a mile wide behind you.
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    - What's eating you, boy? -
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    - Not happy in my work, I guess.
  • 00:38:05
    - What?
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    - I just don't like to make toys.
  • 00:38:09
    - No. Well, if that's all --
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    What, you don't like to make toys?
  • 00:38:15
    - No.
  • 00:38:16
    - Hermey doesn't like to make toys.
  • 00:38:20
    - Hermey doesn't like to make toys.
  • 00:38:21
    - Hermey doesn't like to make toys.
  • 00:38:23
    - Hermey doesn't like to make toys.
  • 00:38:24
    - Oh, shame on you!
  • 00:38:26
    - Do you mind telling me what you do want to do?
  • 00:38:29
    - Well, sir, someday I'd like to be a dentist.
  • 00:38:33
    - A dentist?
  • 00:38:36
    - Well, we need one up here. I've been studying.
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    It's fascinating. You have no idea.
  • 00:38:41
    Molars and bicuspids and incisors.
  • 00:38:43
    - Now, listen, you.
  • 00:38:45
    You're an elf, and elves make toys.
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    Now get to work.
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    [whistle] Ten minutes break.
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    Not for you.
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    Finish the job or you're fired!
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    - [singing] Why am I such a misfit?
  • 00:39:13
    I am not just a nitwit.
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    You can't fire me, I quit!
  • 00:39:19
    Seems I don't fit in.
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    - Why am I such a misfit?
  • 00:39:28
    It's interesting that they give him an occupation,
  • 00:39:31
    which is a misfit occupation. Dentists.
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    He says I want to be a dentist.
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    It's one of my favorite lines, "I want to be a dentist."
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    And of course, we have the overbearing foreman.
  • 00:39:42
    Oh, just do it like this.
  • 00:39:45
    Yeah, that was back when America got stuff done,
  • 00:39:48
    factories having foreman demean people
  • 00:39:50
    and yell at them, "Dooh!"
  • 00:39:53
    It's wonderful.
  • 00:39:54
    But I wonder why they choose dentists.
  • 00:39:56
    Maybe it's because for many of us, we shun dentists.
  • 00:39:59
    We're afraid of dentists.
  • 00:40:00
    My dentist is awesome. Doctor Powers,
  • 00:40:02
    if you're listening, sorry. You do a great job for me
  • 00:40:04
    I'm not talking about you, but dentists
  • 00:40:06
    for many of us, freak us out.
  • 00:40:09
    I went to a dentist when I was a little kid.
  • 00:40:11
    At one point, I think I went 12 years
  • 00:40:13
    without going to a dentist.
  • 00:40:14
    That was a 12 years after I got out of my parents house.
  • 00:40:17
    I was like, "I'm not going back to a dentist,
  • 00:40:19
    not gonna do it. I'm just not going to go back."
  • 00:40:22
    My dentist would come in, he would come in.
  • 00:40:24
    He had a cigar, he'd be chomping on an unlit cigar
  • 00:40:28
    that had previously gone out, chomping on a cigar.
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    No lie. He'd come in, he put me in a headlock.
  • 00:40:33
    Take that, take that silver pick thing.
  • 00:40:35
    Just jam on me and put it in there.
  • 00:40:38
    It was horrible. It was utterly brutal.
  • 00:40:42
    Most of us don't look forward to going to the dentist.
  • 00:40:44
    Many of us have deep, deep fears.
  • 00:40:47
    I wonder if they choose to be a dentist
  • 00:40:50
    because some of us, again, it makes them
  • 00:40:52
    maybe feel like a misfit.
  • 00:40:54
    Misfits are everywhere.
  • 00:40:57
    It's part of the human condition.
  • 00:40:59
    You're not the only one.
  • 00:41:02
    If you feel like a misfit,
  • 00:41:04
    you're what's called normal.
  • 00:41:08
    One of my favorite specials I finished on Netflix
  • 00:41:11
    was The Crown. Any Crown fans in here?
  • 00:41:14
    The Crown is all about the royal family
  • 00:41:18
    over in England, and one of the subtexts
  • 00:41:20
    as you go through that is everybody feels like a misfit.
  • 00:41:25
    The Queen feels like a misfit as culture progresses,
  • 00:41:29
    and she's an old fuddy-duddy
  • 00:41:30
    and she's out of touch with culture. She's a misfit.
  • 00:41:33
    Lady Di, she felt like a misfit. Prince Charles.
  • 00:41:38
    King Charles from his early childhood on up,
  • 00:41:41
    he felt like a misfit.
  • 00:41:43
    It's a common narrative because
  • 00:41:45
    it's part of the human condition.
  • 00:41:47
    We feel estranged from God
  • 00:41:48
    and estranged from other people,
  • 00:41:50
    so therefore we feel like we're a misfit.
  • 00:41:54
    Steve Jobs, entrepreneur, tech guru,
  • 00:41:59
    hero of many people in the masses.
  • 00:42:03
    His biographer Walter Isaacson, who he chose
  • 00:42:06
    to write his biography, said this about Steve Jobs:
  • 00:42:37
    So Steve Jobs, according to biographer,
  • 00:42:40
    felt like a misfit, felt rejected,
  • 00:42:42
    and he always felt like he had to prove something.
  • 00:42:44
    This is why many people are very, very successful.
  • 00:42:46
    It's not that they're self-confident,
  • 00:42:48
    it's they're trying to prove to people
  • 00:42:50
    that they fit in, that they're effective,
  • 00:42:52
    that they're successful.
  • 00:42:53
    This, according to his hand-picked biographer,
  • 00:42:57
    was Steve Jobs.
  • 00:42:59
    Now, to be very, very clear,
  • 00:43:01
    there are some people who just don't fit in.
  • 00:43:05
    It's called people who own Android phones.
  • 00:43:08
    You don't fit in.
  • 00:43:12
    We don't like to see the green bubbles.
  • 00:43:15
    We like to see blue bubbles. Ha-ha-ha.
  • 00:43:19
    Yes, I know, I know you think green is better
  • 00:43:22
    as you're wearing your green sweater over there..
  • 00:43:24
    I get it, I get it.
  • 00:43:26
    But I relate to Steve Jobs' story.
  • 00:43:29
    I've gone to in depth.
  • 00:43:30
    I'm not going to go into depth today, but I'm adopted.
  • 00:43:33
    My mother made a very, very loving choice
  • 00:43:35
    to give me up for adoption instead of do away with me.
  • 00:43:38
    And I'm very, very thankful for that.
  • 00:43:40
    And yet it still did come with some difficulties.
  • 00:43:44
    Psychology would say there was a primal wound
  • 00:43:47
    that I had, because the only person I knew
  • 00:43:49
    that I was in sync with her heartbeat
  • 00:43:50
    in her symbiotic fluid, I was immediately rejected
  • 00:43:54
    by her as the way my little baby brain felt it,
  • 00:43:56
    abandoned.
  • 00:43:58
    And I've carried that for much of my life
  • 00:44:00
    that I try to impress you,
  • 00:44:01
    or I put on a hard exterior to protect myself
  • 00:44:03
    because I'm confident you're going to reject
  • 00:44:05
    a misfit like me.
  • 00:44:08
    I feel this all the time. It's why I have a heart.
  • 00:44:10
    And I want to go to the go down the border.
  • 00:44:12
    I have no answers for the border.
  • 00:44:13
    All I know is this I feel horrible because
  • 00:44:15
    I know what it's like to feel like
  • 00:44:17
    you're a misfit and rejected.
  • 00:44:18
    I want to include people.
  • 00:44:20
    It's part of why church is the size it is
  • 00:44:22
    is I'll never stop including people.
  • 00:44:24
    I don't care how big or how small Crossroads is,
  • 00:44:27
    there's -- I find somebody,
  • 00:44:28
    I meet somebody who who's disconnected,
  • 00:44:30
    I want to include them becaue I know
  • 00:44:33
    they may feel like a misfit with God.
  • 00:44:35
    And I've been there, I know that, I understand it.
  • 00:44:37
    And people reinforce that I'm a misfit,
  • 00:44:40
    it seems like everywhere I go.
  • 00:44:42
    There was some people on that border that we did,
  • 00:44:46
    that border tour that we did.
  • 00:44:48
    And a guy said, "You just don't fit
  • 00:44:54
    what a pastor of a mega church is.
  • 00:44:57
    You just don't fit."
  • 00:44:58
    Like, "Uh, tell me why." And he told me why.
  • 00:45:01
    I was on a podcast, actually, I replayed
  • 00:45:03
    that podcast on my Aggressive Life podcast,
  • 00:45:05
    and the female said, "You just don't fit
  • 00:45:08
    what a pastor is. You don't fit."
  • 00:45:11
    When I went elk hunting, I had a guide
  • 00:45:14
    this last year and he said, everyone says,
  • 00:45:16
    "You don't fit. I don't understand you. You're not--"
  • 00:45:19
    And part of what they're doing is
  • 00:45:21
    they're trying to encourage me.
  • 00:45:22
    They're saying you don't fit
  • 00:45:24
    this negative, stereotypical model or you don't fit this.
  • 00:45:28
    That's part of what they're saying, I think.
  • 00:45:31
    But nonetheless, what's being told me
  • 00:45:34
    is you don't fit. You don't fit.
  • 00:45:38
    When I go to pastor retreats,
  • 00:45:41
    it's very clear I don't fit.
  • 00:45:46
    Just I just don't -- I don't -- I don't fit.
  • 00:45:50
    The fact that I'm a hunter and I live in city limits
  • 00:45:53
    and I don't know, I didn't know anybody else
  • 00:45:55
    who hunted at all because it's not an urban thing,
  • 00:45:58
    makes me a misfit. That I ride a motorcycle
  • 00:46:02
    and I've been known to do it without a helmet
  • 00:46:03
    makes me a misfit.
  • 00:46:06
    All kinds of choices, all kinds of things
  • 00:46:08
    that just I feel, I feel that I am out of sync.
  • 00:46:14
    And here's the thing, here's the thing,
  • 00:46:16
    here's the thing, and this is my story for you.
  • 00:46:18
    You may feel like a misfit, but you may not be a misfit.
  • 00:46:23
    Our feelings don't always indicate reality,
  • 00:46:27
    especially when it comes to the feelings of God,
  • 00:46:31
    because that's really all that matters.
  • 00:46:33
    Does God feel like we are a misfit?
  • 00:46:37
    Does God feel that we are unredeemable?
  • 00:46:40
    Does God feel that we are unusable?
  • 00:46:42
    Let me give you the answer to that, it's a big fat no.
  • 00:46:45
    No, He does not.
  • 00:46:47
    So it doesn't matter what we feel,
  • 00:46:49
    it's what God feels.
  • 00:46:50
    And I want to spend the rest of our time
  • 00:46:52
    helping you understand what God feels about you
  • 00:46:55
    and what God has done for you
  • 00:46:57
    to bring you into His race,
  • 00:47:00
    to bring you into His family.
  • 00:47:03
    He knows about this because Jesus came
  • 00:47:07
    and Jesus lived as a misfit.
  • 00:47:11
    Jesus's life did not start in Bethlehem
  • 00:47:14
    when He was born physically.
  • 00:47:17
    The Bible is very clear Jesus existed in heaven
  • 00:47:20
    before all of that happened.
  • 00:47:21
    He's existed in heaven as God Himself.
  • 00:47:24
    He comes down and takes on flesh and he is a misfit.
  • 00:47:29
    He doesn't fit in.
  • 00:47:31
    He's not used to surroundings.
  • 00:47:33
    He's not used to limitations.
  • 00:47:35
    He's not used to difficulty at all.
  • 00:47:38
    He's royalty. He's up in heaven.
  • 00:47:40
    He has all the perks of it.
  • 00:47:41
    And He comes here and He's born into poverty as a misfit.
  • 00:47:46
    So much poverty that his mom and dad,
  • 00:47:48
    they wrap him in swaddling cloths.
  • 00:47:50
    And we think, "Isn't that cute,
  • 00:47:52
    He's wrapped in swaddling cloths?"
  • 00:47:53
    No, it's not cute, it's sad
  • 00:47:56
    because it shows that Mary and Joseph
  • 00:47:58
    didn't have a full size blanket.
  • 00:47:59
    They were in poverty, so they took little strips,
  • 00:48:01
    whatever they could, to wrap around their baby
  • 00:48:04
    and to make Him comfortable.
  • 00:48:05
    They didn't have a cradle.
  • 00:48:07
    They took Him and they put him in a manger,
  • 00:48:09
    which is not the cute thing you have on your coffee table.
  • 00:48:12
    It's a feeding trough for cattle.
  • 00:48:16
    His first crib was something
  • 00:48:19
    that a cow had been slobbering on.
  • 00:48:22
    He goes from the throne of heaven
  • 00:48:25
    to being in a cereal bowl for cows.
  • 00:48:31
    He is and felt like a misfit.
  • 00:48:36
    As He is going through His life,
  • 00:48:38
    it says in the book of Hebrews
  • 00:48:39
    that Jesus grew in wisdom and stature.
  • 00:48:42
    So as His body was growing physically,
  • 00:48:45
    His awareness of who He was and His wisdom
  • 00:48:48
    was also growing, it was also increasing.
  • 00:48:53
    Too many people just think that He was born
  • 00:48:55
    into this royal family and had it easy.
  • 00:48:57
    He didn't. His whole life He struggled with this.
  • 00:49:00
    This whole idea of of virgin birth,
  • 00:49:03
    that Mary gave birth without ever having had sex
  • 00:49:06
    before she conceived Jesus.
  • 00:49:08
    It was actually God who put it in her.
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    The writers of the New Testament, the early church,
  • 00:49:13
    they knew this was really crazy sounding.
  • 00:49:16
    They understood enough about how the baby process worked.
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    But if we ever pray and we ever ask God for something,
  • 00:49:22
    we're asking Him to suspend something that is natural
  • 00:49:24
    and He suspends something that's natural
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    to put His seed inside of a woman.
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    And the people who are aware of this,
  • 00:49:31
    they don't buy it at all.
  • 00:49:33
    In the book of John 8:41 and following,
  • 00:49:36
    we see a glimpse of how rejected
  • 00:49:39
    and how Jesus felt like a misfit.
  • 00:49:41
    And he finally, in this scene, we see
  • 00:49:44
    a bit of His anger come out.
  • 00:49:45
    He's spending time as an adult with some religious people.
  • 00:49:48
    Religious people always think they have all the answers,
  • 00:49:51
    and they always think if your answer is wrong
  • 00:49:52
    than theirs, then you're an idiot.
  • 00:49:54
    And so this is the way they tried to make Jesus feel.
  • 00:49:57
    And so here's what it says, they say.
  • 00:50:00
    They say to Him -- Uh, Jesus says,
  • 00:50:03
    "You're doing the works your father did."
  • 00:50:14
    They're saying to Him, "Yeah, virgin birth.
  • 00:50:16
    We understand this. Your mom was sexually immoral.
  • 00:50:20
    She cheated while she was betrothed.
  • 00:50:23
    She had sex with somebody else.
  • 00:50:25
    Don't give us this crap about you being born of a virgin.
  • 00:50:28
    You're not. You're a bastard," is what they're saying.
  • 00:50:30
    And they taunted him with this all the time,
  • 00:50:34
    and it continues:
  • 00:50:57
    He was a murderer from the beginning.
  • 00:51:00
    Pretext. And you're going to murder me
  • 00:51:03
    because you're of your father, the devil.
  • 00:51:06
    Do you see this interplay?
  • 00:51:07
    This is a misfit who's powering up appropriately.
  • 00:51:11
    Oh, yeah. Right. Yeah. You -- Come on.
  • 00:51:13
    You just don't fit in. We know.
  • 00:51:15
    Everybody knew this, that's why they put it to Him.
  • 00:51:18
    And they they poked Him.
  • 00:51:20
    If you feel like a misfit, that people look down on you,
  • 00:51:25
    that you're viewed as a second class citizen
  • 00:51:28
    or not a citizen.
  • 00:51:30
    If you're viewed as being irredeemable,
  • 00:51:33
    unusual, odd, not worth the time,
  • 00:51:36
    you have something in common with Jesus.
  • 00:51:39
    Because that's how He was treated as a misfit.
  • 00:51:43
    All of us, all of us have a narrative
  • 00:51:46
    we're going to tell ourselves.
  • 00:51:49
    And one of the things that we'll tell ourselves
  • 00:51:51
    to get us out of our misfit ways
  • 00:51:53
    and out of being hurt, is we'll tell ourselves,
  • 00:51:56
    "I have to be independent."
  • 00:52:07
    - Oh, is this your snow bank?
  • 00:52:10
    - No. Who are you?
  • 00:52:12
    - Well, actually, I am a dentist.
  • 00:52:15
    - A dentist?
  • 00:52:17
    - Well, I want to be someday.
  • 00:52:20
    Right now I'm just an elf.
  • 00:52:23
    But I don't need anybody. I'm -- I'm independent.
  • 00:52:28
    Yeah? Me too.
  • 00:52:31
    I'm whatever you said, independent.
  • 00:52:39
    - Hey, what do you say
  • 00:52:40
    we both be independent together, huh?
  • 00:52:45
    - You wouldn't mind my red nose?
  • 00:52:49
    - Not if you don't mind me being a dentist.
  • 00:52:53
    - It's a deal.
  • 00:52:57
    - We're a couple of misfits.
  • 00:52:59
    We're a couple of misfits.
  • 00:53:01
    What's the matter with misfits?
  • 00:53:03
    That's where we fit.
  • 00:53:07
    - Oh, we're a couple of misfits. Misfits.
  • 00:53:12
    These misfits end up going to see
  • 00:53:16
    an island of misfit toys.
  • 00:53:18
    And on this island of misfit toys,
  • 00:53:20
    we have a not a Jack in the Box.
  • 00:53:22
    We have a Charlie in the Box.
  • 00:53:23
    We have not a water pistol, but a jelly pistol.
  • 00:53:26
    We have a doll named Dolly who doesn't have a nose.
  • 00:53:30
    And actually, people have been interviewed
  • 00:53:32
    years after it was made, said they actually
  • 00:53:33
    created her to have psychiatric problems.
  • 00:53:36
    One of the conspiracies you can see on the internet.
  • 00:53:38
    We see a choo-choo train that has square wheels.
  • 00:53:42
    And as Rudolph goes to visit it,
  • 00:53:44
    he goes to the King of Misfit Island,
  • 00:53:46
    who happens to be a lion.
  • 00:53:50
    In the Bible the King is ultimately looked at
  • 00:53:53
    as the Lion of Judah, and the lion says,
  • 00:53:57
    "All I ask of you, if you get off this island,
  • 00:53:59
    you come back and you rescue these misfits."
  • 00:54:04
    And these people go along feeling like
  • 00:54:08
    I've got to be independent, yet can't resist
  • 00:54:11
    the urge to band with other people.
  • 00:54:14
    This is part of our problem.
  • 00:54:15
    When we feel like a misfit or we feel like people
  • 00:54:17
    reject us, we just push everybody else away
  • 00:54:19
    and we try to be independent.
  • 00:54:21
    We think that's a sign of our maturity. It's not.
  • 00:54:23
    Spiritual maturity operates
  • 00:54:25
    different from physical maturity.
  • 00:54:26
    Physical maturity, as I mature,
  • 00:54:28
    I become more independent as I mature
  • 00:54:31
    because someone's putting diapers on me and then I mature.
  • 00:54:34
    Spiritual maturity, as we mature,
  • 00:54:36
    we actually become more dependent.
  • 00:54:39
    We become more dependent on God.
  • 00:54:42
    We become more dependent on the Holy Spirit.
  • 00:54:44
    We become more dependent on His words in the scriptures.
  • 00:54:48
    And whenever someone doesn't want to become
  • 00:54:50
    dependent on God, we choose our independence
  • 00:54:54
    and we can't progress.
  • 00:54:56
    This is the thing that misfits do.
  • 00:54:58
    We think the thing to get us out of it
  • 00:55:01
    is to just withdraw.
  • 00:55:02
    In reality, we need to lean in.
  • 00:55:04
    And even though Hermey and Rudolph
  • 00:55:07
    are saying that they want to be independent,
  • 00:55:10
    they need each other and they hang with each other.
  • 00:55:12
    That's why certain bands of misfits always hang together.
  • 00:55:16
    Whatever, whatever the addiction,
  • 00:55:18
    whatever the hang up, whatever the vice,
  • 00:55:20
    whatever the brokenness is, whatever the problem,
  • 00:55:22
    whatever the tension, misfits tend to hang
  • 00:55:26
    with other misfits of similar categories.
  • 00:55:29
    That's probably not a bad thing.
  • 00:55:31
    It just happens because we realize, "I can't.
  • 00:55:34
    I can't handle this on my own,
  • 00:55:35
    and when I do handle it on my own, bad things happen."
  • 00:55:39
    Men are killing themselves
  • 00:55:41
    four times more frequently than women are.
  • 00:55:45
    It's because men try to be independent.
  • 00:55:48
    It's because men think that we can do it on our own.
  • 00:55:50
    We can't.
  • 00:55:52
    A new stat I saw from a study called
  • 00:55:55
    The State of the American Man 2023 said
  • 00:55:57
    44% of men consider suicide once every two weeks.
  • 00:56:04
    So, 44% of men consider suicide once every two weeks.
  • 00:56:10
    Why? Because we feel like a misfit.
  • 00:56:12
    We are independents.
  • 00:56:15
    And despite of all of this, people need this misfit.
  • 00:56:27
    - I've got some bad news, folks. - [murmering]
  • 00:56:31
    - Christmas is going to be canceled. [gasping]
  • 00:56:33
    - There's nothing I can do. This weather --
  • 00:56:38
    Rudolph. Rudolph, please,
  • 00:56:41
    could you tone it down a bit?
  • 00:56:43
    I mean, that nose of yours --
  • 00:56:45
    Uh, that nose.
  • 00:56:49
    That beautiful, wonderful nose.
  • 00:56:53
    - Huh? - Rudolph, Christmas is not off.
  • 00:56:56
    And you're going to lead my team.
  • 00:57:00
    - I am? - Yes, sir.
  • 00:57:02
    You and that wonderful nose of yours.
  • 00:57:05
    - My nose, sir. - Ho, ho, ho.
  • 00:57:07
    From what I see now,
  • 00:57:09
    that'll cut through the murkiest storm they can dish up.
  • 00:57:12
    What I'm trying to say is,
  • 00:57:15
    Rudolph, with your nose so bright,
  • 00:57:18
    won't you guide my sleigh tonight?
  • 00:57:22
    - It will be an honor, sir. [cheering]
  • 00:57:26
    - I knew that nose would be useful someday.
  • 00:57:29
    I knew it all along.
  • 00:57:33
    - Ready, Rudolph? - Ready, Santa.
  • 00:57:36
    - Well, let's be on our way.
  • 00:57:38
    Okay, Rudolph, full power.
  • 00:57:46
    First stop, the Island of Misfit Toys.
  • 00:57:51
    Up. Up, up and away!
  • 00:57:59
    - Yes, it's very fun.
  • 00:58:01
    God never wastes anything.
  • 00:58:03
    Rudolph's nose ends up saving the day.
  • 00:58:06
    Very frequently, the very thing that
  • 00:58:09
    you think disqualifies you,
  • 00:58:11
    qualifies you for a job God wants done.
  • 00:58:15
    Very frequently the thing that
  • 00:58:17
    is your biggest pain point will be
  • 00:58:19
    your biggest source of healing somebody else,
  • 00:58:21
    because you get it as a misfit.
  • 00:58:24
    Very frequently the thing that plagues you
  • 00:58:28
    is the thing that God plays to bless another person.
  • 00:58:32
    Very frequently the problems that we think
  • 00:58:34
    we can't get over, we actually go through
  • 00:58:37
    as we run to somebody else
  • 00:58:39
    and we're the answer to their problem
  • 00:58:40
    because we bring the grace of Jesus to them.
  • 00:58:44
    And we need each other.
  • 00:58:45
    This is part of the Christmas story.
  • 00:58:47
    Mary is tempted to to leave.
  • 00:58:50
    And why does she not leave
  • 00:58:51
    and go off by herself and be independent?
  • 00:58:53
    Because she needs Joseph.
  • 00:58:55
    And God tells Joseph, "No, what Mary says is true."
  • 00:58:59
    And I believe that God chooses Mary
  • 00:59:01
    to have this amazingly important task,
  • 00:59:03
    in part at least, because she had a man
  • 00:59:06
    that was beside her that would stick with her
  • 00:59:08
    because He knew that Mary couldn't do this independently,
  • 00:59:12
    and neither could any man.
  • 00:59:14
    And what is this?
  • 00:59:16
    This is a thing, a task that God has called them to.
  • 00:59:21
    1 Peter 4:10 says this:
  • 00:59:32
    This island of misfit toys
  • 00:59:35
    leads to the concluding crescendo of the TV show for me.
  • 00:59:40
    When Rudolph gives Santa the message
  • 00:59:43
    that's come from the King, that it's time
  • 00:59:46
    to go to the island of Misfit Toys
  • 00:59:51
    and to find them a home.
  • 00:59:55
    - Looks like we're forgotten again.
  • 00:59:59
    - But Rudolph promised we'd go this time.
  • 01:00:03
    - Oh, guess the storm was too much for them.
  • 01:00:08
    [bells jingling]
  • 01:00:11
    - Might might just as well go to bed
  • 01:00:14
    and start dreaming about next year.
  • 01:00:16
    - I haven't any dreams left to dream.
  • 01:00:19
    We'll never get off this island. Never.
  • 01:00:22
    [bells jingling]
  • 01:00:23
    - Wait a minute. What's that? Is it. Is it?
  • 01:00:28
    - It sure is. It's Santa.
  • 01:00:30
    And look, Rudolph is leading the way.
  • 01:00:33
    - You can see his nose from here.
  • 01:00:42
    - Well, let's be on our way.
  • 01:00:48
    Ready, Rudolph? - Ready, Santa.
  • 01:00:51
    - Okay, Rudolph. Full power.
  • 01:00:58
    Up, up, up and away!
  • 01:01:02
    - Aww, all ends well and all is good in the world.
  • 01:01:07
    The misfit toys find a home and the misfit toys
  • 01:01:12
    get to be a blessing to somebody,
  • 01:01:14
    and they get to be used.
  • 01:01:15
    If you know me at all
  • 01:01:17
    and have spent any time with me,
  • 01:01:18
    there's two things you're going to hear me say
  • 01:01:20
    again and again and again that come from this movie.
  • 01:01:22
    One is this: I want to be a dentist.
  • 01:01:25
    Hermey wants to be a dentist.
  • 01:01:27
    Which I've learned that that second part
  • 01:01:29
    isn't actually in the movie. I just inserted that.
  • 01:01:31
    But the first part is.
  • 01:01:32
    The second thing I say all the time
  • 01:01:35
    in response to things is: ready, Santa.
  • 01:01:40
    I love that. I love that willing heart by Rudolph.
  • 01:01:43
    Are you ready? Ready, Santa.
  • 01:01:47
    I asked myself, God gives me assignment,
  • 01:01:50
    am I going to say to him, "Ready, God, ready.
  • 01:01:54
    Ready, Jesus. Ready"?
  • 01:01:56
    Here's the thing, here's the thing about Christmas.
  • 01:01:58
    While everybody's focused about getting
  • 01:02:01
    their Christmas on for their own jollies,
  • 01:02:03
    Jesus is focused on reaching misfits.
  • 01:02:07
    While everybody wants their personal holiday
  • 01:02:10
    to be actualizing themselves,
  • 01:02:13
    Jesus wants us to actually reach
  • 01:02:16
    and include other misfits.
  • 01:02:19
    I want to know, is there anybody who says,
  • 01:02:21
    "Ready, Jesus, ready, ready.
  • 01:02:24
    I will go to the misfits. I will love the misfits.
  • 01:02:27
    I will invite the misfit. I will include the misfits."
  • 01:02:32
    This is the heart that God wants,
  • 01:02:34
    a heart that's ready for action,
  • 01:02:36
    a heart that's ready to lead,
  • 01:02:38
    a heart that's ready to say, "Maybe the things
  • 01:02:42
    that I feel disqualify me, actually qualify me.
  • 01:02:46
    Because I get it, I understand.
  • 01:02:49
    Maybe, maybe my weakness
  • 01:02:51
    is actually something he makes me strong in
  • 01:02:54
    because then He gets the glory because
  • 01:02:55
    I know it was his ability and not my ability."
  • 01:02:59
    This Christmas, be a Rudolph.
  • 01:03:02
    Be about somebody other than yourself.
  • 01:03:05
    Be like Jesus in the first Christmas
  • 01:03:08
    who was about other people,
  • 01:03:10
    which is why He came to this earth
  • 01:03:12
    and endured the shame of being a misfit
  • 01:03:14
    and dying as a misfit on a bloody cross.
  • 01:03:18
    He does it because it comes to rescue misfits
  • 01:03:21
    like you and I and tell us, "I understand your pain.
  • 01:03:25
    I understand how outside things you are
  • 01:03:29
    because I've been naked in public as well.
  • 01:03:32
    It's not fun, but I've come for you
  • 01:03:35
    because I love you.
  • 01:03:37
    And there's a place with Me right now for you."
  • 01:03:42
    Maybe you want to receive Him right now.
  • 01:03:45
    You just have to say a prayer something like this.
  • 01:03:48
    Lord, I want to jump in.
  • 01:03:51
    I want to be found.
  • 01:03:54
    I don't want to be on my own anymore.
  • 01:03:57
    I want to be in relationship with You.
  • 01:03:59
    I give my life to You.
  • 01:04:01
    I ask for Your forgiveness.
  • 01:04:03
    And I ask You to fill me with Your Holy Spirit.
  • 01:04:07
    As best I can, I will be ready, Jesus.
  • 01:04:10
    I will be ready for the rest of my life.
  • 01:04:12
    In Your name I pray. Amen.
  • 01:04:16
    All right, misfits, we'll see you next week.
  • 01:04:19
    - Way to go. You watched church this week.
  • 01:04:21
    But I want to encourage you,
  • 01:04:22
    don't let your experience end here.
  • 01:04:24
    If your week is anything like mine, it's going to be hectic
  • 01:04:27
    and it's going to be stressful at times,
  • 01:04:29
    and I just have to remind myself to slow down
  • 01:04:32
    and to spend time with God daily.
  • 01:04:34
    That's actually why we made
  • 01:04:35
    the Crossroads Anywhere app.
  • 01:04:36
    It will help guide you through
  • 01:04:37
    different exercises like gratitude,
  • 01:04:39
    prayer, journaling, and more.
  • 01:04:41
    And you can actually ask others
  • 01:04:43
    to pray for you too during this holiday season.
  • 01:04:45
    And you don't have to share any specifics.
  • 01:04:46
    But honestly, what do you have to lose?
  • 01:04:49
    Try the app and see if it helps make
  • 01:04:50
    your week, your month, or even your next year better.
  • 01:04:54
    And as we always say,
  • 01:04:56
    Crossroads isn't just a video or even an app,
  • 01:04:58
    it's a community that you can actually belong to.
  • 01:05:00
    And some of the best parts of Christmas
  • 01:05:02
    and the holidays happened around a dining room table.
  • 01:05:04
    But that idea of connecting with friends
  • 01:05:07
    or families around a meal
  • 01:05:08
    is so much bigger than the holidays.
  • 01:05:10
    It's actually always been a part of
  • 01:05:12
    what it means to be the church.
  • 01:05:14
    I want to show you an example of this.
  • 01:05:16
    Nick and Paige in Georgetown, man, felt this calling,
  • 01:05:20
    this urge to practice biblical hospitality.
  • 01:05:22
    So they just open up their home for a meal,
  • 01:05:24
    started inviting people in their apartment complex.
  • 01:05:27
    Man, it has been an amazing, amazing opportunity
  • 01:05:29
    for people to feel connected instead of isolated
  • 01:05:32
    and to feel like they have family right where they are.
  • 01:05:35
    Hey, if you're interested in making your table
  • 01:05:37
    a place where people can connect all year long,
  • 01:05:40
    hey, we have a training session in January
  • 01:05:42
    to help you get started so that you
  • 01:05:44
    can join people making community around the globe
  • 01:05:47
    in dorm rooms or dining rooms
  • 01:05:49
    and coffee shops or cafes.
  • 01:05:50
    This can be anywhere you are.
  • 01:05:53
    Learn more and sign up at Crossroads.net/anywhere.
  • 01:05:56
    Hey, we'll see you next week
  • 01:05:58
    for the last week of Christmas at the movies.

Process, journal or discuss the themes of this article - here's a few questions to get the ball rolling...

Welcome to the Weekend-Follow Up! This is the group part of the Bible Challenge, so your questions are based on specific Bible passages from the weekend message. Each week, your group will discover what God might be saying to you, and how you can respond through a group discussion.

  1. If you had the chance to design a reindeer game, what would you create?

  2. What stood out to you most from the message?

  3. In what ways have you experienced rejection in your life?

  4. How do you typically respond to the thoughts and feelings that come with rejection?

  5. In what ways do you find yourself taking on the identity of a misfit? How does that identity shape your actions?

  6. How do you believe God sees you?

  7. Read 1 Peter 2:9-10. What makes it difficult to believe you are chosen by God?

  8. What are some unique gifts, talents, or characteristics that you bring to your family or friends?

  9. What’s one way you can live into your identity as a child of God this week?

  10. Let’s end with prayer. You can say something like, “God, thank you for including us. Thank you for adopting us. Help us embrace the unique ways you’ve designed us. Help us receive your love. Amen.”

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  • Where do you see yourself trying to prove you fit in in your life? What’s been the result of your attempts?
  • How would your life or your relationships change if you let go of the need to fit in?

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