Best of 2019

So much has happened this year, it’s easy to forget most of it. Let’s take a moment and review just a few of the highlights from 2019 and ask God for an even better 2020.

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    Well, Happy New Year, Crossroads.
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    Welcome to 2020, almost.
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    This is our special New Year's experience.
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    And we're going to spend some time together as a church
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    looking back at 2019 and looking ahead at 2020.
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    So I get the joy of sitting with friends and teammates right now.
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    Kyle Ranson
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    - Hold on, before you go there, they are my friends too.
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    Anybody who I spent a lot of time with, they get a nickname.
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    So let's make sure you understand, this is not Lena.
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    This is Humbles. That's one of her names, Humbles.
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    This is not Kyle.
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    This is Cranston.
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    Or we're tied.
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    - No, veto!
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    That's not encouraging, no.
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    (crosstalk)
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    Ok, Lena Schuler, Kyle Ranson, Brian Tome, Chuck Mingo.
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    - M-I-N-G-O, M-I-N-G-O.
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    - I got a good one. I got a song.
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    - You get the cadence too.
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    - And Alli Patterson.
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    - Alley Cat.
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    - Otherwise known as Alley Cat.
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    - Thanks so much for being here, guys.
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    - We were kind of forced too, so you know.
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    - Yeah, it's kind of a job requirement.
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    - You accepted my invite.
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    Yeah. Well, why are we here together today?
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    You might go, "I could be in a Crossroads service or..."
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    All of our locations are closed so this is an online only weekend.
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    Why are we even doing a video special online today?
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    Tell us, senior pastor.
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    - Well, we're doing it because we've got a lot of people around Crossroads,
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    that carry a lot of water and push a lot of things uphill all the time,
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    volunteering places, you know, being amazingly present.
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    And we just found out in the midst of all the holiday stuff,
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    if we take a week where people don't have to volunteer,
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    if we take a week that's different and say,
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    "Hey, stay home and sleep in.
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    You don't have to work in your various areas
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    and we'll connect this way.
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    This is not only helpful for the church,
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    but helpful for us personally.
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    So I'm personally enjoying the change of gears.
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    I know all of our hardcore volunteers and our staff are as well.
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    - Yeah, it's great.
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    Well, and today we're gonna spend time looking back at 2019.
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    It's kind of a reflective experience and a look ahead.
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    But why is it important for us to reflect at the end of a year?
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    - I think a calendar exists not just to mark that
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    there are different seasons: fall, spring, summer or all that stuff,
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    but a calendar also exists to mark time and say,
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    "Okay, I've come to a moment,
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    I need to look back and figure out what was back there."
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    Again and again and again in the Bible, it says, remember,
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    We can only remember if we pause and we look --
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    We look back and say, "What is there to learn back there?"
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    And so that's what New Year's does for me.
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    I can look back and remember and I can also figure out,
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    OK, what does this mean about my future?
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    And doing it with other people.
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    Hopefully you're with other people in your room right now
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    is really helpful because the book of Hebrews 10:23 says,
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    "Let us not forsake the gathering together,
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    as is the habit of some.
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    But let's gather together and encourage one another."
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    It's really good not just to go inside your own internal space,
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    but to be able to share and sharpen with other people.
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    So that's what I'm hoping we get out of this today.
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    And maybe what we do today could be replicated in living rooms
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    and coffee shops across country.
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    - Yeah, we're absolutely gonna be encouraging each other.
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    But before we get into that, if you're watching at home right now,
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    we'd love to see what you're doing this weekend
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    on this New Year's weekend.
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    So tag us @crdschurch and we actually are going to have
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    an exercise that we're going to do together
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    on these couches and you can do at home.
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    And so be ready for that at the end of this.
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    We want to hear about that experience too @crdschurch
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    on all of your social media platforms.
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    So we're gonna kick off with actually celebrating 2019,
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    celebrating each of you and some great moments
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    that we've had here at Crossroads.
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    We're in year 25?
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    What year did Crossroads start?
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    - 1996 was the first weekend services, March of '96.
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    So what's the math on that?
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    - We're 23.
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    - 23, okay.
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    - Will be twenty four.
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    Okay, so we're 23 years into Crossroads..
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    And you all have spent lots of stage time leading us as a church,
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    teaching us, preparing us,
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    getting us into a place to received from God.
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    And so we're going to start this experience together
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    by doing a little encouragement.
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    And we're gonna make this fun.
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    We're gonna have a best of award segments, if you will.
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    So I actually have trophies right here for you to hand out to each other.
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    - Are these participate awards?
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    - Do we all get a trophy?
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    - These are not participation trophies, but they should be personal.
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    They should have some personal examples.
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    - So we're going to start with Alli.
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    - Alli, I would love for you to give a best of award
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    to one of your teammates from 2019.
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    - Okay. I'm going to give a best of I think I'll give this to Chuck.
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    Best of 2019 Chuck Mingo for me was the end of the end.
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    We did a series about the end of time.
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    And we were looking at the Book of Revelation
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    and some other things, and you gave a message
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    in that series where you told a story that I will never forget.
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    And then I got to see the Chuck Mingo like fire
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    that I love when you go into that space.
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    So the story you told was about a young man
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    whose funeral you attended, someone in your life.
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    You said how angry you got at the pastor who was doing the funeral,
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    because he had a roomful of probably a lot of teens
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    who had a lot of issues in their life.
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    A lot of guns in the room, a lot of drugs in the room.
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    You know, just teens that probably had some crap going on
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    and all they got from him was condemnation.
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    And you said how angry you were about the judgment
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    that you felt he gave those kids
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    and that he never finished the story.
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    And then you went on to finish the story.
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    And that story told me a lot about you.
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    It's told me how much you have a heart to finish the story
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    and to take people from wherever they are
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    to the better life said that Jesus has for them.
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    So best of 2019, no doubt for me.
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    - I agree, even to go at another level
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    and risk of sounding racial.
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    We've talked about this.
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    Man, you go into black preacher mode, that's really --
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    I mean, seriously, there's a gear you get into.
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    You're a preacher and you're black.
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    I'm a preacher and I'm white.
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    But there is a gear and a cadence you get into sometimes
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    that's just really special.
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    And you got into that one, that was really cool.
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    - So let's actually watch a clip from that message right now.
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    - Seventeen years ago, my sister in law, my wife's sister
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    was dating a young man and they had a child together.
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    And while Maria was here, we weren't married yet.
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    We were kind of the process of getting married.
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    Maria literally comes out of the CVG airport
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    to a phone call that -- his name is Gary --
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    that Gary had been shot and killed the night before.
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    And Gary lived a hard life.
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    Gary lived in the projects.
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    Gary had some friends that I would love for Gary not to have.
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    And I remember going into this funeral home for his funeral.
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    There was a bunch of people in there.
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    And I'm sure that if a raid happened in that moment
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    there would be more drugs and more guns in that funeral home
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    because of the kind of people who were in the room.
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    And in the midst of that, these young people are hurting.
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    They're in pain. They lost their friend.
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    This pastor gets up, and when I tell you,
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    I've never been more angry at a pastor in my life.
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    He gets up and for 20 minutes just starts
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    to berate these young people about their life,
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    about their lifestyle,
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    about the fact that they sell drugs,
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    about the fact that they shoot.
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    All the stuff that was right, yes, they do that.
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    But I could not believe that you would miss this opportunity
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    to not tell them the other side of the story.
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    How can you not tell them the other side of the story?
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    Yes, there is a righteous judge who's going to judge you
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    for every wrong thing you do.
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    And when he does it, he will be right in doing it.
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    But that righteous judge sent His Son
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    long before you were ever born
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    so that you could come to faith in Him
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    and you could be saved by the work of His Son for you.
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    - Guys, thank you.
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    You know that message meant a lot to me, it really did.
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    And I'm just glad that as a church, we had the courage
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    to talk about something like revelation and judgment.
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    And I do think it was a powerful series for our community.
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    Thank you.
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    - Well, let's keep the love going.
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    Kyle, you got a best of award to hand out?
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    - I want to give, you know, people say it's a bad idea
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    to suck up to the boss.
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    Those people are idiots. It's a great idea.
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    It's a great idea. This award goes to Brian Tome.
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    The message about watching Chuck.Chuck.
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    That was like you in your lane, man.
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    You in your lane.
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    This award actually for you, BT, is an unexpected award.
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    Okay? This is the award for most unexpected neurology example
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    that actually helped my life in 2019.
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    This is for the message you did,
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    I think it was the new mind series at the very start of the year.
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    You went to Kroger, you bought a bunch of vegetables
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    and somehow you put them together into the reptilian brain
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    and the mammalian brain.
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    - Yes.
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    - You talked about how --
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    Or new brain and old brain.
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    - Yeah. It was amazing.
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    It was absolutely amazing.
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    Actually helped my life, got me to the point
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    where I understood in a new way this Bible verse
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    about renewing my mind.
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    It was awesome. Awesome.
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    And you had a ninja outfit to top it all off.
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    Just incredible, this is your award right there.
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    - I'd like to thank all the seminary professors that built into me.
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    I'd like to thank my mom, my dad,,
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    and my second grade Sunday school teacher who really made this possible.
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    - Well, don't forget to thank all the cauliflower growers in Iowa.
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    - All the cauliflower growers in Iowa
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    and the produce manager at Kroger just coming through for me
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    at the last minute when I walked in there.
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    Which was really great, thank you.great, thank you.
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    In fact, why don't we take a look at my awesomeness right now?
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    These olives are actually eyeballs and this is a brain stem.
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    There.
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    Hi. How are you doing?
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    I'm doing very good. Thank you very much.
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    That's actually -- it's actually this isn't just the brain stem.
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    It'll be down here.
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    This is actually known as the old brain or the reptilian brain.
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    Then there is another kind of brain
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    and it is what's known as the mammalian brain
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    or the new brain.
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    The new brain.
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    This is you.
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    Hi. It's great to meet you.
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    Thank you.
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    It's so good to be with you this weekend.
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    Yes. And here's a important thing to understand.
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    Right here is where your eyeballs come into this old brain.
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    It's where your ears are, your sense of smell.
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    This will and wants to rule your life.
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    This is where fight or flight comes from.
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    This is where when you have an adrenaline surge,
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    you see something -- because this reptilian brain
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    is just immediate and instantaneous.
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    Now, when we understand that this new brain
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    is on the reptilian brain,
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    if we only behave according this brain,
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    which is really how most of us only behave.
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    If you are completely reactionary,
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    if you are a victim to your circumstances,
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    if you feel like this just the way I am,
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    that's the way I am.
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    Or how about this line?
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    You've got to be true to yourself.
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    That is the worst thing you could possibly:
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    You've gotta be true to yourself?
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    In other words be a reptile.
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    You can't monitor your urges.
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    You can't monitor who you are.
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    You just roll around the ground like a lizard
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    because there's nothing you can do.
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    Just be true to yourself.
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    No. Mammals, specifically humans,
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    can make decisions that override their urges.
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    - All right, well, let's keep us rolling here.
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    Chuck Mingo, you have an award to give out?
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    - I do. Based on what we talked about earlier,
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    maybe this should be the cow patty award,
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    but I'm not going to call it that.
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    - Oh, man. I get to give this award, though, to you, Kyle.
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    And we did a series, Blessed Life, and it was a powerful series.
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    And I think specifically your message on Am I Generous
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    as you talked about giving.
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    And you had an illustration there where you kind of
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    talked about Judas and how Judas was responding to Jesus's generosity.
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    And you just brought it full circle and made it personal.
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    And I would say that message for me
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    was one of the messages this year, because you did this many times.
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    I want to call this the stepping into your authority award,
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    because I really feel like this year
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    you stepped into your authority on this stage.
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    You stepped into your authority for our community
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    and you moved people.
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    Your message absolutely moved people.
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    There are families whose lives are different
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    because of the way you stepped into your authority this year.
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    So man, stepped into your authority award.
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    - Thanks, Chuck. That's awesome.
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    That's awesome.
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    - Yeah, seriously, Chuck.
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    Unbelievable. Unbelievable.
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    I loved your little anecdotes,
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    ike the TV had an anvil inside of it.
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    You take little detours that are humorous
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    and keep things fresh for us to get to some
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    of your severe deeper content.
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    Really good.
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    - We know this, right, as preachers there's a couple of topics
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    when you get them that you're just not --
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    Really?
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    Let's talk about not having sex before marriage
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    or giving all your money away.
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    And you get those assignments and you're like,
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    "Well, OK, what am I going to do with this?"
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    But yeah, you know, it's just true
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    that when you step in the generosity,
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    there's something unique that God does with your heart.
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    And I know that that's a roadblock for so many people.
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    But I was just pumped in that series.
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    So many people in our community took steps towards God,
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    thousands of people, and we're different because of it.
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    It's awesome.
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    - Well, let's watch that clip of Kyle in The Blessed Life right now.
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    - Now in the story, Judas is holding the money box.
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    You know, he's holding the money box.
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    And what's amazing is that he actually attempts to appear generous.
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    You can see it in the story.
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    See, she pours out the oil.
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    She does this amazing thing of extravagance.
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    And Judas is standing there, he goes, (raspberry sound)
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    "That's a waste. What a waste.
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    That should've been given to the poor.
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    It should've been given to the poor."
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    You ever said that?
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    You ever heard somebody say it? You ever said it yourself?
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    I have.
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    I actually said at the very first time I ever walked into Crossroads.
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    It was 2002.
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    My parents brought me.
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    You've got to understand back then,
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    TVs were basically perfect cubes stuffed full of anvils.
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    They weighed like a thousand pounds.
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    They were awful to move.
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    But I walk in the Crossroads and I see something
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    I've only seen pictures of and never seen in real life:
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    flat screen TVs. There were six.
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    I counted.
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    They were expensive.
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    And I said to my parents, "What a waste.
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    That money should've been given to the poor."
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    I did not know I was quoting Judas.
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    I didn't, but I was.
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    - Ok, so final award to give out.
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    I wonder who this could go to.
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    - Yes. It's going to go to Alley Cat.
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    Alley Cat and I've had a lot of talks over the last year
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    about, you know, finding your voice..
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    All of us have unique voices.
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    All of us have unique things that when someone hears us speak
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    they're going to get something from Chuck
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    that I'm not going to give them.
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    Something that from Kyle that I'm not going to give them
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    or Chuck can't. All of us are unique.
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    And you know, as you're finding that voice,
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    I felt like one of the strides you hit a few times this year
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    it was great was just the level of vulnerability.
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    You're a very smart woman who has a lot of education.
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    And when you throw that change up of vulnerability
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    and something that is -- it's powerful.
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    So when you talked about just some of the crap you get,
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    the grief you get, the judgment you get when you preach,,
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    everything from, you know, how you dress to things you say,
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    the complaints that come in.
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    It's just -- it's just really heartbreaking, angers me greatly,
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    but also impressed me greatly when you just put your stuff out there,
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    made some really bold moves talking about that
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    and other things this year.
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    So as we take a look at that clip right now,
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    it's just great being on the team with you.
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    - Jesus faced so much rejection that I have to conclude
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    if I'm following Him and my life is like His,
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    then I am going to face that same rejection.
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    And I want to share some of that rejection with you.
  • 00:17:09
    I want to read you some emails that I have gotten
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    over time here at Crossroads.
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    I don't like you or anything about you.
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    You have no real insight or wisdom.
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    Your sermon was great, but you don't look great.
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    You really need some different clothes.
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    Why do we let women speak and teach here?
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    You are ignorant, dangerous,
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    and should never be allowed to speak to anyone ever again.
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    The sound of your voice and the way that you talk,,
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    it all just bothers me.
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    How dare you force your thoughts on us?
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    I'm leaving Crossroads and I am never coming back because of you.
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    You all, that kind of rejection really hurts.
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    It really hurts.
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    Also, there's something far more important than that.
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    There's something far more important than that.
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    It doesn't matter how I feel on Monday morning,
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    if the God who never rejects you,
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    if you know Him better, it doesn't matter.
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    If Jesus's purpose is furthered one tiny little bit,
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    then it doesn't matter how I feel about that.
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    As a matter of fact, God kind of guarantees
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    that we're going to participate in some sort of rejection.
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    And He is going to help us weather through it,
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    because I care about you finding your people
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    and God healing your pain much more
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    than I am afraid of the email that's coming on Monday morning.
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    Much more. I care about that much more.
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    [ applause ]
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    - Well, thanks so much for my vulnerability award.
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    I probably don't like that clip as much as you do..
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    And I did --
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    - It's all about me though,
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    so long as I like it, that's all that matters.
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    Look how vulnerable you were, I like it.
  • 00:19:40
    - No, I mean, I get why you would remember that
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    and why it's important to go into those spaces
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    that really are vulnerable.
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    But in watching it and in re-living it, listening to it,
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    It's not like -- that is uncomfortable space for all of us.
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    And also, I don't feel --
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    like I don't want that to define me in any way, you know?
  • 00:20:07
    So when I rewatched that, I go, OK, I get it.
  • 00:20:10
    I know that's pushing into those spaces of vulnerability
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    is critical for all of us to continue to grow
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    and be grown and, you know, to receive from,
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    you know, whoever is talking.
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    It's important that we push into really uncomfortable places.
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    But I don't necessarily look back on that and think,
  • 00:20:29
    "Boy, that was my personal favorite moment."
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    But yeah, so I get it.
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    And I'm in there.
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    I'm willing to to go there.
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    But --
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    - And you know why?
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    Because you're into leading people spiritually.
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    So I just want to encourage you on that.
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    - When it doesn't feel comfortable bit you do it anyway,
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    then you're clearly not doing it for yourself.
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    And that's the power of that moment,
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    is that you were willing to do something uncomfortable
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    to lead people to a different place.
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    - Well, thank you. And I did hear from, I mean,
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    scores and scores and scores of people in our community
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    that were touched in some way by that very specific message.
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    So I know that it matters.
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    And it's also always kind of going to suck.
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    So, this is the sucking award.
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    - Can I give my trophy to Chuck?
  • 00:21:21
    - Yeah, you want to change it?
  • 00:21:22
    - Well, I feel like Encourager of the Year award to Chuck, just constantly there.
  • 00:21:25
    - I agree, I agree
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    - Amazing, Chuck.
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    - Well, that's a good segue actually.ctually.
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    I'd love to hear, BT, what you think about all of --
  • 00:21:38
    - BT? You mean, Dad?Dad?
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    - Dad, it's always a weird like --
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    It's weird you being my offspring?
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    It's weird you being the first DNA person I ever saw on the planet?
  • 00:21:50
    What exactly is weird about this?
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    - Ok, dad, I would love for you to --
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    - Father, just call me father.
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    - Abba?
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    - Oh, Oh, wise one. Oh, wise one who loves me so,
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    I would love to hear what you --
  • 00:22:08
    I could keep going.
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    OK, in all seriousness, I'd love to hear what is...
  • 00:22:16
    - Not going to recover from this one.
  • 00:22:17
    - Is this going well?
  • 00:22:20
    - Now I'm self conscious of raising my eyebrow, you're going to say something about it.
  • 00:22:26
    My face is red.
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    - This is not getting cut out by the way.
  • 00:22:30
    This is not getting cut out.
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    I'm telling you right now, this is not getting cut out.
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    - This is -- OK.
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    I think I'm done sweating.
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    Done with 2019, done making fun of me.
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    Let's keep moving.
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    So I did -- I do love getting to celebrate
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    each of those moments with each of you
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    and looking back on the year and reliving that.
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    There's also something really powerful
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    about looking ahead to the next year.
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    We're in 2020, like it or not, in just a few hours here.
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    So what is it that you're most looking forward to in this next year?
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    - Does it have to be like a deep thing?
  • 00:23:05
    - Oh, no. Like fun, light, whatever.
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    - Okay, mine's easy. My parents offered to watch our kids
  • 00:23:10
    so Sarah and I can go on a just us vacation.
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    - Come on. Come on.
  • 00:23:15
    - Amazing. Can't wait.
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    Don't know where we're going. Can't wait.
  • 00:23:18
    I'm so excited.
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    - Are you coming back?
  • 00:23:21
    - TBD. Yeah, I mean, they're --
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    - Don't scare our friends at home right now.
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    You're coming back, Kyle.
  • 00:23:27
    - I don't know. Probably, probably.
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    I don't know. Probably.
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    - I am most excited about the new hobby
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    my wife and I have together: over landing.
  • 00:23:37
    We get on my truck and we camp on top of the roof on top of it.
  • 00:23:41
    We do all kind of stuff.
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    So we've got some trips planned out this year to enjoy each other.
  • 00:23:45
    I'm really looking forward to those.
  • 00:23:47
    I'm looking forward to it.
  • 00:23:49
    - Man, 2020 is going to be a really fun year.
  • 00:23:51
    And gosh, if I think about the thing
  • 00:23:53
    I'm looking forward to the most,
  • 00:23:54
    my family and I, we're thinking about going
  • 00:23:55
    to Puerto Rico for the first time in 2020.
  • 00:23:58
    So my wife's family's from there, her mom.
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    And our kids are old enough now that we could do that.
  • 00:24:02
    So I'm thinking about going to Puerto Rico in 2020
  • 00:24:04
    makes me very, very excited.
  • 00:24:06
    - That is very cool.
  • 00:24:07
    - Maybe Kyle and Sarah can tag along.
  • 00:24:09
    (crosstalk
  • 00:24:14
    - They've already got childcare handled,handled,
  • 00:24:16
    so maybe they can watch your kids.
  • 00:24:17
    - Yeah. We would love to but we're going to be so busy.
  • 00:24:22
    We're going to be so busy. So, we'd love to otherwise.
  • 00:24:24
    - I think the thing I'm most looking forward to in 2020
  • 00:24:27
    is being out of school.
  • 00:24:29
    So I've been working out my degree for a handful of years now,
  • 00:24:33
    kind of like the tortoise.
  • 00:24:34
    I will finally be finished with it in just a couple of months.
  • 00:24:38
    And I think the reason that I'm excited is because
  • 00:24:41
    to do that over a long period of time,
  • 00:24:44
    I've had to squeeze some other things out of my life.
  • 00:24:46
    That's just the reality of it.
  • 00:24:47
    I mean, a big, long term goal comes at a cost.
  • 00:24:51
    And so there's some things that I've had to say no to.
  • 00:24:55
    Then I'm excited to see what kind of things sprout up in my life
  • 00:25:01
    when I have that margin back.
  • 00:25:04
    - What's the actual degree you're getting?
  • 00:25:05
    - It's a Masters in Biblical Studies
  • 00:25:09
    from a Dallas Theological Seminary.
  • 00:25:11
    - So, Dad, we have a family tradition that you started
  • 00:25:15
    a couple years ago in our family and has had some really good fruit.
  • 00:25:19
    And I think it'd be worthy us doing together as a church.
  • 00:25:22
    - Yeah, I'm a big tradition guy, that might surprise you
  • 00:25:26
    because I don't seem to be all into tradition,
  • 00:25:28
    but I love having things in the calendar
  • 00:25:31
    that regularly repeat just to give comfort and clarity.
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    And so one of the ones that we've been doing
  • 00:25:37
    comes from the book of Mark, Chapter 10.
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    Jesus is walking down the street and there's a guy who's blind.
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    His name is Bartimaeus.
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    I call him Blind Bart.
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    Blind Bart is blind and he's calling out, "Jesus, Jesus, Jesus."
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    And Jesus makes room for him and he says to this guy who's blind,
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    he says, exact quote, "What is it you want me to do for you?
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    What do you want me to do for you?"
  • 00:26:03
    Which is really mind blowing on a number of levels.of
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    levels.
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    First of all, it almost sounds insensitive.
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    Wait a minute. This guy's blind.
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    I mean, how are you not just dealing with that?
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    Well, maybe that's not the guy's biggest problem, right?
  • 00:26:20
    Maybe his blindness he's learned to cope
  • 00:26:23
    and maybe he's got a sciatic nerve issue
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    that he's in 24/7 chronic pain or something like that.
  • 00:26:28
    Maybe he's, who knows?
  • 00:26:29
    But Jesus has him define what is it -- what is his biggest need?
  • 00:26:34
    That's the one thing that's mind blowing about it for me.
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    The second one is just the fact that Jesus says,
  • 00:26:40
    "What is it you want me to do for you?"
  • 00:26:45
    That's really crazy.
  • 00:26:48
    I think Jesus still ask that question.
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    I think He still asks us to articulate
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    what is it you want me to do for you?
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    Blind Bart does choose blindness blindness
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    and Blind Bart is no longer blind Bart, he's now seeing Bartimaeus.
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    He can see, he gets it.
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    I wonder how many things that we would have if we just asked.
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    And a lot of us are afraid of praying
  • 00:27:16
    and having my prayers be only about me.
  • 00:27:18
    I get that, I get that.
  • 00:27:19
    Let's have our prayers be about things other than us.
  • 00:27:21
    OK? True. True.
  • 00:27:22
    But here we have at least one situation we are asked to ask Jesus.
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    And I think there's some of us who don't have things
  • 00:27:30
    because we're not ask Him.
  • 00:27:31
    So maybe we just do that.
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    And we should be doing that in your home or wherever you are right now.
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    You should be talking it out with Jesus
  • 00:27:39
    and Blind Bart asks in front of other people.
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    There's a power to when we ask in front of other people.
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    So maybe we do it right now.
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    Jesus, would just look at you and say,
  • 00:27:49
    "What is it you want me to do for you?
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    What is it?"
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    I'll go first since it was my little teaching.
  • 00:27:56
    I will say I'm asking Jesus for,
  • 00:27:59
    I would like a more healthy Crossroads this year.
  • 00:28:03
    I want a more healthy Crossroads.
  • 00:28:06
    We've just grown so much, there've been so many new things.
  • 00:28:08
    I know that we've left some folks in the dust.
  • 00:28:11
    I know that we've got some cracks in our ministry.
  • 00:28:13
    I know that there's places to shore up how we care for people,
  • 00:28:16
    how we connect with people.
  • 00:28:17
    So aside from all the things that we are doing in budget and activity,
  • 00:28:23
    I would just like something extra from Jesus, just kind of wave a wand
  • 00:28:28
    and do something to to just make us a healthier, stronger,
  • 00:28:32
    stronger church for people who are here.
  • 00:28:35
    - I want Jesus to give me the clarity and confidence
  • 00:28:38
    that I need to write my first book in 2020.
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    That's what I want.
  • 00:28:46
    - Wow. I like it.
  • 00:28:48
    - Man, lots on the list, but I tell you the one
  • 00:28:51
    that immediately comes to mind.
  • 00:28:53
    We continue to hear from across the country
  • 00:28:56
    that the work that we're doing as a church
  • 00:28:58
    when it comes to racial reconciliation, racial justice
  • 00:29:00
    through undivided is needed and wanted all around the nation.
  • 00:29:04
    And so the thing I want Jesus to do is I want Him to create
  • 00:29:09
    all the resources we need to take undivided national
  • 00:29:12
    and to be able to scale this ministry that God has given us
  • 00:29:14
    to steward it to impact our country.
  • 00:29:17
    That's what I want.
  • 00:29:18
    - Good.
  • 00:29:19
    - That's awesome.
  • 00:29:22
    I think about so many things work, personal life, family,
  • 00:29:25
    I'll go kind of internal God working on me.
  • 00:29:29
    Right?
  • 00:29:30
    So one of the prayers I pray every day, The Lord's Prayer,
  • 00:29:34
    Your Kingdom come, Your will be done.
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    And I think about that as God's Kingdom coming in inside of me,
  • 00:29:41
    taking over more of my heart.
  • 00:29:43
    And one of the places, if I look back in 2019,
  • 00:29:45
    that I did not see growth in that I want growth in,
  • 00:29:49
    is I have this -- this like anger button
  • 00:29:53
    that I didn't know existed until I had kids in me..
  • 00:29:56
    And my kids can set it off and I just go
  • 00:29:59
    from like zero to like, ugh, at them.
  • 00:30:02
    And, you know, I mean, you can judge me if you want to.
  • 00:30:04
    I'm just being honest.
  • 00:30:05
    Like, I'll just yell at them.
  • 00:30:07
    And I would love, I want God to take that out.
  • 00:30:13
    I want God to take out that anger button,
  • 00:30:15
    not that you never get angry at your kids or anything like that.
  • 00:30:17
    I just mean that sort of fly off the handle instantaneous thing.
  • 00:30:21
    I'd love Him to -- His Kingdom to come in me
  • 00:30:24
    and take that part over. That's mine.
  • 00:30:27
    - Lena, how about -- how about you?
  • 00:30:28
    Actually, why don't you hand me that little trophy
  • 00:30:31
    that you have right beside you.
  • 00:30:34
    - Do I get to still answer the question?
  • 00:30:35
    - Yes, you can still get the answer,
  • 00:30:37
    but you've been doing a lot of answering
  • 00:30:38
    and I want you to, before you answer.
  • 00:30:40
    - Ask it, I have an answer.
  • 00:30:41
    - Ok. Well, I'm not going to give --
  • 00:30:44
    I'm going to give you encouragement first.
  • 00:30:45
    I'm going to say, this award goes to you
  • 00:30:49
    and all of the Crossroads Anywhere community,
  • 00:30:51
    you've taken a lot of new ground this year.
  • 00:30:53
    You've lifted a lot of heavy weights
  • 00:30:56
    and done a lot of different activities.
  • 00:30:59
    And you and all the folks who are running
  • 00:31:03
    after this element of our ministry at Crossroads
  • 00:31:06
    just deserve recognition and thankfulness.
  • 00:31:07
    So thank you very much.
  • 00:31:08
    That's good.
  • 00:31:09
    - Thanks. This is a really great exercise that we got to do together.
  • 00:31:13
    And it's actually one that you can do at home
  • 00:31:16
    maybe right now between you and Jesus
  • 00:31:18
    or around your dinner table or in your living room at some point
  • 00:31:22
    as this year comes to a close.
  • 00:31:24
    But we actually want to give you a little bit of time
  • 00:31:26
    right now just to reflect on what it is
  • 00:31:28
    that you want Jesus to do for you and to have some time
  • 00:31:32
    to spend with Him thinking about and talking to Him
  • 00:31:36
    about what it would look for Him
  • 00:31:37
    to give you something good in 2020.
  • 00:32:47
    - Well, let's pray over these things right now.
  • 00:32:49
    OK?
  • 00:32:51
    God, I thank You.
  • 00:32:52
    You're a God who hears.
  • 00:32:55
    You listen, You respond.
  • 00:32:57
    You do.
  • 00:32:58
    It is crazy to me, You actually care what we think
  • 00:33:02
    and that you would actually say yes to many of the things we ask for.
  • 00:33:06
    And I'm praying God for a lot of yeses
  • 00:33:08
    and for You to move on the things that we've been talking about
  • 00:33:11
    and that we just asked for.
  • 00:33:12
    I prayed that there would be stories,
  • 00:33:15
    there would be victories and there would be fulfillment
  • 00:33:18
    on the other end of all these conversations we've just had..
  • 00:33:21
    You're good to give us today.
  • 00:33:22
    You're good to give us Yourselfself
  • 00:33:25
    and you're good to give us the future.
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    I pray these things according to Your Name.
  • 00:33:29
    Jesus, Amen.
  • 00:33:32
    - Well, hey, thanks for joining us.
  • 00:33:33
    We hope you have a Happy New Year.
  • 00:33:35
    We'll be back at a location near you
  • 00:33:38
    or right here online on January 4th and 5th.
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    Check out Crossroads.net
  • 00:33:42
    for more.
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    We'll see you next week.

Dec 24, 2019

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