Who Do You Want To Be?

Who do you want to be? It’s a new year. It’s a good time to look in the mirror and think man…do I want to do this for another 365 days? This week, Brian Tome looks at the story of the woman who was healed of bleeding. She was healed after 12 years of struggle, all because of a bold move of faith. Who knows what might be on the other side of yours? If you don’t want your next year to look like last year, start here. Recorded live at Crossroads Church in Cincinnati, Ohio.

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    [music: Crossroads Music, Count Me In]
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    - Well, hey, welcome to Crossroads.
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    We're so glad you're joining us. Happy new year.
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    We're jumping into the deep end this year about
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    how we can experience more growth
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    and more traction in our lives.
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    And specifically, we're going to be doing that
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    by answering and asking some really important questions
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    and actually looking at how it's the questions
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    that we ask that shape who we become.
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    We'll actually be taking communion as well later.
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    So you can go ahead and pause this,
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    grab some bread, wine, something to eat and drink.
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    But we're going to jump in right now. Let's do it.
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    - Well good morning and happy New Year, everybody.
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    It's great to have everybody with us today.
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    And we got some good stuff today to start your year off
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    getting in the right spiritual direction, going that way.
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    Behind me you'll see one of my favorite pieces of artwork.
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    It's a piece of work that comes from Israel.
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    It's in a church around the Sea of Galilee.
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    It depicts a scene in the life of Jesus
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    that I'm going to be talking about in a little bit later.
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    It basically means, hey, do you want to be touched by God?
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    And you're here today, I think because
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    you want to increase the likelihood
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    of being touched by God.
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    So why don't we stand right now, all of our sites,
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    wherever we are, let's stand and pray for us.
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    God, I'm thankful for coming here.
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    I'm thankful for people who are willing to risk
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    and to make time for You.
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    Would You do something unique in our place?
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    And also, God, we want to tell You
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    thank You through this music. Amen.
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    - Come on, let's sing together.
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    - Come on, tell him now.
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    - Come on, sing those words again.
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    - Let me pray for us, Father God,
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    it's the first Sunday of the year.
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    I think my voice is already gone.
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    I might not have a voice,
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    but I got a heart that won't stop singing for You. Never.
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    Because I am only here today by Your goodness,
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    by grace upon grace.
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    You hold me up. You hold me together.
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    You never stop running after me.
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    And that's true of every single person who's here.
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    You know their name.
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    You saw their footsteps in here, in the room and online,
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    and You have good things and more for us.
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    Thank You, God.
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    I bless you and praise You all because of You, Jesus.
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    Amen. Amen.
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    Yeah. It's good to be back together.
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    Hey, if you're joining us online,
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    we're so glad you're joining with us.
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    Why don't you, uh, I don't know, give your dog knuckles
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    or text a friend, say, Happy New Year.
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    If you're in the room right now,
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    why don't you give somebody knuckles,
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    say, glad to be here with you. Happy new year.
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    - You could stay right where you are,
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    but maybe you weren't made to.
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    In South Africa, kids are stepping into a brighter future.
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    In Nepal, hope is protecting girls
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    before the darkness can reach them.
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    In India, freedom is finding its voice
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    through aftercare and restoration.
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    In Nicaragua, clean water brings life that never runs dry.
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    In Guatemala, education is changing the story
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    for the next generation.
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    In Alabama, empathy is building bridges
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    where walls once stood.
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    In Appalachia,
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    communities are rising from the weight of poverty.
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    In Puerto Rico, neighborhoods are thriving again,
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    one house at a time.
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    All across the world, people are moving
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    because there's no plan B for what God wants to do.
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    We are His plan A.
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    He's not waiting for someone else.
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    He's inviting you, your hands, your story, your yes.
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    You can't stay here.
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    Go. Because the world... is waiting.
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    - The world is waiting.
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    I love that video just shows some of the places
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    that our community is going, because there isn't a plan B.
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    God is looking to us
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    and inviting us to go to a new place spiritually.
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    And that could be you this year.
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    You could go to a new place
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    literally and spiritually this year.
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    These trips are incredible.
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    You can get all the information at crossroads.net/trips.
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    But let me just tell you, you will experience
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    a deeper level of connection with God,
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    a deeper sense of your own gifting.
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    And while it might be uncomfortable,
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    it can help you go to a new place.
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    I'm actually going to Puerto Rico
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    with my ten year old daughter this summer.
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    It's going to be incredible.
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    All the details at Crossroads.net/trips.
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    Now, all the stuff around here is designed
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    to help you grow, but we grow best when we grow together.
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    And Crossroads is an incredible community.
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    While there's great teaching, there's great music,
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    there's great worship,
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    the best thing about this place is the people.
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    We'd love for you to get connected to some of
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    the great community that makes this place awesome.
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    And you can do that through a group.
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    We've got all kinds of groups.
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    We've got groups in meeting homes,
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    groups that meet at our physical locations,
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    online groups, and we've got cohorts
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    which are online gatherings over three weeks
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    where you get to grow around a specific topic.
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    But the common thread through all of these
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    is that you get to grow with other people,
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    and you get to get to know other people
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    and they get to know you.
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    It's a powerful thing
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    and one of the best parts about this church.
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    Go to crossroads.net/groups for all that.
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    Now, I heard some research recently that I just love.
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    It like blew my mind when I heard it.
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    Surveyed over 100,000 people of all ages,
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    the largest research like this that's ever been done.
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    And it showed that one habit could change people's lives.
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    You know what it was?
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    Reading the Bible four times a week,
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    at least four times a week can have
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    revolutionary impact on your life.
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    Everything from anxiety to alcoholism went down.
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    Things like friendships and meaning and purpose
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    went through the roof.
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    And our church is doing something that could help you
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    set a new rhythm, not just a rhythm to go to the gym more
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    or to read more, but a spiritual rhythm,
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    a spiritual habit that could help you go to a new place.
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    And it's reading the Bible.
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    We're doing the entire Bible in a year
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    in the Crossroads Anywhere app.
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    We'd love for you to join us.
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    You can about 15 minutes a day. It's short, it's easy.
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    You can read through, and if you do that,
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    take that small step, make that small habit,
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    you can have read through the entire Bible
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    alongside this community.
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    We'd love for you to join us
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    in the Crossroads Anywhere app to make that happen.
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    Now, all the stuff around here, I feel like
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    I've just been talking about a laundry list of things,
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    but there's so much more that I don't have time to share
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    because we want to see people grow.
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    And that happens because people are generous
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    and people are faithful.
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    If you're new around here, hey,
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    we don't want anything from you.
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    We want you to experience more of God at this place.
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    But I just recognize I'm here and I'm a different person
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    because people invested in me.
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    If you've got questions about
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    what Crossroads believes about money,
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    or you want to join the team of faithful givers
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    who make that possible, you can do so
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    at Crossroads.net/give.
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    Now we continue to jump in
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    with the rest of our service right now.
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    - When I got locked up, he was ten months.
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    My biggest fear was him forgetting me.
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    Just him seeing that a gift came from me,
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    it was just special, for real.
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    Like, just knowing that we was able to pick it
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    was the best.
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    People think that their kids, like,
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    just because they're 4 or 3, that they don't remember.
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    They remember.
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    - It just it really means a lot because after today,
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    like, it leaves you feeling like a mother, like a mom.
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    All those things you miss out on, like,
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    it kind of gives you that little bit of feeling back,
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    so it's amazing.
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    Well, I just want to tell the community,
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    thank you so much.
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    Many of us here have damaged or broken our bonds
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    with our children and putting this on
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    and giving us these gifts and letting us be mothers again,
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    you know, it strengthens our bonds.
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    It's helping rebuild the damage that we've done.
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    - Unless you was in my head, you wouldn't be here
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    to know, like, to the extent of how thankful I am.
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    Something like this is what keeps me going.
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    Like, I can't let my son down. This is worth it.
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    - Man. Uh, I feel like we should
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    just close in prayer right now. My goodness.
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    Uh, well, uh. Hey, let's pray right now.
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    God, I'm thankful for those families
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    that we have been able to bless.
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    And I thank you for the fact that
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    You don't give up on anybody
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    and You always have a plan of restoration.
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    So I also pray God for normal people here
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    at Crossroads today that we need restored.
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    We need a little kick. We need a little, uh,
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    a little encouragement to go forward.
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    And I pray that that happens.
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    I pray that You'd help me be in sync with where people are
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    and most important, in sync with Your Spirit
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    and be able to be willing to say what You want said.
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    And I pray these things according to the character
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    and identity of Jesus. Amen.
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    Well, I don't know if you noticed or not,
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    but I think during 2025, maybe the most frequently
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    quoted Bible passage that I had was Luke 2:52,
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    where Jesus says -- Where it says about Jesus,
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    He grew in wisdom and stature.
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    He grew in stature and wisdom.
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    Now, I don't know if you've ever thought about this before,
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    but Jesus beginning didn't start at Christmas.
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    He didn't have a start at Bethlehem,
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    and that's the beginning of His creation.
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    The Bible is very clear that Jesus is God,
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    He's always existed, at creation He existed.
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    He just took on flesh and encountered life
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    the way we encounter it.
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    And when He came and took on flesh,
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    theologians know this is really tough.
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    He's God, but at the same time He's human.
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    So He goes through some sort of growth process.
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    In the same way that his body had to physically mature,
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    He also had to spiritually mature.
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    So while He never committed a sin,
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    He was growing in understanding who the Father was,
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    growing in understanding who He was.
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    Now I say all this, I can do a deep dive,
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    an entire series on that,
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    but that's just a kickoff to say this.
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    If you want to be like Jesus, you have to be a person
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    who values growth, because Jesus was about growth.
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    That was His life.
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    And if you're saying about 2026, "Yeah, just 2025,
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    rinse and repeat," you're not being like Jesus.
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    No matter. No matter how spiritually mature
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    or how spiritually immature you are,
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    if you have a heart that says, "I want to advance
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    to be the person that looks like God this year,
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    looks more like God," then you're in the right place
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    and you're going the direction.
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    If you're impressed with who you are,
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    if you're impressed with all the stuff,
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    then at that moment, even though you might be
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    hyper spiritual, hyper spiritual, hyper moral,
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    you're not being like Jesus
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    because He grew in wisdom and stature.
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    He never stopped growing in wisdom and stature.
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    The oldest person in all of our rooms today,
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    the oldest person assisted living,
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    at least their hair and their fingernails are growing
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    because living things are supposed to grow.
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    And so I want to help you grow today by looking at
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    one of my favorite stories in the Bible.
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    It comes from the book of Luke chapter eight.
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    And let me just read a portion for you. Here's what it says.
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    And Jesus went, the people pressed around Him.
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    And there was a woman who had a discharge of blood for 12 years,
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    and though she had spent all her living on physicians,
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    she could not be healed by anyone.
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    The Book of Luke is written by a physician, Luke,
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    and he is quick to point out that, hey,
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    physicians don't always have the answers.
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    And this woman was not getting any answers from the doctors.
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    She came up behind Him
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    and touched the fringe of His garment,
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    and immediately her discharge of blood ceased.
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    And Jesus said, "Who was it that touched me?"
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    There's a lot to talk about here.
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    I'm going to talk about all of it.
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    But if you want to grow,
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    there's three things that have to happen.
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    And one of them we see in this passage.
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    If you want to grow, first thing that has to happen
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    is you have to ask questions.
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    Jesus asks the question, what? Who? Who touched me?
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    Jesus asked questions 300 times, 300 questions.
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    Now, a lot of those questions were rhetorical questions
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    as a teaching device, but genuine questions like this one,
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    who touched me or He's on the cross.
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    He says to God, "My God, my God, why have You forsaken me?"
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    300 questions. In the Bible there's 3000 questions
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    inside of the Bible. That's pretty crazy.
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    When we ask questions, we're communicating:
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    I want to know You. I want to understand You.
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    I might want to become more like You.
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    That's what a question really does.
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    Not the kind of questions that many of us ask.
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    Like, the worst question I asked,
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    I'm so ashamed of myself when I asked this is:
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    what's your name? I meet so many. What's your name?
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    I'm not ashamed of that question.
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    I'm ashamed that if I have a two minute conversation
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    with them, in two minutes, I'm asking the exact same question.
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    Because the first time I asked the question,
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    I wasn't really wanting to know their name.
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    I just wanted an icebreaker question.
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    I just wanted to get the flow. I wasn't listening.
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    See, a lot of us, we don't ask questions,
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    meaning we don't listen.
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    In Pulp Fiction, there's that one line in that movie
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    that do you listen or do you wait for people to talk?
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    You've been around people like that, right?
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    It's like if you don't ask a question, they don't --
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    They don't shut up.
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    And then when you ask a question,
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    it just gives them more reason to keep talking,
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    going, going, going, going, going, going, going, going.
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    That person isn't trying to know you.
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    They're not trying to understand you.
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    They're trying to understand your life.
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    They're just talking and talking and talking and talking.
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    But when you ask a genuine question,
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    something profound happens.
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    You know, one of the questions that I'll ask is,
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    this wonderful question.
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    We're going to have you ask somebody right beside right now.
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    It's this: when's the last time you pooped your pants?
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    It's a great question. It really is.
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    It's a wonderful question.
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    It's like, "I've never done that. I've never done that."
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    The wealthiest person that I know, that I know,
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    poops his pants all the time.
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    Let me tell you about this guy.
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    I went out to to hunt this last year out west
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    wild game hunting, big, big game hunting.
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    I have a pastor friend who's got a guy in his church
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    who's a rancher who I believe they based
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    the television series Yellowstone off of him
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    and his right hand guy. I believe at the core of my being.
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    If you added up all his ranches.
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    And by the way, you don't know this guy's name at all.
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    If you added up all of his ranches, he has enough land
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    to go stretch a mile wide from Boise, Idaho to Washington, DC.
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    Crazy. I asked him that question once.
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    He said -- he's 84, 85 year old guy.
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    He's like, every year. Yeah, yeah, every year.
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    It's his right hand guy is like, "What?"
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    "Yeah, yeah yeah, yeah." So I sent him this.
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    This is a message I sent to some of my friends
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    this last year, including him.
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    I sent this to him the last day of 2025.
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    It was wonderful. It was wonderful.
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    It's a great conversation starter
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    because people really get real, real quick, right?
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    I'm glad, by the way, I failed in 2025.
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    I don't know if I failed in 2025.
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    I had a good run 2024, 2023, but 2025 I failed.
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    And rather than tell you exactly what happened,
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    uh, Jeff Foxworthy explains it really well.
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    - But there's just as much stuff you can't learn from Google.
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    You only learn it from life experience.
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    You usually learn most of it the hard way.
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    It's stuff that's not Googleable.
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    I don't know if that's a word,
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    but I call them the Facts of Life.
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    It's stuff you can't Google, like this: fact of life.
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    If you are trying to get to the bathroom
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    in an emergency situation, it is not a wise idea
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    to unbutton your pants in transit
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    trying to save a couple of seconds
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    because the muscles that guard the flood gates
  • 00:29:04
    will interpret the unbuttoning as the signal
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    to abandon their post, and the two seconds you saved
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    on the button are nullified by the hour and a half
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    you spend mopping and doing laundry.
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    You only learn that the hard way.
  • 00:29:23
    - That was my story. That was my story.
  • 00:29:24
    Now, aside from that great icebreaker question,
  • 00:29:27
    she really should use it. It's really wonderful.
  • 00:29:29
    In the Bible as I've been reading it starting this year
  • 00:29:33
    to go cover to cover, I'm amazed again
  • 00:29:35
    by how many questions there are.
  • 00:29:37
    God asks Adam and Eve, where are you?
  • 00:29:40
    He asked them, who told you?
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    Who told you you were naked?
  • 00:29:43
    You got Cain and Abel saying am I my brother's keeper?
  • 00:29:46
    There's questions throughout the whole thing.
  • 00:29:49
    Jesus grew because He asked questions.
  • 00:29:52
    In the book of Luke 2:46-47.
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    He's a little kid. He's 12 years old.
  • 00:29:56
    His parents can't findHim. Well, where is He?
  • 00:29:59
    He's in the temple because He wants to grow.
  • 00:30:01
    He's in the synagogue because He wants to grow.
  • 00:30:03
    I'll tell you what, if you want to grow,
  • 00:30:04
    you're going to be at church this year.
  • 00:30:06
    You don't want spiritual growth,
  • 00:30:07
    then just do whatever everybody else does.
  • 00:30:09
    Jesus was always like, "Hey, I can grow. I'm going there."
  • 00:30:12
    Here's what it says: After three days, they found Him.
  • 00:30:14
    They were gone for three days.
  • 00:30:15
    He was trying to grow for three days.
  • 00:30:17
    He was engrossed in God.
  • 00:30:19
    And what was he doing for that three days?
  • 00:30:20
    He was among the teachers listening to them
  • 00:30:23
    and asking them questions, asking them questions.
  • 00:30:28
    And all who heard Him were amazed
  • 00:30:30
    at His understanding and His answers.
  • 00:30:34
    Toddlers asked 290 questions a day.
  • 00:30:39
    And as they grow and they age, about 8 or 9,
  • 00:30:42
    they start going down, down, down hill.
  • 00:30:45
    And today, most of us who are adults
  • 00:30:47
    don't ask a single question a day.
  • 00:30:49
    If we do ask a question, we ask a question
  • 00:30:52
    to just make sure you agree with me
  • 00:30:53
    so I can feel validated.
  • 00:30:55
    We don't actually ask genuine questions of people
  • 00:30:57
    who might have a differing opinion
  • 00:30:58
    or a different value system than we do.
  • 00:31:01
    We just don't do that.
  • 00:31:03
    Jesus here He asks who touched Me? Who is it?
  • 00:31:08
    He's asking this question.
  • 00:31:10
    One of the questions I asked at the very end of 2025 too
  • 00:31:13
    is I said, you know, I realized, huh?
  • 00:31:15
    Um, I haven't used Google all year. Not at all.
  • 00:31:21
    Not because I'm fasting from the internet
  • 00:31:24
    or I don't have things to learn, but I
  • 00:31:25
    all year I've used ChatGPT.
  • 00:31:28
    And so the way you use ChatGPT is you ask it questions.
  • 00:31:32
    So all every, every questions, every question I've had,
  • 00:31:36
    everything I've wanted to find information on
  • 00:31:38
    I got from ChatGPT.
  • 00:31:40
    A torque value for a bolt, a hunting gear,
  • 00:31:45
    the tense of a Greek word to understand
  • 00:31:48
    if it's past pluperfect, all these different things,
  • 00:31:51
    all different sort of things.
  • 00:31:53
    I've asked questions for an entire year.
  • 00:31:55
    And then I said, huh?
  • 00:31:56
    I asked ChatGPT the last question of the year.
  • 00:31:59
    I said, what is it you know about me?
  • 00:32:03
    Oh my goodness. Wow. It gave --
  • 00:32:06
    I'm not going to give you the four categories.
  • 00:32:08
    They said, here's the four things about you.
  • 00:32:10
    Like, geez, I felt like I'd been going to therapy all year long.
  • 00:32:13
    Like nailed me.
  • 00:32:14
    I went to my wife and a friend of mine.
  • 00:32:16
    I said, this is what was said. Can you believe this?
  • 00:32:19
    Does this sound accurate?
  • 00:32:20
    Like oh my gosh. Yeah.
  • 00:32:22
    And I said, how do you know this?
  • 00:32:24
    Here's what ChatGPT said:
  • 00:32:26
    Patterns over time, not single facts.
  • 00:32:29
    I don't infer that from one conversation.
  • 00:32:32
    It comes from repeated signals across
  • 00:32:34
    very different domains,
  • 00:32:36
    mechanical restoration questions,
  • 00:32:38
    hunting optic gear choices, biblical Greek theology,
  • 00:32:41
    leadership talks, laws, safety rules,
  • 00:32:43
    financing, resale. All these things.
  • 00:32:46
    And here it is: when the same posture.
  • 00:32:48
    I love that. When the same posture shows up in trucks,
  • 00:32:52
    scripture, hunting gear and leadership,
  • 00:32:55
    it's not coincidence. It's character. Hmm.
  • 00:33:00
    I thought, well, still, maybe it's just trying
  • 00:33:02
    to make me feel good.
  • 00:33:03
    Maybe it realizes it makes me feel good
  • 00:33:05
    it's going to ensure that I keep using it and asking questions.
  • 00:33:08
    So I asked, are you trying to make me feel good?
  • 00:33:13
    Questions. Here's what it says.
  • 00:33:15
    It said, I, he, she, it, they, it, whatever it is,
  • 00:33:19
    I don't gain anything by flattering you.
  • 00:33:22
    What I gave you was specific, structural and costly.
  • 00:33:27
    Many people think they want honesty,
  • 00:33:29
    but what they really want is reassurance,
  • 00:33:31
    justification, validation, relief from discomfort.
  • 00:33:36
    They said because the truth without readiness
  • 00:33:38
    isn't helpful. It's just noise or injury.
  • 00:33:43
    Now, I'm going to give you the truth today,
  • 00:33:45
    and I think you're ready for it because you came here today.
  • 00:33:49
    You could have been a bunch of different places,
  • 00:33:51
    but that's my heart for you to have truth.
  • 00:33:54
    So the second thing after we ask questions
  • 00:33:55
    is determine who you want to be.
  • 00:33:59
    Determine who you -- Who do you want to be?
  • 00:34:02
    I'm not talking about like I'm a well, actually, yeah,
  • 00:34:04
    like a six year old.
  • 00:34:06
    People ask it, who do you want to be when you grow up?
  • 00:34:08
    Who do you want to be when you grow up? Who is it?
  • 00:34:10
    What's the preferred identity that you want to embrace?
  • 00:34:15
    What is it?
  • 00:34:16
    This woman, she is determined who she wants to be
  • 00:34:21
    is she wants to be healthy. She wants to be whole.
  • 00:34:24
    And she's been spending her money on this
  • 00:34:26
    for a long, long, long time.
  • 00:34:30
    So much time that she's gone financially. It's out.
  • 00:34:33
    And so, like, what's what's going on?
  • 00:34:35
    Well, she's menstruating, for 12 years she's menstruating.
  • 00:34:39
    Oh my goodness. Wow.
  • 00:34:40
    If I cut my knuckle, if I cut my knuckle
  • 00:34:44
    and it's bleeding, that bums me out.
  • 00:34:46
    For you women, man, for four days every month,
  • 00:34:49
    that'd be horrible.
  • 00:34:51
    You are unbelievably tough creatures.
  • 00:34:53
    That's just tough, tough, tough, tough stuff.
  • 00:34:55
    Now you add on to this, add on to this
  • 00:34:58
    that not only do you have that discomfort
  • 00:35:00
    and all that stuff, but you're also in a culture
  • 00:35:05
    that believes and teaches that whenever you're bleeding,
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    it's what's known as unclean.
  • 00:35:12
    Now, this is the case with men and women.
  • 00:35:14
    So if I have my cut knuckle
  • 00:35:16
    and someone would see my cut knuckle,
  • 00:35:18
    I would have to be removed from the community
  • 00:35:20
    for a period of time.
  • 00:35:21
    Because the ancient Jews, they believed that,
  • 00:35:24
    this is a very rough, rudimentary understanding,
  • 00:35:26
    but it's at least 99, 95% true,
  • 00:35:30
    but it's just just CliffsNotes version here.
  • 00:35:32
    Clean and unclean meant that if you were manifesting
  • 00:35:37
    a position that would not be in heaven,
  • 00:35:38
    you are known as unclean.
  • 00:35:41
    If you're manifesting a situation or some condition
  • 00:35:47
    that is only going to be bound here on Earth,
  • 00:35:50
    then that's called unclean.
  • 00:35:52
    Okay, so when you were unclean, unclean,
  • 00:35:57
    you were removed from the covenant community
  • 00:36:00
    as a reminder that
  • 00:36:02
    that's not the way it's going to be in heaven.
  • 00:36:04
    In heaven, there's no pain, there's no sorrow,
  • 00:36:06
    there's no crying, and there's no bleeding.
  • 00:36:09
    So when you bleed, you were removed.
  • 00:36:12
    Whether you're a woman menstruating or a guy who,
  • 00:36:13
    you know, who cut his knuckle or something like that.
  • 00:36:16
    What that means is this woman has been
  • 00:36:20
    outside of community for 12 years,
  • 00:36:25
    outside of human interaction for 12 years,
  • 00:36:28
    at least, inside of a spiritual community kind of environment.
  • 00:36:33
    This is starting to become her identity.
  • 00:36:35
    This is now defining her.
  • 00:36:37
    She's the woman who menstruates.
  • 00:36:39
    She's the woman who doesn't have any money
  • 00:36:40
    because she's been trying to solve this problem.
  • 00:36:42
    She's been, and she is determined that
  • 00:36:44
    that's not the end of the story.
  • 00:36:45
    Friends, let me tell you, right, right, right, right.
  • 00:36:47
    There's things that you and I get comfortable with,
  • 00:36:50
    don't get comfortable with it.
  • 00:36:52
    There's things that you and I just start to think,
  • 00:36:54
    "Well, that's just who I am." Stop it, stop it.
  • 00:36:57
    That's maybe who you choose to be.
  • 00:37:00
    That's who you are agreeing to.
  • 00:37:02
    You cannot get comfortable having things going on
  • 00:37:05
    in your life that are unclean,
  • 00:37:07
    meaning are not the way God wants it to be.
  • 00:37:10
    Meaning are not the way it should operate in heaven.
  • 00:37:12
    You should never, never get satisfied with
  • 00:37:15
    this is just who I am. I guess I'm Irish,
  • 00:37:17
    so I overdrink and I get angry.
  • 00:37:19
    Well, this is just who I am.
  • 00:37:21
    Well, I just learned this.
  • 00:37:23
    Hey, hey, hey, hey, look,
  • 00:37:24
    you have to determine who you want to be.
  • 00:37:28
    What is your character? What is your direction?
  • 00:37:32
    What is your heading?
  • 00:37:36
    One of the greatest conversion stories, I believe,
  • 00:37:38
    of recent times, uh, is Jelly Roll.
  • 00:37:44
    You know who Jelly Roll is?
  • 00:37:45
    His name has determined who he's going to be.
  • 00:37:48
    He is a jelly roll, this dude, 500 and some pounds.
  • 00:37:52
    Grammy Award winning artists, phenomenal poet,
  • 00:37:55
    crossover artists, country, now getting over to gospel
  • 00:37:59
    because he's been converted.
  • 00:38:00
    God has gotten a hold of his heart.
  • 00:38:02
    And if you've listened to any of his interviews
  • 00:38:04
    over the last several years, there's been
  • 00:38:06
    a gradual processing of where he's going.
  • 00:38:09
    And this is a guy who has believed the narrative
  • 00:38:13
    for himself at 500, and I think it was as highest
  • 00:38:15
    was 550 pounds, and then he decided,
  • 00:38:20
    he was in bed one day and he was on his side,
  • 00:38:23
    and his arm was pinned under his side and was going numb.
  • 00:38:27
    And he didn't have the strength to roll himself over.
  • 00:38:30
    And he realized, "I'm going to cut off circulation to my arm.
  • 00:38:34
    I'm going to lose my arm, maybe die right here, right now."
  • 00:38:37
    And that was the thing that kind of triggered him.
  • 00:38:39
    In a recent interview, he talked about determining
  • 00:38:42
    who he wanted to be and taking on a different identity.
  • 00:38:44
    And here's just a little snippet of that.
  • 00:38:47
    - There's a hill, my driveway comes down the driveway,
  • 00:38:50
    comes down a hill, and you bust a right, Joe.
  • 00:38:53
    And then you can go left into a neighborhood,
  • 00:38:55
    the same run I run every day,
  • 00:38:57
    or you can go right up a hill, and it is a hill hill, you know?
  • 00:39:03
    And the first day I came out and I looked up that hill
  • 00:39:07
    and I looked to the left, and I took two steps to the left.
  • 00:39:10
    And I stopped, and I told myself I was like,
  • 00:39:12
    I've learned about stories we tell ourselves.
  • 00:39:15
    The story I've been telling myself my whole life
  • 00:39:17
    was take the easy way out.
  • 00:39:19
    My entire life, Joe, I have always looked for
  • 00:39:22
    the path of the easiest, like, A to B straight line.
  • 00:39:25
    You know what I mean?
  • 00:39:27
    And I was like, "I break that today. I turn right."
  • 00:39:32
    - Woo. - You feel it, don't you?
  • 00:39:36
    Right then big. - It's a big move.
  • 00:39:38
    - Big moment when you're like, no, I'm hitting that hill,
  • 00:39:41
    you know, because I'm big.
  • 00:39:42
    Fat people hate hills, stairs. We hate all that.
  • 00:39:45
    So I'm like, I'm like, hit the hill, you know?
  • 00:39:48
    And I'm walking and I'm stopping
  • 00:39:49
    and I'm walking and I'm stopping and I'm walking and I stop.
  • 00:39:52
    I just kept going. When I got to the top of it,
  • 00:39:54
    there was a telephone pole up there
  • 00:39:55
    and I went and slapped it. I just slapped it.
  • 00:39:59
    And I was just I felt so achieved.
  • 00:40:00
    And I came down the hill and then I took a left
  • 00:40:02
    and I was going to go straight down to the stop sign
  • 00:40:04
    and back, but if you take a left,
  • 00:40:06
    you can go up another hill.
  • 00:40:07
    So I was in my mind, I was like, "I'm going to stop sign,
  • 00:40:09
    I hit the hill," but as I was walking by that other hill,
  • 00:40:12
    I was like, "This is the new you. You hit the hill, dog.
  • 00:40:15
    This is the new you. Today is the new you. You hit the hill."
  • 00:40:21
    - It's an amazing story how he's come to Christ,
  • 00:40:25
    how Christ is, you can just tell in his language
  • 00:40:27
    and the whole thing. I'm not talking about the f bombs,
  • 00:40:29
    but just just how he gives God glory in all of that stuff.
  • 00:40:33
    And here's a guy who is 500 plus pounds
  • 00:40:36
    who's lost literally hundreds of pounds,
  • 00:40:40
    and he's going to lose 45 pounds as soon as
  • 00:40:43
    he has a surgery to remove 45 pounds of skin
  • 00:40:45
    that's hanging off of him.
  • 00:40:48
    And it's really an amazing story.
  • 00:40:49
    And he says, he basically said, I determined what I want to be.
  • 00:40:52
    He said he would tell his wife, he said,
  • 00:40:54
    "I'm going out for a run."
  • 00:40:56
    And it took him months of being able to run.
  • 00:40:59
    He could -- It was not possible for him to run.
  • 00:41:01
    His run was a walk, but he told himself that he's a runner.
  • 00:41:05
    He said, "I am determined. I'm going for a run."
  • 00:41:09
    You need to set your eyes on who God has asked you to be,
  • 00:41:12
    who God has called you to be,
  • 00:41:14
    who God has qualifying you to be.
  • 00:41:17
    And you need to say, "That is my identity,
  • 00:41:20
    and I am determined to be that.
  • 00:41:22
    And therefore all I have to do
  • 00:41:24
    is have to grow into being that."
  • 00:41:27
    This is the reason why so many of us
  • 00:41:29
    stopped making New Year's resolutions
  • 00:41:31
    a long, long time ago
  • 00:41:32
    because the resolution process was devoid
  • 00:41:36
    of the identity process.
  • 00:41:39
    Resolutions and goals only work
  • 00:41:41
    if they're pinned to your identity.
  • 00:41:44
    Just like, well, something I should do,
  • 00:41:45
    if it's something I should do. Okay, okay.
  • 00:41:48
    I'm gonna work out three times a week. Okay.
  • 00:41:50
    This year I'm going to,
  • 00:41:51
    I'm going to not have cookies at night.
  • 00:41:53
    Okay. This year I'm going to -- I'm going to whatever.
  • 00:41:55
    I'm going to lose 20 pounds. Whatever.
  • 00:41:57
    But why? Why? Like, when I have a a fitness goa,
  • 00:42:01
    it's because it's pinned to my identity.
  • 00:42:05
    And my identity is -- part of my identity is I do hard things.
  • 00:42:09
    So I have got to be fit in order to pick up
  • 00:42:11
    a 600 pound motorcycle.
  • 00:42:13
    I have got to be working out in fit
  • 00:42:15
    in order to haul out an elk on my back quarters.
  • 00:42:19
    But that's my identity, so that's why I do that.
  • 00:42:23
    Reading the Bible.
  • 00:42:24
    You know, if you're going to read
  • 00:42:26
    the Bible this year with us, I hope you do.
  • 00:42:28
    It's been really, really good for, I think,
  • 00:42:29
    all of us who are doing it.
  • 00:42:31
    But I'm telling you, the reason why people
  • 00:42:33
    don't read the Bible through to through in a year
  • 00:42:35
    like just about every American is has something to do that
  • 00:42:37
    and just about no American has done that.
  • 00:42:39
    The reason is because it's just something I should do.
  • 00:42:45
    It's something I should check off the list.
  • 00:42:47
    It's something that a good person --
  • 00:42:49
    That doesn't work, doesn't work that way.
  • 00:42:50
    No, no, no, don't work. That doesn't work that way for me.
  • 00:42:53
    I have to say, I didn't do that until I started.
  • 00:42:57
    I said, "Okay, hold on, hold on.
  • 00:42:59
    I am getting fed a bill of goods from the world
  • 00:43:03
    that is not right and is not healthy.
  • 00:43:05
    I need a clean water source because I am a godly man.
  • 00:43:09
    That's what I am. I am a godly man and Fox News and CNN
  • 00:43:15
    is not going to contribute to that at all. At all.
  • 00:43:18
    In fact, it's going to actually hurt it in a significant way.
  • 00:43:21
    And everybody who mouths those talking points,
  • 00:43:23
    people are like, 'Well, what are you talking about"
  • 00:43:25
    I know you don't read the Bible then.
  • 00:43:27
    I know, I know, I know that because when you do,
  • 00:43:29
    you get a different worldview.
  • 00:43:31
    When you do, you get a different sense
  • 00:43:33
    of what is right and wrong.
  • 00:43:35
    And so when I set a Bible reading goal,
  • 00:43:37
    it's not because, "Well,
  • 00:43:38
    I'm a pastor, I guess I should do that."
  • 00:43:40
    It's like, no, I want to be a man of God.
  • 00:43:42
    And I'm thirsting for that.
  • 00:43:43
    I'm thirsting for a source of truth that comes.
  • 00:43:47
    I'm determined that that's who I want to be.
  • 00:43:50
    My time with my family, time with my grandkids,
  • 00:43:53
    I don't talk about them too much because
  • 00:43:54
    I don't want to make myself sound like an old fart.
  • 00:43:56
    I got seven grandkids, seven grandkids,
  • 00:43:59
    and so my goals with my kids and my grandkids
  • 00:44:04
    aren't because, well, that's what a father should do.
  • 00:44:06
    That's what a grandfather should do.
  • 00:44:08
    It's because I'm determined to be a patriarch.
  • 00:44:12
    Now, "A patriarch?
  • 00:44:13
    Patriarchal system is putting our country down."
  • 00:44:15
    Relax. I'm talking about a biblical patriarch
  • 00:44:18
    that is a person who thinks in generations
  • 00:44:22
    and is leaving a legacy for multiple generations.
  • 00:44:25
    When I'm dead and gone, or I'm retired,
  • 00:44:27
    Crossroads will forget about me immediately.
  • 00:44:29
    And it should, that's the way it should be.
  • 00:44:30
    I will have no legacy tied to Crossroads
  • 00:44:33
    or people's memories of me.
  • 00:44:35
    That's just not the way it works.
  • 00:44:36
    But I'll tell you what,
  • 00:44:37
    the systems I've set up in my family,
  • 00:44:39
    the conversations I have in my family,
  • 00:44:41
    how that trickles down, that's my legacy.
  • 00:44:43
    It's your relationships that will be your legacy,
  • 00:44:46
    not your accomplishments.
  • 00:44:47
    Your accomplishments get you raises
  • 00:44:50
    and they get you plaques,
  • 00:44:52
    and then they get you nothing when you're gone.
  • 00:44:54
    And then somebody else has to do --
  • 00:44:55
    It is your relationships that you choose to invest with,
  • 00:44:59
    whether people you've adopted in your life
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    or whether people you've actually given birth.
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    So therefore, when that is who I'm determined to be,
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    then that leads me to do certain things,
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    because that's who I'm determined to be.
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    That's what people who grow are.
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    What is your picture of where you're going?
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    There's just, "No, all I'm going is I want an easy life."
  • 00:45:18
    Yeah. Okay. "Where I'm going is I just want to be liked.
  • 00:45:21
    Where I'm going is I just want to be popular.
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    I just want to fit in with everybody else."
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    No, that's not a person who actually grows.
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    Now this woman, she hears Jesus say, "Who touched Me?"
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    Now again, let's just put Jesus over here for a minute, okay?
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    It's going to be Jesus for the rest of our time.
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    This woman, this woman, when Jesus says, when Jesus says,
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    "Who's touched me?" Here's what happens, verse 47.
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    And when the woman saw that she was not hidden,
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    she came trembling and falling down before Him,
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    declared, in the presence of all the people
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    why she had touched Him,
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    and how she had been immediately healed.
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    And He said to her, "Daughter,
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    your faith has made you well; go in peace"
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    It says when she says she felt like she was not hidden,
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    meaning everyone realized something took place.
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    Now, now, now what took place there?
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    Exactly what took place?
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    I skipped ahead on the story. What took place?
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    What took place was that she decided to touch Him.
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    She decided to get close to Him.
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    This is the third thing: You drive and you push.
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    You drive and push.
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    If you want to grow, you have to ask questions,
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    you have to determine who you're gonna be,
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    and you're going to have to drive
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    and you're going to have to push.
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    She is determined that she is going to be a healthy person,
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    and her next option is Jesus in town.
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    I hear He heals people. I gotta be around Him.
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    So she goes, but guess what?
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    Everybody's around because the greatest show in town
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    is there, and there's throngs of crowds wherever Jesus is.
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    So people are around and she can't get to Him.
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    She sees Him there, but she can't -- She can't get there.
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    And where many people say, "Well, I guess --
  • 00:47:19
    I guess God hasn't opened a window yet. Okay.
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    Where God makes a will, He makes a way.
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    I guess He hasn't made me a way,
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    so therefore I'm going to go back. I just couldn't do it."
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    She's like, "No, I am, I am determined,
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    I am, I am, I am going."
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    So she's coming up to this thing and she can't.
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    You can just imagine they're kind of elbowing her
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    and everyone wants to be close to her.
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    And it says, touch the touched the edge of the garment.
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    What does that mean? What does that mean?
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    She's trying, she's stretching, she's stretching,
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    she's she's stretching.
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    She barely catches the very edge of it, right?
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    Now, what I think it meant is I think it meant she dove.
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    I didn't have the guts to dive right now.
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    I think she --
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    I think she dove to touch the edge of the garment.
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    And Jesus, Jesus, when He feels something happen.
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    Here's what it says in verse 46.
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    He says, "Who touched me?"
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    When all denied it, Peter said --
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    They all denied like I didn't touch you.
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    He's thinking like they're offended.
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    He's offended someone touched Him. They all denied it.
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    And Jesus said, "No, no. Who was it that touched me?"
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    When they all denied it, Peter said, "Master,
  • 00:48:32
    the crowds surrounding You and are pressing in on You."
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    But Jesus said. He said, "Hey, there's all kind of people.
  • 00:48:39
    What do you mean? Everyone's touching You,
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    everyone's touching You, everyone's bumping into You.
  • 00:48:43
    There's a massive amounts of people here."
  • 00:48:45
    But Jesus said, "No, someone touched me,
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    for I perceived that power has gone out from Me.
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    Someone touched me. I perceived the power."
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    Someone wanted something. Somebody wanted something.
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    Somebody decided to push themselves.
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    Somebody. Somebody was desperate.
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    Somebody wanted something beyond what they have right now.
  • 00:49:06
    Somebody was thirsty.
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    Somebody had a question they needed an answer for.
  • 00:49:12
    Somebody needed some power.
  • 00:49:14
    Somebody. I felt it.
  • 00:49:15
    This isn't just like normal.
  • 00:49:17
    Jesus goes something, something just had --
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    There was a transaction that just took place
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    because somebody wanted something.
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    And here's my question for you.
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    If you were there, would you have been touching Jesus?
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    Right now? Right now? Like a lot.
  • 00:49:32
    "No. I'm good, I'm good, I'm good."
  • 00:49:34
    How you doing? "I'm good, I'm good.
  • 00:49:35
    You're good, in other words, "No, I don't grow.
  • 00:49:37
    I don't grow, I don't grow, I'm good, I'm good.
  • 00:49:39
    I don't grow, I don't grow, I don't grow."
  • 00:49:41
    Like, where are you right now?
  • 00:49:43
    "No, no. Things are going good. I think I got it all handled."
  • 00:49:45
    In other words, you don't grow.
  • 00:49:46
    In other words, you don't want Jesus.
  • 00:49:48
    "No, no, no, no, I think I got a plan.
  • 00:49:50
    I'm doing some stuff. I got it all figured out."
  • 00:49:52
    Oh, good. In other words, you don't need God.
  • 00:49:55
    Would you have touched Him?
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    Did you? Did you want Him?
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    Would you have exerted yourself?
  • 00:50:00
    The reason spiritual growth doesn't happen
  • 00:50:03
    is because we don't want it.
  • 00:50:05
    And more specifically, we don't want Him.
  • 00:50:08
    We don't want Him, and we're not willing to look like a fool.
  • 00:50:11
    We're not looking to press through.
  • 00:50:12
    We're not looking to fall on the ground,
  • 00:50:15
    any of that stuff.
  • 00:50:16
    That's why this woman is memorialized
  • 00:50:18
    and we're still talking about her
  • 00:50:20
    because she had a grit about her.
  • 00:50:23
    She had a thirst about her to be a different person,
  • 00:50:28
    to be a whole person, to be a healthy person.
  • 00:50:31
    And shoot, today, man, if you want to change yourself,
  • 00:50:34
    the haters will tell you you shouldn't even change yourself.
  • 00:50:36
    Just be who you are.
  • 00:50:38
    No, you mean like not grow?
  • 00:50:40
    Be satisfied with who you be you. You be you.
  • 00:50:44
    Gosh, you be you, in other words,
  • 00:50:48
    you're a lazy ass who's threatened by
  • 00:50:49
    somebody else who wants more out of their life.
  • 00:50:51
    That's really what that means. Yeah.
  • 00:50:57
    Jelly Roll swore, I guess I could to serve at some point.
  • 00:51:00
    Much more mild, milder, tamer word
  • 00:51:02
    than words than he was using.
  • 00:51:04
    But she comes trembling because she wants something different.
  • 00:51:14
    She wants that. Do you want that?
  • 00:51:16
    What do you want this year?
  • 00:51:18
    What is your preferred understanding
  • 00:51:20
    of what your life should look like?
  • 00:51:22
    Are you willing to lunge and touch Jesus
  • 00:51:27
    and maybe fall on the ground and maybe get dirty,
  • 00:51:31
    maybe even get hurt in the process?
  • 00:51:34
    We don't know was this woman a bit hurt?
  • 00:51:36
    What was going on with her?
  • 00:51:37
    Here's what Jesus says to her. Let's reread it.
  • 00:51:41
    When the woman saw that she was not hidden,
  • 00:51:43
    she came trembling and falling down before Him,
  • 00:51:45
    declared, in the presence of all the people
  • 00:51:47
    why she had touched Him and how she had been immediately,
  • 00:51:51
    immediately, she touches His garment,
  • 00:51:53
    she is immediately, imagine that.
  • 00:51:54
    You've been bleeding, you've been having cramps,
  • 00:51:56
    you've been having all this stuff,
  • 00:51:57
    whatever you got to do down there to manage things,
  • 00:51:59
    and immediately like, "Good. Wow, wow. I'm good.
  • 00:52:04
    No, I'm good, I'm good, I'm good, I'm good."
  • 00:52:06
    Jesus is the See this person who could say I am good. Wow.
  • 00:52:09
    And He said to her, He said to her, "Daughter,
  • 00:52:13
    your faith has made you well; go in peace."
  • 00:52:17
    What does Jesus mean by that, your faith has made --
  • 00:52:20
    Jesus has made her well. He's made her well.
  • 00:52:22
    It was the touching. It was the touching of his robe
  • 00:52:27
    of the corner that that made her well.
  • 00:52:29
    Jesus made her well. But what's Jesus saying?
  • 00:52:32
    He's saying it's your drive to grow that's made --
  • 00:52:35
    You believed. You believed
  • 00:52:37
    if you did some uncomfortable things
  • 00:52:39
    that you didn't want to do.
  • 00:52:40
    She didn't want to come in public and be shamed
  • 00:52:43
    because she is unclean
  • 00:52:44
    and she hasn't been around other people.
  • 00:52:46
    She didn't want to have to fight through
  • 00:52:48
    and out herself as a woman who is who is menstruating.
  • 00:52:52
    I don't want to make it too graphic, but, you know,
  • 00:52:54
    it could -- something could drip
  • 00:52:56
    that would be utterly humiliating for her in public.
  • 00:53:01
    She definitely didn't want to do this thing
  • 00:53:03
    of calling attention to herself.
  • 00:53:04
    Definitely didn't want to dive and fall on the ground.
  • 00:53:07
    Didn't want to do any of that.
  • 00:53:11
    But it didn't matter because she wanted different for her life.
  • 00:53:16
    She wanted Jesus and what she thought Jesus could give to her.
  • 00:53:26
    The song in 2025 that's the most played song on my playlist
  • 00:53:31
    of all the songs I listened to, the one I listened to the most
  • 00:53:34
    is a song by my new friend Dante Bowe,
  • 00:53:36
    which is about the blood of Jesus.
  • 00:53:40
    And the blood of Jesus is what we're going to do here
  • 00:53:43
    in in just a little bit.
  • 00:53:44
    If you want to pull out your little packet.
  • 00:53:46
    I want to I want to reframe this a little bit for us.
  • 00:53:50
    Communion, Eucharist, the mass,
  • 00:53:53
    different traditions called different things.
  • 00:53:55
    I want to tie this to what we're talking about
  • 00:53:57
    with this woman today because it's important to understand.
  • 00:54:05
    This is a little kit of remembrance
  • 00:54:09
    that reminds us of a few things.
  • 00:54:11
    Most of the time when we do communion,
  • 00:54:13
    we think about the things that we've done that are bad,
  • 00:54:15
    the things that we need to grow out of,
  • 00:54:17
    the things we need to ask forgiveness for.
  • 00:54:19
    And that's a totally appropriate and great.
  • 00:54:22
    So like the bread represents the body of Christ
  • 00:54:25
    who's been broken for you and I, so that
  • 00:54:28
    we don't have to be broken eternally
  • 00:54:30
    because He was already broken for us.
  • 00:54:33
    The blood, what the juice or wine represents,
  • 00:54:36
    represents His blood, His blood spilled
  • 00:54:38
    on a cross on the ground.
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    There was the shedding of Him as a sacrifice,
  • 00:54:42
    a perfect lamb, so that you and I
  • 00:54:44
    will never have to shed our own blood with God.
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    There will be no eternal spanking for us,
  • 00:54:49
    for in Him there is therefore now no condemnation.
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    There's no -- you never get condemned
  • 00:54:54
    when you receive Jesus.
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    And when you have communion,
  • 00:54:57
    you're reminding that you've received him.
  • 00:54:59
    You know, if you've come here today and you're seeking,
  • 00:55:02
    this is for people who have received Him,
  • 00:55:05
    received Him and are committed to Him.
  • 00:55:07
    And maybe you're going like, "Oh, I want that."
  • 00:55:09
    Well great. This could be your first communion.
  • 00:55:11
    You can have this right now.
  • 00:55:13
    All that's true in communion.
  • 00:55:15
    But there's another element of communion that's true as well.
  • 00:55:18
    The Bible repeatedly talks about the blood of Jesus,
  • 00:55:22
    the blood of Jesus, the blood that covers us.
  • 00:55:25
    It's also the blood that gives us an identity.
  • 00:55:29
    You know, I don't know in the first century
  • 00:55:31
    if they understood what DNA was.
  • 00:55:33
    Pretty confident they didn't know
  • 00:55:34
    what DNA was in the first century,
  • 00:55:36
    but they knew they had a very high view of the blood.
  • 00:55:38
    They knew that blood represented life.
  • 00:55:42
    And when Jesus tells us to do this,
  • 00:55:46
    what we're doing is not just remembering His sacrifice
  • 00:55:50
    and walk in forgiveness.
  • 00:55:51
    We're also saying,
  • 00:55:52
    "I am consuming the identity of Christ.
  • 00:55:56
    That's who I want to be.
  • 00:55:58
    I am consuming the identity of Christ."
  • 00:56:01
    And that's what this song is meant to me,
  • 00:56:05
    consuming the identity of Christ,
  • 00:56:06
    the power of Jesus, the blood of Jesus.
  • 00:56:10
    We're going to do some of that song right now,
  • 00:56:12
    and then we're going to take communion,
  • 00:56:15
    and then we'll sing a little bit more of it.
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    - Let's all stand right now.
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    Let's take out your little communion kit.
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    Turn it upside down so the bread is up on top.
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    Take off that little thing, the little peel thing.
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    And bring out that little bread nugget.
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    The body of Christ, the identity of Christ, broken for you,
  • 00:58:49
    for all who would receive Him
  • 00:58:51
    and all who want to remember and walk in forgiveness,
  • 00:58:54
    take and eat.
  • 00:59:00
    I'll flip it over so it looks like a little wine glass again.
  • 00:59:03
    Take that top part off.
  • 00:59:08
    The blood of Christ,
  • 00:59:11
    the blood that's shed for the remission of sin.
  • 00:59:13
    The blood that is shed for all who have problems,
  • 00:59:16
    for all who need areas to grow in.
  • 00:59:18
    The blood of Jesus, actually is His identity
  • 00:59:23
    for all who would have Him,
  • 00:59:24
    and all will walk in forgiveness
  • 00:59:26
    in the identity of Christ.
  • 00:59:27
    The blood of Christ. Take and eat.
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    - You haven't done my favorite part of the song.
  • 01:03:44
    - Come on, come on.
  • 01:05:15
    - Yes it does.
  • 01:05:17
    There, there. Now, don't make that mistake the next service.
  • 01:05:22
    Good. All right.
  • 01:05:24
    Hey, man. God loves you. He does love you.
  • 01:05:27
    He's for you and He wants you to be like Him in 2026.
  • 01:05:31
    So let's grow that way.
  • 01:05:32
    God, thank You for being patient and kind and wise. Amen.
  • 01:05:37
    Have a great day.
  • 01:05:40
    - I hope you hear that God loves you, that He's for you,
  • 01:05:43
    and that His blood changes things for you and I.
  • 01:05:46
    I hope that you had a chance to take communion.
  • 01:05:48
    If you didn't, hey, here's your chance.
  • 01:05:50
    Let's grab something to drink, something to eat
  • 01:05:53
    and read through that account in the book of Luke
  • 01:05:57
    where Jesus said this is my body broken for you.
  • 01:05:59
    This is my blood shed for you.
  • 01:06:01
    Just take a moment with God. Say God, thank You.
  • 01:06:04
    Thank You that Your blood changes things in me,
  • 01:06:06
    changes things through me and for me.
  • 01:06:08
    Now, everything you've heard today is in the hope
  • 01:06:12
    that you'll experience more of God in your life,
  • 01:06:14
    not just in your church life, but in your daily life
  • 01:06:16
    that you experience more of God's presence,
  • 01:06:18
    more of God's purpose, more of God's joy and peace.
  • 01:06:21
    If there's anything we can do to help you towards that,
  • 01:06:24
    we'd love to do that and you can actually connect with us.
  • 01:06:26
    You just fill out the connect card.
  • 01:06:27
    Crossroads.net/connect, myself or somebody on my team
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    will reach out to you, set up a time to talk
  • 01:06:33
    or help get you the information,
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    or connect you to the right group or opportunity
  • 01:06:36
    to help you go to a new place this year.
  • 01:06:40
    As always, we'd love to pray for you,
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    encourage you, do whatever we can.
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    We'll see you next week as we kick off
  • 01:06:45
    a new series on prayer. Have a great one!

Process, journal or discuss the themes of this article - here's a few questions to get the ball rolling...

Welcome to the Weekend-Follow Up!

This is the group part of the Bible Challenge, so your questions are based on specific Bible passages from the weekend message. Each week, your group will discover what God might be saying to you, and how you can respond through a group discussion.

  1. So. When was the last time you pooped your pants?

  2. What stood out to you most from the message?

  3. 2026 is officially here. Who do you want to be this year? What are some ways you want to change and grow?

  4. Why do you think kids ask so many questions and adults ask less? What can we learn from them?

  5. Read Luke 8:43-48.

    How do you think the woman’s faith helped heal her? How can you have a similar faith and determination?

  6. What are the biggest stumbling blocks that prevent your growth or your desire to grow?

  7. What can help make your desire to grow stick? How is it helpful to have a plan, vision, or strategy?

  8. What’s one step you can take this week to start growing and become like Jesus?

  9. Let’s end our time praying together. You can say something like;

    “Jesus, just like the bleeding woman you see us, listen to us, and want to renew us. Thank you for your love and strength. Please help us as we grow in you and become the people you want us to be. In the identity and character of Jesus I pray, amen.”

More from the Weekend

__Bonus Questions! __

Check these out if you’re on a roll and want to go a little deeper.

  • Looking at the year ahead, what’s a hill or difficulty you might experience? How can your identity change your perspective and the way you confront?
  • Read Luke 2:52. What does it mean to you when you hear that even Jesus experienced growth while he was here on earth?

That’s it for this week - see you next time!


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