Crossroads’ mission is to connect seekers to a community of growing Christ followers who change the world. We’re doing that as a spiritual outfitter, so that anyone in our community has the opportunity to get connected to a deeper relationship with Jesus. We will inspire, equip & mobilize staff and volunteer leaders throughout Crossroads to more fully engage as GUIDES for others in our community.
We Guide so that people become more like Christ.
Our goal is to develop Christ-like leaders, personally and practically living out our mission to help more people come into relationship with Jesus and to mature as Christ-followers:
A guide is someone who can hear someone’s story and help them take a next step in their relationship
They do this by:
Knowing their People
Touch base monthly. Listen to how things are going. Be available for them as they need.
Pray for them regularly Weekly, intentionally pray for what they’ve shared with you, or ask God for insight on how to guide them well.
Knowing Jesus and Crossroads
You have experience walking with Jesus. You can’t take someone to a place you haven’t been. And remember, you’re not alone. It takes a village.
You’re aware of available resources. Or you know where to find them.
Helping them take a Next Step
You don’t have to have the answer for everything. But these tools will help you know where to look. And you’re on a team who can help.
Follow up. What makes this different than anything we’ve tried before is relationship. It’s not a one-and-done hand-off or connection. You’re going to walk with someone over time and get to see God change their life. Now that’s an adventure.
Whether it’s your first time guiding someone or you’ve got too many people in your life you don’t know where to start, keep these things in mind.
You were made to guide.
It’s the last thing Jesus told us to do, and we have the Holy Spirit guiding us. It might get rocky at times, but you’re also growing in the process.
You have something to offer.
Just because someone might be more mature, in a different life stage, or has completely different experiences than you, doesn’t mean you can’t still be a good guide. Even if you simply connect, listen, and pray, you’ve guided. And you have a team and resources to support you.
You will also benefit.
Not only will you grow as you guide, but the people you’re guiding can also grow to be guides. As guides multiply and invest in others, your guiding efforts will be multiplied.
Many of your existing relationships aren’t just guides. You’re investing in them more deeply, they’re coming around your house and family, you talk to them more than once a month. That’s great. And needed. Not all guiding relationships go deeper, and it’s not expected for them to. But where you have additional relationship to lead others, go for it.More on ways to lead people well.
These tools provided will help you lead in the different types of relationships.
If you don’t find what you need here, there are other resources available to help you Guide well.
One mark of a guide is that they continue growing as a Christ follower. As you grow in leading, it forces you to grow in living and loving more like Jesus. And, you can only give as much as you receive. Avoid burnout, lead lightly, and continue to grow.
Whatever God wants to do in your ministry/group/volunteer team, he is first going to do in you.
A watchout for a pastor is that they tend to put others ahead of themselves. Loving? Yes. Humble? Yes. Unhealthy? Sometimes. We have to be honest about our time and energy limitations and set boundaries. Basically, we have to put on our spiritual oxygen mask before assisting others.
Taking care of ourselves, also means that we continue growing. Anything God want to do through us, he will first do in us. Here are some key behaviors of maturing Christ followers based on some of the 7 Hills.
Doing Life Together
Growth / Generosity
Remember, the most important work is what God is doing in you. There are tons of resources available to help you keep growing, and take care of yourself.
Not sure what’s best for you? Talk to your manager, ministry leader or email firstname.lastname@example.org and we’ll help you.
A guide is someone who can listen to someone’s story and help them identify a next step that will help them look more like Jesus.
Key Behaviors of a Guide
Start by Listening Well
It's amazing what a simple “How are you?” can open the door for. And you’ll see more fruit in the conversation the better you listen. To listen well, you need 3 main components:
The best way to develop these skills is to participate in Listening Training. Or, freshen up on them with this video.Sign up for Listening Training
Learn from Their Story
Get to know the person you’re guiding. Let them get to know you.
Share stories with each other early. It’s best if you model if first, and then listen for theirs. Consider the time you have available. If you’re grabbing coffee, maybe it’s a 20-minute version. If you’re just chatting on the phone, try to share in five minutes. If it’s been a while since you’ve shared your story with someone, or you’ve never tried, grab coffee with a friend and role play. Each person takes a turn and gets feedback.
Elements of your story to share:
Now, listen to their story. As you’re listening, ask the Holy Spirit to point out parts of their story He wants to focus on. Listen with a discerning ear* to hear what God might be saying is the right next step for them.
If after listening to someone’s story, you’re still not sure what the right next step is for someone, leverage Wayfinder . This is a tool everyone should use annually as an invitation from God to hear where he wants you to grow.What is Wayfinder?
How to use Wayfinder
Leading someone through Wayfinder
We have tons of leader resources available for you to use. Seriously, this stuff is gold .
Life is messy, and Guides are on the front lines of supporting some of the hardest things people experience. Here’s some tools for navigating these challenging topics. Your main job as a Guide, is just to listen and respond with warmth, respect and empathy. These scriptures are just here to support you.
Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up. Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone?
- Ecclesiastes 4:9
Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.
- Genesis 2:24
Links & moreWeddings
I want you to be free from anxieties. The unmarried man is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to please the Lord. But the married man is anxious about worldly things, how to please his wife, and his interests are divided. And the unmarried or betrothed woman is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to be holy in body and spirit. But the married woman is anxious about worldly things, how to please her husband. I say this for your own benefit, not to lay any restraint upon you, but to promote good order and to secure your undivided devotion to the Lord.
- 1 Corinthians 7:32-35
And I will betroth you to me forever. I will betroth you to me in righteousness and in justice, in steadfast love and in mercy. I will betroth you to me in faithfulness. And you shall know the Lord.
- Hosea 2:19-20
Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.
- Proverbs 22:6
Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior are the children of one's youth. Blessed is the man who fills his quiver with them! He shall not be put to shame when he speaks with his enemies in the gate.
- Psalm 127:3-5
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This is such a unique topic and every situation is different. Talk to Scott Dill, John Grooms, or email@example.com to better understand how to serve you and the person you’re guiding
The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.
- Psalm 34:18
For no one is cast off by the Lord forever. Though he brings grief, he will show compassion, so great is his unfailing love. For he does not willingly bring affliction or grief to anyone.
- Lamentations 3:31-33
Links & moreGrief group
So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them.
- Genesis 1:27
Have we not all one Father? Has not one God created us? Why then are we faithless to one another, profaning the covenant of our fathers?
- Malachi 2:10
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This produces deep wounds. You might need additional support walking through this with someone. Connect with the Community Care team for additional resourcing.
When you go through deep waters, I will be with you. When you go through rivers of difficulty, you will not drown. When you walk through the fire of oppression, you will not be burned up; the flames will not consume you. For I am the Lord, your God.
- Isaiah 43:2-3
I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.
- John 16:33
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Childhood Sexual Trauma (not currently running)
Beauty for Ashes (not currently running)
No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it.
- 1 Corinthians 10:13
For we do not have a high priest who is unable to empathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are—yet he did not sin. Let us then approach God’s throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.
- Hebrews 4:15-16
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My comfort in my suffering is this: Your promise preserves my life.
- Psalm 119:50
Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope. And hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit, who has been given to us.
- Romans 5:3-5
Links & moreTalk Apointment
Surely he took up our pain and bore our suffering, yet we considered him punished by God, stricken by him, and afflicted. But he was pierced for our transgressions, he was crushed for our iniquities; the punishment that brought us peace was on him, and by his wounds we are healed.
- Isaiah 53:4-5
But I will restore you to health and heal your wounds,’ declares the LORD.
- Jeremiah 30:17
Come to me, all of you who are tired from carrying heavy loads, and I will give you rest.Take my yoke and put it on you, and learn from me, because I am gentle and humble in spirit; and you will find rest. For the yoke I will give you is easy, and the load I will put on you is light.
- Matthew 11:28-30
But if any of you lack wisdom, you should pray to God, who will give it to you; because God gives generously and graciously to all.
- James 1:5
Groups / Community
And let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works, not neglecting to meet together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another, and all the more as you see the Day drawing near.
- Hebrews 10:24-25
Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another.
- Proverbs 27:17
Links & moreGroups
What if I don’t hear back from a group leader?
Email firstname.lastname@example.org with the Group you’re trying to join. We’ll help you connect.
What if the group I need isn’t in session?
It might just be in between seasons. Other resources like Talk Appointments, counselors, different types of groups can help in the meantime. If you’re unsure, email email@example.com.
Direction and Purpose
And your ears shall hear a word behind you, saying, “This is the way, walk in it,” when you turn to the right or when you turn to the left.
- Isaiah 30:21
“Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives, and the one who seeks finds, and to the one who knocks it will be opened.
- Matthew 7:7-8
Finally, be strong in the Lord and in the strength of his might. Put on the whole armor of God, that you may be able to stand against the schemes of the devil. For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the cosmic powers over this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places.
- Ephesians 6:10-12
Let love be genuine. Abhor what is evil; hold fast to what is good. Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor. Do not be slothful in zeal, be fervent in spirit, serve the Lord. Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer. Contribute to the needs of the saints and seek to show hospitality.
- Romans 12:9-13
Hearing from God
Call to me and I will answer you, and will tell you great and hidden things that you have not known.
- Jeremiah 33:3
To him the gatekeeper opens. The sheep hear his voice, and he calls his own sheep by name and leads them out. When he has brought out all his own, he goes before them, and the sheep follow him, for they know his voice.
- John 10:3-4
Fear / Worry / Anxiety
Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.
- Philippians 4:6
Generosity / Money
Bring the whole tithe into the storehouse, that there may be food in my house. Test me in this,” says the LORD Almighty, “and see if I will not throw open the floodgates of heaven and pour out so much blessing that there will not be room enough to store it.
- Malachi 3:10
Judge not, and you will not be judged; condemn not, and you will not be condemned; forgive, and you will be forgiven; give, and it will be given to you. Good measure, pressed down, shaken together, running over, will be put into your lap. For with the measure you use it will be measured back to you.
- Luke 6:37-38
The tithe is established in the Old Testament ( Gen 14:20, Gen 28:20-22 , Deut 26:1-2 , 2 Chron 31:4-5 ), and is reaffirmed by Jesus ( Luke 11:42 ). Tithing means giving the first 10% of your gross income to your local church. Why gross income? Because the principle of the tithe is that the first and best 10% of your income goes to God. In ancient times that may have been in the form of crops or livestock. Today that comes in the form of money. Giving off of net means the government is getting your first, not God. Further, those who tithe understand that God blesses the tithe, and quite honestly, we’d rather see God bless our gross income instead of settling for him blessing our net.
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A huge challenge at Crossroads is that we have so many things available, it’s hard to know which is best for what person. This is your one-stop-shop. It’ll be updated every season. Hear someone’s story first and keep it relational. Reference this when you get stuck.
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